How do I secretly break up someones relationship?
One of my friends is going out with someone who is always getting suspended and he smokes and that.I don't think he is a good influence on her.I want to do it secretly because if I break up their relationship with no cover she will probably hate me for it even though I try to explain to her that it is in her best interests.
Help me out here please!!!
2007-05-17 23:26:57 · 7 answers · asked by janeilhomeblack 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't try to break up your friends relationship, the only thing you can do is voice your concerns about it and be there for her during the times in her relationship good and bad, support her in her decisions, she will have to be the one who makes the decision to break up with him and see what is wrong in the relationship for herself but only she can make a choice on whether she wants to remain in the relationship or not.....
2007-05-18 10:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let them make their own decisions. Believe me I am a parent of a teen, I know it is hard when someone you know is bad dating someone you care about. You really have to look at this differently. What is he suspended for? If it's nothing violent or drugs, then I wouldn't worry. (there are worse people out there, like drug addicts, rapists, guys who beat their girlfriends.) I know it's not the answers you want to hear. DO you know this guypersonally? Maybe get to know him, see what he's really about. I smoked all through highschool, I wasn't a bad person then.
2007-05-17 23:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not go through life protecting her. Just ask her questions like-- How much money do you think he will make when he grows up without a decent education? Do you think that he may end up being a garbage man or what? That smoke smell in your clothes smells like a dirty ashtray. How is ______, has he gotten arrested yet?
She wil get the hint, but you still can't make her decisions for her. Just be there for her when she ends up needing your support.
2007-05-17 23:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is in no way your place. Leave it to your friend to make their own decisions and be a friend and be supportive of it. Live your own life. The best you can do is voice your concerns to your friend. Period.
2007-05-17 23:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet_RN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got no right whatsoever! Put yourself in her shoes and think about it!
The BEST thing to do, is to tell your friend how much you love her, and your reservations over this guy. Then let HER herself do it if she sees the sense in what you saying.
2007-05-17 23:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Afro Den 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would have to say to just bite the bullet and just hang out with both of them as much as you can, and let your friend find out what kind of person he really is on her own..........good luck
2007-05-17 23:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send an annonymous letter to her parents telling them what he is like......hahahahaha!!!!
2007-05-17 23:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by furby f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋