You have given up so much of your own time and so much effort into trying to help other people, yet all you get is critisism and abuse? Even when you've been totally open minded.
Should I carry on helping and ignore the things being said? Or just forget helping them and move on?
2007-05-17 19:27:10 · 8 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Nobody deserves to be critisised and or abused and that includes you. There will be always people in the world that can't say a nice thing to anyone, so you have to work out if it's worth it for you to continue to help these ungreatful people.
2007-05-17 19:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if this were me I would be asking myself why I was helping these people.Was I helping them so they could overcome some problem or was I simply helping them so I would feel better about myself.There is no easy answer and you must find a balance between the two answers.A caring person cannot just shut off that aspect of their personality.Continue to do the right thing and accept the fact that not everyone is going to want your advice or your input. Some people perceive needing help as a sign of weakness or unsolicited advice as butting in.Listen to the lyrics to the Garth Brooks song "The Change". This song says it all. Take care.
2007-05-18 08:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some peole don't like when others try to help people because they themselves don't want to put forth the effort. It makes them feel small. They will try and sabatoge you, put you down, make what you do seem bad or meaningless, this allows them to continue ont heir path of nonaction and feel ok.
If helping others makes you feel good, why stop. I try everyday to change the world by smiling at a stranger, you don't know what that simple smile will do for them, it could change their whole day around.
You have been given a gift, use it to it's full potential. There will always be roadblocks like those full of negativity to stand in your way, know that they are just bitter people and let it roll off your back. Never forget helping people, because without people like you that want to help those who need help will fall through the cracks.
2007-05-18 23:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by SheSpawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you help other people for yourself or others? Don't stop. You've given it time and a part of yourself. You know you wouldn't be happy or content if you stopped doing it. People always talk. Its either good or bad. You stop and they'll still be talking. That's what people do. Don't let them change your life. Don't give them the right to. Do what you want to do and let people say what they want to.
2007-05-18 03:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you help wherever you can and never mind the negativity. Your reward will not always be found in other peoples approval. But, make sure you are helping where your help is needed, and from the heart, and that you are not acting out of your own selfish motives or the need to be needed.
2007-05-18 02:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by jalucia2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat. My friends like to use me for anything from babysitting their kids to ripping me off. I keep asking myself if I am a loser but I don't believe I am. I don't don't know what to say. I have the same question.
2007-05-18 02:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Friv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do good things always.
Do one good act a day.
Always be ready to help some one.
they will say something or other ,
let them say it.
It`d their duty,
You do your duty.
In "INDIA",there is one say,
DO GOOD ACTS AND THROUGH IT IN POND .
2007-05-18 02:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jacky.- the "INDIAN". 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus do good things tht will help u in future .
2007-05-18 02:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by s.d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋