quick question.. please don't judge, just answer what you think?

Question

Ok I think I may be pregnant, but not for sure yet (I haven't taken a pregnancy test but I will)
On April 13 the day after my period ended, I slept with my ex boyfriend who came to visit. We did not use protection (i know we should have). A week after that, I slept with a different boy and I have slept with him about 3 times but I have used protection each time. If I am pregnant, do you think there is a greater chance that it would be by my ex or the other guy since my ex and I didn't use a condom but me and the other guy did? I know noone knows for sure but I was just wanting opinions. Is there any way to count the dates? I really hope that I'm not, because I would hate to have to go through this since I slept with the two guys so close together. Help, please!

I just want it to be known that I am an adult, and I do realize the risks of sleeping with more than one person (or anyone for that matter). My ex and I were together at the time and in a monogomous relationship and had been for the past 4 years. I am also on birth control but I know that is not always foul-proof. I have no excuses for the other guy but I was smart enough to protect myself (I realize that is not 100% either) I am not concerned with the child having a father because I know either would be there for the child if it were theirs. No offense, but I am really not interested in people judging my behaivor or character because I already realize I made a mistake. Thank you.

Answer 1

If you got pregnant the first guy would be your best bet. Since you had unprotected sex with him the sperm had a greater chance of surviving. Most condoms contain spermicides to help kill any sperm that happen to get out. I would suggest finding out soon if you're pregnant, and if it so I would look into costs of paternity tests, you'll most likely want to know who the father is. Then again, if you're sure that one of the guys will take care of the child regardless of whether it's theirs or not then you may not want to know. But it would still be best to help out with family history that may cause problems later on.

Also, To all of the people who decide that they wish to answer this question just to be assholes, you're the ones that need to do some growing up. She did not ask you to be rude, just to answer the question she was not looking for your personal opinions of her, just what you thought the chances of her situation are. Come on people...Use that "Thumper Rule". (For those of you not familiar with Bambi "If you can't say anything nice, Don't say anything at all.")

Answer 2

I think the second guy has strong possibilities if ovulation period is taken into consideration I think there was a hole in the condom or something or the other happened but yes as each n everyones body is different ur ex can't b ruled out since u didn't not use any kinda protection so it's a very dicey situation one which totally depends for u to start worrying when u test positive..I say go get tested for ur pregnancy and then start worrying why worry unnecessarily now it's no use screwing ur head up at this point. Wats happened has happened ur an adult so just think of this......1 .) if ur really pregnant then are u ready to keep the baby. 2.) if u keep the baby then are u going to raise with his rightful father if so then u need to get a DNA testing done and u will also have to talk with both the guys explaining the situation. 3.) Abortion which is only if ur not ready to raise a child on ur own and also if u cannot bring it up with good values it's important as ur bringing in a new life in the world u have to be responsible for him/her. 4.) Adoption I will not be suggesting this for I will say better u not bring a child to suffer in this world adoption is good when people want kids but the child somehow bears the problem when it starts growing up. It's my opinion but I wish u luck so that u can be a better judge of bringing the unborn/unconceived child in this world.

This is a experience for u in future to be careful if ur not pregnant then u have been excused of the unwanted pain also the child will be excused of misery.

Take care and try to be more alert next time. Having sex is not bad but being sensible never did hurt.

Answer 3

you probably are not preg if you are on birth control however it does happen. i would tend to think that it would be your ex just because you didn't use protection. also knowing how long your period lasted would be helpful basically you get pregnant on day 14 and sperm can live 5-7 days. the day that you started your period is day 1. however if you are on birth control day 1 would be the first day of your sugar pills. but being that you would be ovulating despite being on birth control it could have happened at anytime. the only real way to know is to have the baby tested after it is born. if i were you i would talk to the ex and tell him that you are pregnant(if you in fact are) but that you slept with someone else but that you used protection so it is 99% his and that you want him to be there for you. and tell guy number 2 that you are pregnant and that you are pretty sure it isn't his seeing as you used protection but that you are going to have the probable father tested after the baby is born and you may need to contact him. that way they both have heads up and wont feel lied to latter. be prepared that they may not be happy with you and it may take them time to come around. ok and about the moral aspect of this you are an adult you were with a boyfriend things didn't work out and you moved on weather it was a relationship or just a fling you protected yourself.

Answer 4

If you know your cycles then you ovulate 14 days before the first day of your next period so, unless you cycle is only 14 days long, its unlikely you "ex" could have got you pregnant.
What contraceptive method did you use with the second boy?
If you used condoms and there was no breakage, or slip off, then there is less than a one percent chance that you are pregnant from him either. However if you touched the semen in the condom (or he did) and then touched you intimately, then its possible, but unlikely.
If you and the new boyfriend relied on withdrawal as a contraceptive method (not reliable at all), its possible your pregnant. The "pre-come" carries sperm too.
If you have just started the contraceptive pill, you would not be covered for the first month either, so could be pregnant, unless using another method as well.

Why borrow trouble? Get the test done, and find out for sure one way or the other.
And please take care of yourself.

Answer 5

I don't think you need to hear the speech about how what you did was very careles.....I'm sure you know that...so let's deal with the problem at hand : )

Ovulation usually occurs about 2 weeks (rough estimate, but approximate) before your period is due again. It's not likely but possible that you can get pregnant just after your period. I would wait it out before you get your mind all up in a tizzy.

Another thing, not likely but possible is that the guy you slept with and used the protection with STILL could have gotten you pregnant. But I think the obvious is that the one you DIDN'T use protection with would be.

To avoid all the problems you should really get on birth control. Having sex with multiple partners is definitely your choice, but at least be more careful and protect yourself. Get on birth control like the pill or something, and make them wear a condom for DOUBLE protection.

Like I said, no sense in getting your mind all worked up. Save that for when your pregnancy test comes back positive. **Remember that periods aren't always regular. I know sometimes mine come about every 26-28 days, then sometimes it jumps to 31. So there is hope after all.

Answer 6

There is no specific way to count and tell whose child you are pregnant with. Especially at this point of time. However, should you have a good memory this may help. The best way to find out is through the discharge/ mucus that your body lets out. When you are capable of conceiving, the body lets out a sticky mucus. DO you remember when was this? It can within 3 days of the discharge.

Answer 7

My money would be on your ex as I knew a girl that used to fall pregnant straight after her period every body is different if you are pregnant book in for an ultrasound at 11wks pregnant your radiographer measures how long the embryo is as every embryo grows at the same rate up until a certain point this is how they predict the estimated due date you could then count backwards 40 wks from your estimated due date to roughly work out the day you conceived.
Hope this helps.
Good luck with the outcome!

Answer 8

That's a hard one, ya with the first guy you didn't use protection but the dates aren't favorable for ovulation. And the second guy you did and the dates were probably closer to ovulation. There's a site you can go to called mymonthlycycles.com and use the ovulation calculate to get an idea of when you may have been fertile.

Answer 9

In general the condom is 90-98% effective as contraception.
That is if it is made out of latex.
http://www.condoms4all.com/stats.htm


Most home pregnancy tests miss early pregnancy

By Alison McCookLast Updated: 2004-02-10 14:40:03 -0400 (Reuters Health)

NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - The majority of home pregnancy tests do not detect most pregnancies if used within the first day or two of a missed period, new research indicates.

Despite the fact that many tests say they can be used on the first day of a woman's missed period, investigators at the University of New Mexico at Albuquerque found that, among 18 tests, only one - First Response, Early Result - appeared to be sensitive enough to detect pregnancy in at least 95 percent of women on the first day of their missed periods.
http://www.sutterhealth.org/health/healthinfo/reutershome_top.cfm?fx=article&id=15678

I wish you the best sweetie. Take care and please talk to someone for support.
Hugs,
Michelle

Answer 10

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