SHOULD I BREAK UP WITH HIM?? PLS READ.... pls........?

Question

My ex and I were together for 4 years... broke up for a year... and got back together just about a month and a half ago.... ive been terribly scared that he's the same insensitive double-minded person so i set too much reservations.... then we talked things out and in time i saw how devoted he is now... and how he really need us to be together... how he's changed and how he's working things out between us and in just one month time.... im beginning to trust him fully again....

for 2weeks already we've been planning on going out to the beach.... then just tonight on a friend's party we were at he said he can't come anymore with me to the beach.... and i was taken aback by what he said so i just turned my back and did my stuff..... i felt that he's doing it again.... inconsistencies... broken promises.... like the whole past was coming back.... then together with our friends we walked out of the party place and then he just went home no goodbyes whatever.........
should i break up?

Answer 1

i would say YES break up........ seems like ur the only person working so hard for this relationship to work.... you deserve a man who is more sincere..... or has some sincereity at all..

Im sure you will find more happiness in a new realtionship... and you shouldnt have to work so hard to obtain that happiness.. he will see how much he has lost when u are gone from his life, but he deserves to feel it.... and u need to move on without getting back with him....

Goodluck and best wishes to u.....Im sure you'll find the happiness ur so deserving of...


And dont expect a man to change..... if he really does care he wouldnt do the things that he knows from prior experience that hurt you..... Its better to put ur effort and time into a new relationship..... and until that relationship comes..... enjoy ur single life and ur freedom.... cuz know one deserves ur time more than urself....dont go looking for love.....it will come to u when ready..for the meantime enjoy.....

Answer 2

men will drive us crazy if we let them. If it was his inconsistencies that broke you up in the first place and you're noticing that same pattern then I would say no, he hasn't changed. But whether that is a good enough reason for breaking up when you obviously love him is another story. Do you question why or what he's doing when he changes your plans so suddenly or is he just a fickle minded person in general, again that can be annoying but not exactly break up material. If on the other hand it is an underlying trust issue, then just nip it in the bud and move on- and please give him more than two weeks before you let your guard back down if he has hurt you once already. Hope this helps

Answer 3

Oh dear, there's a old saying, "Leopards never change their spots", and thats about exactly where you are at with this man. Of course he was being different when you first reunited with him, he has no guidelines in his life and very irresponsible, you broke up once, why do you think he will change when you made it so easy for him to win you back again. NO, he wont change because you and him are not meant to be together, he is just hanging around because he has no real meaning in his life yet. Dont waste your time on this 'jerk', get yourself out there, you will find someone that has the same ideals in life as you do. Respect and trust. Life is too short to waste. Good Luch

Answer 4

First of all I would find out what the problems is when going to the beach. See when you break up with some one you have to talk things over, Find out what caused the relationship to break a part the first time.Their is something going on there that he is not please with. The key to a good relationship is communication.May be he does not want to get into the same routine he was in before you both broke up the first time. Maybe he wants a clean start with every thing. New friends and everything. Talk it out before you break up again.

Answer 5

What is his problem, he has you like a yo-yo, something is bothering him, something more is happening and he is not telling you. Why wouldn't he want to go to the beach. why would he leave the party without you and don't even say good buy. They don't make such a drastic change so quickly, and all those internal feeling are going to come back when he does things like this. You are headed for the same dissapointments. Make a wise decision, it seems like you already know what is instored. Just be strong and make the right decision.

Answer 6

This man is wishy-washy!
If I truly loved somebody, She would always come first!!
I was married for 18 years. I'm now recently divorced because she did some bad things!
I tried to work things out but she returned to her old petty selfish ways and I just couldn't go through the pain again!

People don't change overnight! Think with your heart! You already have doubts or you wouldn't be asking this question, wright?

There are millions of men out there who are willing to give you the love and respect you deserve!
Don't sell yourself short! Move on before you get hurt again!!!

Good Luck and if you know any females looking for a 43 year old divorcee, let me know! I really need somebody to give my love and devotion to!

Answer 7

ALL PEOPLE!!! If you have to ask this question for more then a week, "should i break up or not" just do it. if your not married just MOVE on. It won't work out in the end when half the time your thinking about leaving anyway. AND NEVER EVER get back together with someone, you have already explored this one, try a new one.

Answer 8

hi dear friend i know its difficult for u espacilly if u'r in love however love shouldnt be the only backbone for a long relationship trust mutuall respect & devotion are essential to make things easier if u dont trust someone this means u will remain in dought this means that ur life will be even much more miserable i think it all depends on u are u welling to suffer for along time than stay with him u wanna cut ur losses break up u'll face terrible time but i'm sure u'll find somone else to love u & somone to take care of ur needs as well as his own.

Answer 9

He'll never change. People will put on the show you want to see, when you want to see it. They will do whatever it takes to win you for the time being. Yeah, some people can change, but this one isn't going to be the one. Accept his behavior as it really is or yes , move on with your life. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Have a serious talk with him. Ask him about the beach. There may be a good reason. Lay down some boundaries re: old behavior and current consequences. Good luck.