if a man cheats on his wife does that mean he dont love her?

Question

ok, i hear all your answers and most of them are pretty good, i just have to say one thing though, ....the funny thing is , is that our sex life is grand always have sex lots of it with multiple o's, so my question is very complicated been married 20yrs and sex is still the same so why would he cheat?

Answer 1

No, but it means he doesnt think about her feelings or how his actions would affect her in any way...he is selfish

Answer 2

Not necessarily. I have never cheated on my wife, but I am not going to say I haven't been tempted either. If I were to give into one of these temptations then it doesn't mean that I don't love my wife. It just means I got caught up in a situation that I wasn't able to abstain. I love my wife and children more than anything in this world, but at the same time everyone (men and women alike) can be caught in a situation where sexual emotions can take hold and for that moment in time you may give in. It doesn't make you a bad person or mean that you don't love your spouse but at one moment in time you were weak. That is all. Too many people read into these and assume the worst without ever asking or wanting to hear why it happened.

Answer 3

No, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love her. It does mean that he is conflicted about some of his feelings and emotions. He also has difficulty with impulse control.

Dr. Harville Hendrix wrote an interesting book called, "Getting the Love That You Want." The book goes into why people cheat, divorce, and why they get married in the first place. You should take a look at it.

Another great book that deals with healing after infidelity was written by Dr. Janis Abrams Spring called, "After the Affair."

Answer 4

your going to get two types of answers to this question those from men that say no it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you,and those from women who say yes that is exactly what it means.well speaking from a mans point of view no men do not see love and sex as being synonymous with one another. I'll will put this bluntly so that you understand ,my penis does not have heart i do not need to love you to be aroused by you.now having said that doesn't mean that i condone cheating. i think that if a person cheats on their spouse they have no respect and they really don't care if they cause them pain or not. i love my wife to much to put her through the pain and suffering that goes with infidelity and there is nothing out that is worth loosing what i have but some guys don't feel this way.i really don't think that they concider what will happen if they get caught.here's a little secret for you women who are reading this, zero tolerance on cheating a one strike and your out would go a long towards stopping it,its not something that just happen its not a accident it is something we let happen it is something that we do on purpose,that goes for both men and women understand.

Answer 5

I believe there are many different levels of love, if a man deeply loves a woman with all he has to give then no he won't cheat... (The same goes for a woman, if she deeply loves a man...) I could never believe a man loved me if he cheated on me.. I also could never trust him again.. But it is different for every person..Some people can forgive and their marriage can survive or some can go to a counselor and their marriage can survive.. I on the other hand am not that trusting, I feel if they do it once they will do it again... Good luck and God bless..

Answer 6

Not always. It usually means there is a huge lack of respect though. And that stems from deeper underlying issues in the relationship. Doesn't excuse that kind of behavior, but once a couple can figure out where it went wrong that led to the person cheating, they can often work through it to build a stronger relationship....as long as they are both honest and sincere that it is what they want.

Answer 7

i think not, maybe he still loves his wife but there are things that the wife disagrees on some things, or if they argue too much, the man seek for some attention from other persons, when they meet a woman who comforts them and basically engages in sex...when the things go complicated, they blame woman and end up asking forgiveness to their wives.....
thats the scenario, most of the time, but i guess both sides have their own mistakes, in marriage there must be love and trust, understanding and caring

Answer 8

Not in my particular case.

We are not together anymore, but he still loves me to bits and would do anything to have us back together again.

He cheated because he had unmet needs in his marriage (my fault too) and a complete lack of self control - a recipe for cheating, I guess.

But that's just my personal circumstance, other circumstances might be different.

Kind regards, Penny xx

Answer 9

No it does not always mean that he does not love his woman, it justs means that something in the relationship is lacking. He felt that he had to go elsewhere to fulfil his needs. A cowardly move.

Answer 10

he can love her ,but not desire her(like a good friend),but its not about the wife,its about him being selfish of what he feels he needs,which can be totaly unreal for any woman to fill,there r those men that feel that there r women you marry and bring home to mom and then there r those you just boink and pass them on to the next guy.he may love her as a good mother and wife,but no sexual attraction,or has a hard time seeing her as sexual being,either way ,his fault for being week minded,love is not blind,stupid sometimes,but you can see clearly if you want to ,or just ignore issues,and live happily everafter(or just pretend)

Answer 11

If a person cheats on the other that means the person doesn't value the relationship, nor love the other, and doesn't respect nor care about the individuals feelings... When we love someone we try our best not to hurt the other we try to please then in every way possible.....