I dont understand WHY?

Question

why is it that most teenagers are ready to lose their virginity at almost any given moment with almost any given person, and many of the adults dont really care as long as they use 'protection' but then adults say that you are too young to get married... like for example i might tell someone that i am 15 and i lost my virginity(I didnt), and they wldnt really think it was a big deal, but then i try to tell them that i am abt to get married and they freak out on me!
so basically how i understand it is that you are too young to get married but you arent too young to lose your virginity?
i think that if you are old enough to lose your virginity then you are old enough to get married....
i just wanted to kno how many of you agree with this and how many of you disagree... tell me youre thoughts!

Answer 1

YOU ARE TRULY ONE IN A DYING BREED. BUT YOU ARE RIGHT. ITS FALSE REASSURANCE THE PARENT IS GIVING TO THE TEEN. YES, I THINK SHOT GUN WEDDINGS SHOULD BE BROUGHT BACK. LOSING SOMETHING YOU COULD NEVER GET BACK TO A JERK HALF TIME OR SOME BOY WHO SAID HE LOVES YOU IS A WASTE. SADLY IT IS STILL THE TEENAGER'S CHOICE IN THE LONG RUN A PARENT CANT BE THERE TO WATCH 24/7. CHASITY BELTS AND PRICK DETECTORS SHOULD BE ENFORCED FOR MOST OF THESE KIDS. JUST HOLD ON YOURSELF AND BE MARRIED. YOUNG WORLD HOPE FOR A BETTER TOMORROW??????????

Answer 2

Cause virginity is overrated, that's why. And I don't agree that teenagers are ready to do it with just about anybody.

Marrieage is a serious commitment. Losing virginity should have nothing to do with it. I'm not suggesting to sleep around with the whole world, but people should at least try and see what they like and what they don't like.

I got married "the old fashioned way" we ended up relly not digging each other's sexual style. You can only guess where this marriage went - divorce. 12 years of marriage.

Answer 3

The main thing is that "sex" is easy and everybody can do it. Even 15 year olds can do it very well. But marriage is the hadrest committment that anyone can go under. You do not need to know anything special to have sex. Girls and boys just do it. Nature helps them and that's it. But marriage requires wisdom, maturity and other things, like financial welfare, house keeping, etc. This is why some girls are not ready for marrying even if they can have sex and lose virginity.

Answer 4

It really goes back to how the child is brought up by the family and community influences play vital role.. In my country, its not normal for a single girl to lose a virginity. She should at least be married first and surrender the virginity to the husband. But, other countries think the other way around. But, as I understand it with your case, you are a virgin. I ADMIRE YOU for being so tough on your decision to be that way. KEEP IT UP. Women should respect their body so that men will respect them.

Answer 5

it really depends on the person your talking to, somed people dont care about virginity nd things but marrige is a huge step....sex is sex...saying that making the decision to lose ur virginty means ur mature enogh to get maried is crazy, most people lose their virginity to fit in, or because they werent thinking or sum other lame excuse, 15s not old enough to get married....no, virginity is very over rated, i cant even be compared with marraige, u dont have to spend the rest of your life with the person you lose your virginity to...y9ur not tied to them in any way

Answer 6

beause....morality has taken a nosedive in today society it is "socially" acceptable to be promiscuous ....but not to get married young and stay married thats the problem....people that marry young generally have problems keeping their relationship going because essentally the years between 15 and 21 are personal progression years ....when you figure out who you are and what you want to do with yourself...so generally getting married before you figure that out is not a good idea because as you grow you mature into a different person your partner as well and sometimes people are too selfish to accept and adapt to the person they married....and sometimes people grow into someone they would have never married otherwise....as for loosing your virginity...you should wait until you are mature enough to commit yourself to a liftime relationship with someone ...because basically thats what you are doing when you give up your virginity to someone....and im not just saying morally but physially and emotionally as well....there was this lady that came to our school an advocate for save sex till marriage and she told us that when we give our bodies to someone we form a bond with that person that is hormonal as well as physiological.... she explained it kind like duct tape that you stick to a surface and that with each new person its like sticking and unsticking the tape to a new surface until it is worn out and can no longer be used that is how our bodies are made that bond becomes weaker and weaker with each new person ...and it has been proven that people that are physically intimate with people before marriage marriage's last less that people who save it till marriage! so yes if you are old enough to loose your virginity you should be old enough to get married...thats why you should save sex for marriage..;)

Answer 7

Ruby you are very,very smart for a 15 year old young lady even smarter than people half your age. I agree with you 100% keep the faith do what you feel is right.lol

Answer 8

sorry, i am the mom of three kids, two boys and a girl, and i told my kids to wait till marriage... they also have to graduate highschool, and they wont be getting married till the DO!
virginity is something to save
and you Dont get married at 15!

Answer 9

I think if I was your Mom I would be very proud of you.You have a good head on your shoulders and your actually thinking. I can't answer the questions..lol..it's too deep for me , but have got to star it , to see what ppl say..good luck:)

Answer 10

DOnt do either until you are 27, how about that?