My husband and I have been together for seven years and It seems like every year I find out about a lie that he has told me when we first meet. Why do men feel as though they have to lie? I wouldn't get mad if he just told the truth however, I'm pissed off when I have to find out the truth. Example: He told me that his Ex-wife lives north of town and come to find out she live's east of town. I really don't give a crap where she lives. Why couldn't he of just told the truth?
2007-05-17 17:43:16 · 27 answers · asked by jnnfchar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He lies cause he wants you to catch him. They're not major lies but tiny ones, enough to create and keep a "Bad-boy" image in your mind. Sure, you get pissed but that brings you excitement. Finding out little secrets like a real life Da Vinci Code. When you think about his fibs, you're thinking of him, and he manages to keep himself in the center of the universe. and your loving it cause he's a bad boy you can't change. A mystery after 7 years. That's why he's still around. Your mad he didn't tell you the truth of the East and North Ex. But I'm willing to bet tonight he's going to get lucky.
2007-05-17 19:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Douglas G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know something, it's not just men that lie. Growing up that is all I heard from my female family members and older females. It was instilled into me to believe that all men are liars and cheats and almost ruined my relationship with the man I am with now and love with all my heart. I was constantly accusing him of things only to later find out, he was telling the truth. I have caught him in one little dumb lie before but then again so have I caught my mom, my sisters, and even my friend. Perhaps, you should rethink your question. Instead of saying why do men lie, how about why do some people lie. Believe me, it's not all men just as it is not all women.
2007-05-17 17:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by rhythmicjen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you really want the truth i mean honestly how pissed off do women get when they ask, does this make my *** look fat and we reply truthfully no its your *** that makes that look fat.we grow up watching our fathers constantly lie to our mothers about stuff such as this and then you wonder why we lie we tell you what you want to hear plain and simple when we are dating and the only thing that we can think of is getting in your pants is that we love you your the only girl that we can ever see ourselve being with give you a little sweet talk and bam your pants are on the floor we know that if we tell the truth we are never gonna get what we want or we'll never hear the end of it.and i'm sure that when you and your husband were courting your were 100% honest you told him all about your adventures before you and him got together right everything there is not one skeleton in your closet that could come out to haunt you.i'll bet you do think about it.is it possable that she did live north of town seven yrs ago?
2007-05-17 19:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he was afraid that if you knew where his ex lived,that you might drive over to the East end of town and kick her,butt! Instead he told you that she lived at the North end of town.I do not know,but I do know that men and women lie.It is not just men.I do feel like you are pissed about such a pitty lie.Why are you asking him where she lives anyway? That is his past,and that is where it should stay in the past.
2007-05-17 17:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you why mine did, it was the one thing he was good at. Guess he loved the thrill of secrets, and since he had so many that he knew would make me walk away, he felt the need to cover up everything. I got sick of it though. Guess he thinks you are gullible. You have given too many inches and instead of a mile he has taken the world, walk lightly. One of the deciding factors for me was the question of what could I find out happened behind my back, and would it be too late for me to escape from or be safe from. My advice is (what are years together...nothing without trust, and respect), walk away he is doing you wrong and will always do you wrong, because he has already gotten away with it.
2007-05-17 17:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by sli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't know his directions that well? Lying about east or north isn't really a biggie. You have to pick your battles as they say. But I do agree about lying, my husband did it a few times when we met and he learned real quick to tell me the truth and it won't be as bad for him as if I find out later he lied. He is very honest now. It is in men to lie if they think it will save a fight from happening or to save their butts if they did wrong. There are honest men out there, you just have to watch for them.
2007-05-17 17:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everyone lies, but in my experience, men lie quite a bit more.
i honestly think there are biological differences between men and women. my boyfriend does the same thing, he lies about tiny little things that are insignificant, but at the same time, youre wondering....why does he have to do that, and what else does he lie about?
it could be a compulsion, soemthing he doesnt really realize he is doing,. and unless it affects how you trust him on a daily basis, it really wouldnt matter much. but if it makes you wonder about him as a whole, then that could affect you more than it should. ask him about it. he might get defensive, in my experience, they always do. but get some peace of mind.
2007-05-17 17:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lady i was lied 2 ;4;8yrs men ant the only ones that lie women lie 2 i got adiv & full custdy of my son & raised my son by my self now hes 17
2007-05-17 18:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew...that is why I stay single, I really can't take being told one more cotton picking lie! I hate it. Recently a guy told me he liked me. I asked right off are you married. He said no. Turns out he was in the process of getting a divorce. Then he changed his mind and was gong to try to make it work to appease her. I am glad I didn't waste much time on that. I think they all lie. Every man I have ever been with has started a relationship with me and has lied to me right from the beginning. Well, I think they are all liars.
2007-05-17 17:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be glad that he is not obsessing about where his ex lives. Cut him some slack on trivial things that aren't relevant.
It would be different if he were going to work everyday and he was actually unemployed. Now THAT would be a scary truth to discover.
2007-05-17 17:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋