i have this friend of mine and we really like each other... but the thing that complicates our feelings are my parents. my parents always decides for me in a lot of things... and this time i want to decide for myself... and i really love this guy.. we both love each other... is it possible to fight for our love even if means i'm going to disobey my parents? is it wrong for me to take the risk?
2007-05-17 17:47:40 · 11 answers · asked by icey27choco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
is it wrong for me to think that " parents can decide for a lot of things but they can't decide for your heart"?
2007-05-17 17:48:45 · update #1
Are you underage and living in your parents' house, eating their food, etc.? If so, you might want to listen to them because (1) they are doing their job in watching out for you, even if they are not seeing the love you feel and (2) it's good to respect people who keep you warm and fed.
Why do you have to fight for your love? I think that parents are really happy when they see their kids in healthy relationships. Are you guys doing things that would naturally worry parents (like staying out all night, drugs, bad grades, you know the list)? If so, cut them a break they are doing their job. If you are a model student and young citizen and they are just control freaks, hang in there until you are out on your own. You'll enjoy the freedom.
Don't take a risk - don't disobey. It's dishonest. Negotiate a little with them. Parents were designed to frustrate us - hang in there.
2007-05-24 14:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Grob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk with your parents first. Let them know your feelings are sincere and not just "puppy love".
Present the possibility of having him over for a game night with your parents so they can get to know him better, they may change their minds and let you have a little more freedom.
Remember, your parents are trying to protect you. Look at it from their perspective and try to understand their feelings as well as your own.
2007-05-18 00:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by wvpackerfan68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to answer your question without some hard facts...like how old you are and how old your BF is.....I mean if you are 18 and under and you are living in your parents house and they are funding everything you kinda do have to do what they say....if you are over 18 and your parents are still funding you, well then you either get out on your own and do your own thing or live under their rule......if you are on your own what does it matter what your parents think...I mean yeah they are your parents but it is what makes you happy and what feels right to you, that you need to listen to.
2007-05-18 00:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't let your parents decide everything that you wanted. You need your own choise. But it doesn't mean you have to disobey your parents. Discuss it with your parents, that you wanted to be with him because you love him. I'm sure your parent will understand!
2007-05-18 00:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by cdlaftqm0607 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents always think you should learn from there mistakes but you shouldnt you should learn from ya own they cant stop you from goin out with him its your life they can have there say but its yor choice you need to talk to your parents. whats the worst that could happen?
2007-05-25 15:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really enough info there,Hun. Generally, You should obey your parents (Assuming you are under 18). They have your best interests at heart.
2007-05-18 01:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if ur a kid under 18 then listen to ur parents. if ur not why the heck r u asking this question.
2007-05-24 10:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by nicnac1185 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS YOUR LIFE AND YOUR PARENTS CANT LIVE IT FOR YOU. YOU MUST BE TRUE TO YOUR OWN SELF. IF THEY DO NT LIKE YOUR DECISION, YOU HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT NOT THEM. I DO NT WISH TO SOUND MEAN, BUT ITS YOUR LIFE LIVE IT AND LET THEM SUCK IT UP AND DEAL WITH IT!
2007-05-25 11:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by FRANK THE HAMMER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to disrespect your parents, but you should follow your
heart. and hopefully they will understand.........
2007-05-25 19:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you, are you 13 or something?
If you're scared go to church. :)
hope i've helped
2007-05-18 00:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by limegreenrox4sure 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋