He has been using me for years I feel bad and want to get away from him he talks to his wife while we are together am I a idiot?? Pls help
2007-05-17 18:20:02 · 30 answers · asked by sxy+brains 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bite him next time. Seriously, just stop answering his calls. Don't be available. Find a man who appreciates all of your talents, not just that one.
2007-05-17 18:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by adrianne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether a guy will dump his girl if she doesn't give him oral is the wrong way of looking at it. What really is important is that you and your partner are compatible sexually, with similar interests and similar comfort zones. So if one partner likes oral sex, and the other doesn't, you can't say that one is "right" and the other is "wrong", the couple is simply not compatible. The best way to find out if you're compatible sexually, is by having sex, so I'm an advocate of pre-marital sex. You can learn a lot about your partner by talking, and if you two are compatible in all other walks of life, chances are you will be compatible in bed too. But you're taking a risk if you get married without knowing that you will be compatible in bed. And no, oral sex is not unsanitary for people with normal hygiene, who have the courtesy of washing before doing it. You have a lot more germs in your mouth than on your private parts. Oral sex or no oral sex is a personal choice you make as a couple, and whether it is good or bad really is up to them.
2016-05-22 02:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake...well, years of the same mistake but that does not make you an idiot. You know you should not be with him...you don't need to be told that. You need to find someone who has more respect for women than to cheat on someone who he has committed to, and you should learn from this mistake.
Time is a harsh...you can never go back and change the mistakes you have made, you have to live with those. But you do have today and tomorrow and all the days after that to be a better person. Do what you know is right, leave the guy, and build your self-esteem. You're not an idiot, but you need to take your mistakes and learn from them.
2007-05-17 18:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't an idiot but you are in the wrong.. Put yourself in the wife's position and think about how it would make you feel to have this done to you? As for getting away from the man, just simply stop seeing him, if he is cheating on his wife and has been for years it just shows what kind of man he is.. Don't let yourself be used, be strong and walk away. You will feel much better about yourself once you have put this "relationship" behind you and find someone that is yours and only yours..Good luck and God bless you..
2007-05-17 18:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by brunette_godiva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not an idiot. Maybe just a girl with really low self-esteem. Why don't you feel you can do any better than a married man who treats you like crap? He's an idiot. You need to cut off all communication with him. Don't see him anymore. And for goodness' sake....go see a counselor and work on loving yourself before you try to hook up with another guy.
2007-05-17 19:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. You are taking the first step to get out of a relationship that is not going anywhere.
Now , just ask yourself.. is that the relationship you want for the rest of your life? I guess it is not.
I know it is hard to do but you have to be strong and you'll need some friends to get thru this time too.
I am sure you know what to do, you just need the courage to do it.
You can start by not inviting him over ... not answering the phone and let him know that you have decided you are a better person and you need your happiness. Tell him you are breaking up with him and you want him out of your life. He'll tell you 100 lies but do not change your mind ... instead change the locks in your home.. Call your friends.. stay over at their place.. avoid contacting him. He'll get the hint.
Good luck
2007-05-17 18:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by alfredo1967 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In the sick mind of a cheating man, they actually believe that giving and receiving oral sex is not actually cheating because they didn't have intercourse.
This guy does not respect you, he has his cake and is eating it to. You need to just tell him you are no longer going to be used because you like yourself too much. It will be hard, but hang out with friends and family and be tough, it will get easier. Good luck....
2007-05-17 19:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Shabby_Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are allowing yourself to be used next time he is on the phone with his wife and with you say " oh honey " real loud. Or bite the wienie. Go get some counseling cuz he is never leaving his wife for you.
2007-05-17 18:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, don't let yourself be used anymore. I don't know why you allow yourself to be used like this, but you should definitely cut off this relationship and demand respect for yourself. Perhaps you should also - and this is meant as friendly advice, not mean in any way - see a therapist about this.
2007-05-17 18:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of it, and raise your standards. Yes, he is using you and you allow it. Tell him it is over, and change your number if need be. If he shows up at your door tell him to leave or you will call the police. Do not open your door! He will get the message! Be firm and don't send mixed messages!!!!
2007-05-17 18:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by RT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. You shouldn't have been with him in the first place. If a person is married that means they are off limits.
2007-05-17 19:59:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋