Or is there always a feeling that someone else is out there? My long time boyfriend of 3 years is great, i feel that he is the one and I love him a lot. We've been talking about marriage lately, but sometimes I feel that maybe there is someone else out there for me.
2007-05-17 17:11:20 · 16 answers · asked by sexy as can be!!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How old are you ?? You talk like you're 12 !
2007-05-17 17:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If you're not sure, you're not ready.
At 20, I was happily dating and had a vague idea of being married to somebody within the next 10 years. I had been in love before and was proposed to twice but never thought seriously about getting married. Then I met "the one" and we knew within six months that there was nobody better out there for either of us. I was 21, he was 27 when we married in 2000.
Just remember that there's never any good reason to rush into marriage. If you're happy being with your boyfriend without marriage, fine. If you're not completely happy (which it sounds like you might not be), you need to be honest with him about wanting more or wanting someone else. Talk to him about it.... even in three years of togetherness you don't know everything about him. What do you feel is missing from your relationship?
Be sure you know what you want in life. You have to know before you can find it!
2007-05-18 12:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even thinking that, you are not ready to marry. Sometimes people can date for 10 years, get married and find out it wasn't right. There should be no doubts. When you choose to marry someone, you should know you never want to be with anyone else the rest of your life. It is a big decision. But you should take the vows seriously, it is till death do you part. Are you ready to make that kind of a commitment to him? I never had a doubt when I married my husband, and when we fight, I still love him to death and would never want anyone else. I'd say don't do it yet, give it some time. Better to be safe than sorry.
2007-05-18 00:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with your boyfriend for 3 years and you're still worried there might be someone else out there for you..You're not ready to get married..Who knows maybe there is someone else out there for you or maybe you've meet this person and didn't give them the time of day and lost your chance.. Follow your heart But if you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with your boyfriend, you shouldn't get married until you're sure that's what you want...Everything changes once your married, its no longer just your life your actions affect.. Best Wishes..(You don't' have to get married anytime soon..It doesn't sound like he's going anywhere if you wait)
2007-05-18 00:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jeweled Everywhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what is called "cold-feet". It is hard to think about the feeling that you will have when you sit and think, "WOW, this is the person I will be with for the rest of my life". No more partying and flirting with other guys, no more going on blind dates... etc.
So, it is normal for one to question this, but you must look deep within yourself and ask, "Do I really love him". It sounds simple but it is hard.
I will say, it is hard for someone to find real true love (which I am assuming you and your partner are in), but when you do, you need to keep that love. For true love doesnt come around twice. And if it does, it is a bit' of luck and God's will.
Good luck with everything though.
P.S. If you are really serious about marriage then maybe you should do some pre-marriage counseling with a preacher or counselor of some sort. This would help you get rid of some of your fears.
2007-05-18 00:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together this long and you are wondering about someone else..... you are not ready for marriage and it's very unfair to him to marry him with these mixed feelings of yours.
When I met my husband, I had no doubt he was the one and I have no regrets so yes, one does know they are ready for marriage if they are seriously committed to another person and since you don't, you need to let this nice guy go and go hit the fields so you can find that someone you are wondering about.
2007-05-18 00:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. be honest with yourself......your question says too different things...decide which opinion is you.
2. Love is being annoyed with your partner so bad, that you would leave anybody else that did the same thing, but you cant bring yourself to leave. That attachment is love. It takes time.
3. Likely there are many " The ones" out there. At some point you realize that all your relationships begin to have a theme...start for similar reason and end the same way. At some point you realize that you have to just stick it out.
2007-05-18 00:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still asking your self those questions, wait to get married. It is easier to leave a relationship before you say your "I dos".
Yes, some people are ready to get married. Marriage is a 50/50 proposition (OK, sometimes the ratio is 60/40 sometimes more). It takes two committed people that are ready, willing and able to work on the commitment. If you are not, don't do it.
2007-05-18 00:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the truth is that they are probably hundreds of people out there that could right for you but that shouldn't matter if you really love him and just couldn't see yourself without him. I guess all you can do is stop and take a sec to think is the love you have with him the kind you can't live without...
If the answer is YES then they should be no more thinking there's others out there:)
2007-05-18 00:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through a separation - 'doubt' was a factor in the erosion of our marriage.
Before you get married, really explore those feelings - only you really know the answer to your question. Listen to your heart.
2007-05-18 00:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Nimbot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is anyone really ready to get married? YES!!
Maybe it is that you really do not love him then or i don't see how you would feel that there is somebody eles out there.
Makes no since to me. Sorry.
2007-05-18 00:31:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋