Is it just me or is guilt one of the most overbearing burdens a person can carry(read on)????

Question

from experience, i have carried much guilt. guilt for many mistakes i have made or for actions i took that i regreted later. guilt has made me depressed at times. it has hurt me. i feel that i pay for my mistakes with the overbearing guilt i get sometimes. guilt is such a burden for me.

Answer 1

Yes, guilt can weigh heavily on you.
But over the years I have discovered that after a while it is good for nothing. Sure, if you do something wrong you should feel bad about it. But, after a while you need to try your best to let it go. I know that is hard.
If you are able to apologize and make amends then do so.
The best thing to do is to try and learn from what you did and become a better person for it, you cannot change the past but you can do your best to be a good person in the future. So try and use that energy you put into being guilty and use it as a force to do something good and perhaps improve yourself in some way. Not only will you feel better because you used that energy to think of other things but you will also feel great for having accomplished something good in your life.

Answer 2

I live guilt free using proper choices and also principle at all times. I pray you learn to do this also
sure mistakes are made but one should learn from "THEM" guilt is from making wrong choices knowing this would be the choosing of yourself. mostly i surmise for greed or selfishness not caring about the other whom this shall indeed harm physically or emotionally!
Now to answer your question guilt is not what I knkow much of but i shall agree one living with such foolishness is overburdened - Yes indeed!

Answer 3

Sounds like you really need some help. Any negative emotion isn't a good thing to carry around with you. I have anxiety depression and sometimes it really sucks. I have using this technique called Emotional Freedom Technique which has really helped me a lot. It is very good for getting rid of negative emotions quickly. Maybe something you could try. These are some links about it.

Answer 4

I know exactly what you mean. It's not just you. Guilt is a terrible burden, and for me something I struggle with every day... but it is gradually getting easier.

I used to get very depressed about all my faults, but as I'm gradually overcoming them, through faith in God and the Atonement of Jesus Christ, I'm getting freer and freer from the burden of guilt... It reminds me of a hymn:

Come unto Him all ye depressed
Ye erring souls whose eyes are dim
Ye weary ones who long for rest
Come unto Him, Come unto Him!

You can download the whole mp3 here:
http://www.lds.org/cm/catalogalphamp3/1,18331,4768-1,00.html?reportStart=31&reportEnd=37&searchPhrase=C
(The song is called "Come Unto Him")

or read all the words and listen to the music here:
http://www.lds.org/churchmusic/detailmusicPlayer/index.html?searchlanguage=1&searchcollection=1&searchseqstart=114&searchsubseqstart=%20&searchseqend=114&searchsubseqend=ZZZ

(I LOVE this song!)

Faith in Jesus Christ is so helpful... it can be a hard thing to learn though. Personally, I only feel that I can be worthy of forgiveness when I know I am doing my best. ie I believe Jesus forgives people who feel sorry for their mistakes, and who try to stop causing pain to other people. (I don't think he forgives people who are not sincerely sorry.)

I agree that we "pay" for our mistakes by feeling guilt...

The LDS missionaries can teach you the steps to overcoming guilt, which include faith in Jesus Christ (but there is more to it than just "accepting Jesus")... there are STEPS.

If you would rather research it on your own, you can read a simple explanation here: http://www.mormon.org/mormonorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=8215055b23710110VgnVCM1000003a94610aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=489502fc53b71110VgnVCM100000176f620a____

Baptism is like a new birth, washing away all your past mistakes, and setting you on a path where you can gradually overcome the weaknesses that continually upset your feelings.

I know it is such an important thing to try and do what is right. Our consciences... the little voice that tells us we've done something wrong... is an inate attribute. Some people try to deny it, suppress it, etc, but it is still there nagging them, and leading to depression. We just can't avoid it. We have to do something about it.

The Lord said:

27 And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.

(from Ether 12:27 - in the Book of Mormon)

The rest of the chapter can be found here: http://scriptures.lds.org/en/ether/12

I know that the Lord has helped me so much in my life, by making me strong in things I was formerly so weak and foolish about. Even now, every day, I draw on Him for strength to be a better mother and wife than I was yesterday. I grow because of that.

You really are a precious daughter of God. Your questions are so pure and insightful. I love you.

God bless!

Answer 5

yes i know how that feels
i feel the need to put everyone else first then the second i do something for me, even silly like eating the last piece of cake i feel guilty, someone else might have really wanted it. Always feeling guilty
guilt is a burden

Answer 6

Absurd and unconstitutional. Who cares why you dedicate a criminal offense, in point of fact you devoted the crime. shall we purely concentration on genuine deterrent to committing crime interior the 1st place. start up putting criminals in detention center for the optimum sentence the 1st time every time. Use the dying penalty every time that's accessible. Make detention center back right into a terrible place to be extremely of an afternoon camp.

Answer 7

It's not just you. We all have guilt about something, but I really think the best thing you can do with guilt is to get rid of it. We are only human, so we must remember" to err is human and to forgive is divine." So let's learn to forgive ourselves. If God can forgive us if we really seek it, then we should be able to forgive ourselves.

Answer 8

Guilt is your currency, from the sounds of it.

Why do you express everything in terms of how much guilt it costs you.

What crime o you THINK you committed that makes you have such a need to punish yourself over and over?

Answer 9

If you ask for forgiveness from an individual and they don't forgive you then the burden then falls on them.
Let me explain.
"For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." Mathew 6:14-15
Guilt is the Holy Spirit bringing you to ask for forgiveness.
God will forgive you. People may or may not, but it is on them if they don't.
Walk in the knowledge of the forgiveness that God has given you.

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to stop blaming yourself for things that are beyond your control.

Either that or become a Catholic and go to confession every week.