I am still in love with my ex. We haven't been together for almost 6 years now. We got engaged at an early age...19...then he joined the army and everything fell apart between us. We both hurt eachother very badly. We kept in contact and were off and on for a few years but the trust was broken, and he wasn't around to work it out, because of being in the military. 2 years ago he met someone where he is stationed and got married after they were together for about a year. Now his wife is pregnant. I have a boyfriend who treats me great, and we've been together about a year and a half. i would go 6 months without talking to my ex at all, and I still thought about him every single day. I tried to move on and push him out of my heart but to no avail. We started talking again about 9 months ago and realized we still love eachother. Last weekend he was home and we hung out, both behind our partner's backs. It was extremely emotional and we did get physical but no sex. What do I do??
2007-05-17 17:52:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me I would feel completely awful if either my boyfriend or his wife found out. I don't want to hurt anyone. I have tried to put myself in her shoes many times and I would be pissed if my husband acted this way. I tried for a long time to just be his friend. I tried not talking to him. I wish I had a switch to just turn off my feelings but it's been 6 years! I don't know what else to try!
2007-05-17 18:06:52 · update #1
I personally believe no matter how hard it is you have got to move on atleast for right now. I understand you may love him but don't be the reason he ends it with the pregnant wife, let him do that on his own & you too. If it's meant to be I believe it will. Right now you both need to handle your business on your own & then try to make something work. If his love for you is true then you should not have to worry about him handling this on his own. I just would make sure that I am not putting myself in the other woman position, to think he's going home to his wife & baby with no intention of really leaving!!!! THAT WOULD SUCK !
2007-05-17 18:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by lady j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you need to think about what it is you want to do, also the risk of what you're doing could have some terrible affects on other peoples lives. Plus, he has a child coming into the equation. I think both of you should probably not deal with each other for a while, if at all. You have both moved on. However, if you all are willing to take this risk then good luck. What makes you think that the relationship will be any better this time around.....
2007-05-17 17:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both in a difficult situation...both contemplating the what ifs ...but the bottom line is you both didn't have it when you needed it..and life will still put some kind of distance between yourselves...whether it be miles or emotions..and you both have proved neither can handle such moments faithfully....so why ruin whats good now...not to mention he has a child and a wife...what kind of man is he that would do that to his family...its a hint what he could do when given the opportunity...think hard and long about this before making any kind of reconciliation with him...good luck.
2007-05-17 18:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i guess it's easy to run away with different people all the time but it's not easy to be a man or a woman but then there are only some real men and real wome, If you want to see the virtue your made of , You try to make one woman, (that's your wife) happy, If you can't do that then your lying to yourself, You want what you don't have or seemingly can't have.risky. If you had matured you wouldn't have to cheat because you'd be happy. marriage is work,for better or worse, your on the worst side right now, contact yourself through whichever real contact you can make with yourself and grow into a man you'll be happier and less confused. You can't fight the change but your making it harder on yourself
2016-05-22 02:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong of you to desire a man that is already married.
Doesn't matter if he is your ex or not. He is a married man,
with a child on the way. Stop!! before alot of innocent people get hurt. All you have to do is put yourself in his wives shoes. How would you feel? Need i say more?
Move on with your life, let him move on futher in his life.
Better cherish the man you have, another good man may not come along...
God bless.
2007-05-17 18:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just try to let him go. Just think how you'd feel if you were his wife and pregnant well he is off with another girl. You'd feel horrible trust me i've been through that situation. There is a reason you are not together. He's just straying because his wife his pregnant and getting alittle larger than he's used to. I'd suggest you just tell him its over.
2007-05-17 17:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by militaryg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing in this but future heart ache for u, a mans past is a great predictor of what he will do in the future. just what do u hope to make out of this? your trying to fix something u can't fix, no one can go back into the past it never works out. this man will not bring u peace, this is more about your ego, and boosting it. any happiness from this will certainly be short lived, if your smart u will end this, and think of his wife the new baby and your present man.
2007-05-17 23:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
(*&%&$#^^^%#$# or get off the pot because people are geting hurt!...How would you like someone to do that to you! Sometimes we need to let go because it's the right thing to do. If you and your ex don't agree on what to do then I guess it means you two are making your own rules. Realize the dishonesty and do you realy love someone who cheats? And do you think he loves someone who cheats?...This is a no brainer!...GET SINGLE...FIND YOURSELF....THEN A GOOD THING COULD BE YOURS!...But this aint a good thing now is it?
2007-05-17 18:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you need to stop playing games, this is not good for
any one, time for both of you to live in the present, not the
past. there are other people invovled in this beside the two
of you. time to grow up and do what is right for everyone
involved. leave him along and move on because at the
end this,you might end up by your self. why you are
playing these games.
2007-05-17 17:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex who is married is cheating - who's to say that he won't cheat on you.
You said that your bf is great, so why are you risking that for someone that just might want a bit on the side but to keep his wife.
2007-05-17 17:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋