I've been with my husband for 11 years now. I admit that i've never really been in love with him, i married my best frient and my alter ego (which he still is). Hes the only person id ever truly loved till half a year ago when i met that "other man" who i fell in love with and who i believe is my one true love. I think we could be a perfectly happy couple but there's a problem. My husband suffers from depression, has no friends or family and im scared even to think of what might happen to him if i left him. Several times it proved that i'm the only thing that keeps him alive in this world. I love him and i dont want to hurt him or anything to happen to him. On the other hand, it just doesnt seem right to lose your true love just like that. I know that i only have 2 options here. My "other man" says that he would support me whatever choice i made. What do u think? What would u do? Pls make your comment factual, not emotional if it's possible. Thank u!
2007-05-17 18:06:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It doesn't sound like your husband is much of a partner. He is depressed and has no friends. How much fun can he be to live with? Don't throw your life away on him.
2007-05-17 20:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit confused..you married your best friend ( and most people love their best friends ) .. but you just now met a guy that you fell in love with 9 rather quickly ) ..
All i can tell you to do is, follow your heart. It will hurt your husband more to find out that you love another man but stayed with him ..anyway it goes, you are hurting him..yes, even right now you are hurting him just by loving another man and not being completely honest with him.
Why drag it out, it will be less pain full to tell the truth now, instead of dragging it out and making the hurt even more pain full by deceiving the guy you are currently married to.
Only you can make the decision, but be fair to both you and your current husband and don't lie to yourself or him.
he will be hurt but will move on, offer to get him to some counseling if your worried about him doing something harm full to himself, mentally or physically..
2007-05-17 18:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It comes on human beings in diverse techniques some in simple terms dont grieve some grieve for a lengthy era of time and some for a short6 time it relies upon on the guy you may discover as time is going on she'll start up to grieve further and further.
2016-11-04 07:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth are you talking about? First you say you never really loved him. And then you you he's the only person you've ever loved. How long do you expect to love your "other man
one true love"? If you try showing your husband the love and comfort a mate deserves, perhaps he wont be so depressed.
Are you familiar with 'til death do us part'?
You're not losing your mind...merely being immature, thoughtless, and selfish. Please seek some professional counseling.
2007-05-17 18:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u should do what ever u think is good for u .
and it seems like u are ready made up ur mind.
if u are going to leave your husband then just tell him that
u will always be there for him. i think that's the only thing u
can do for him. well as for me i think i would fallow my heart
and i think u should do the same don't u.
2007-05-17 18:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must not love him enough if you are willing to go out on him with another man, so leave him and if he dies from his depression you can deal with the guilt for being so selfish.
2007-05-17 18:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How would it affect him to catch you being unfaithful? Because that's inevitable if you continue on this course. Get him some therapy and meds, then see if he's stable enough to take the blow.
2007-05-17 18:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by adrianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the statements that you've put down you sound rather selfish and your present husband would probably be better off if you moved on. no offense intended.
2007-05-17 18:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said u love ur husband & u even said dat ur other man is ready 2 support u in every way so waats more stay with ur husband
2007-05-17 18:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by bugs 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Blah Blah Blah!
You have already lost your mind in my opinion!
LOL
2007-05-17 18:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋