ook my parennts are divoreced i and my sis. live wit my mom me 13 sis. 11 and every year we go on vacation wit are Dad me and my sis. to eastern Oregon in the dessert wit no one around and stuff now i've ben havin troubles wit my dad and haven't been go'in on the weekends and this summers comming and i sposed to go wit him and i really don't wan't to but i can't leave my dad wiot my sister in the middle of no where because my dads a little "weird" like walks into the room when were getting dressed after we told him 10 seconds ago that we were going to be getting dressed and to not come in he's never done anything to my sis. or me but i just can't leave her wit him alone becaus of that fear.....but i really don't want to go what should i do...................PLEASE HELP PLEASE PLEASE ANSWER I REALLLY NEED HELP the only person who would know what to doi can't get ahold of.....i reliying on the yahoo answers guests>>>>>>>HELP ME!!!!
2007-05-17 15:43:55 · 15 answers · asked by got.to.get.over.him. =] 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
my mother knows everything sry ii forgot that deatail thanks thought!!!!
2007-05-17 16:22:24 · update #1
see and my dad gets all teary eyed and trys to make me feel really bad that i'm not going with him and i'm trying not to make a huge scean out of this.....but i'll do whats right and what needs to be done thank you so much for the prayers i'm a strong christian and apprietiate them again htanks and God bless all!!!!
2007-05-17 16:27:45 · update #2
TELL YOUR MOTHER WHAT HE HAS BEEN DOING!!!!!
2007-05-17 15:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that the only time he's done something inappropriate? If not write down everything he has done that you think is inappropriate or makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell your mom, which you already did. Then you should tell him how you feel, tell him what he does to make you feel uncomfortable.If you are honest with him there is a chance he may resent you but he will resent you even more if you aren't honest. If he starts pulling the guilt trip crying sh!t on you, tell him you will not be talking to him until he can act like an adult. Don't let people guilt you into anything, you will never respect yourself if you do.
I know you are only 13 but seriously, its never to early to start being direct and honest about your feelings and desires.
You don't want to grow up being a passive aggressive B*&ch like a lot of other females. Have some self-respect and stick up for yourself.
You should avoid the visit but tell him the real reason why. Do not visit him until you feel comfortable with him again. And if you never again feel comfortable around him, it's not your fault.
2007-05-25 08:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by casey v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough situation and you are right, you can't let your sister go alone. How does your sister feel about going to see her dad? If you have weird feelings about your father you need to speak to your mother again, you need to tell her why you feel that neither you or sister should go, explain that you are afraid he might do something to you or your sister. Maybe you can speak to a clergyman or someone else at your church about this. I wish I could be more of a help, but my prayers are with you and your sister. Good Luck.
2007-05-24 10:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, if you can't talk to your mom, talk to your most trusted teacher at school about this.
Or even better, a minister at church if you have one.
Usually, if you have instincts like this, you are correct. The fact that nothing has happened, yet you still have these doubts, lets me know that you are a very intuitive person.
You are right to be concerned, and you are right that you need help.
A 13 yr old girl can handle a lot of big things, and most 13 yr old girls can handle even more things than adults think they can. But THIS IS NOT ONE OF THOSE TIMES..... Please hear me. You need a grown-up to help you sort this out. This is not a teenage problem, no matter how responsible and mature you are.
It's not that your teacher can fix it, but she will know the best person for you to be talking about this to (like the guidance counselor at school, or another counselor.)
You are such a kind sister to be thinking of your younger sister's safety and welfare. I had 3 sisters, and I am the mother of daughters, and I know how hard it is for the older sisters to show love to their younger sister. I am so proud of you for wanting to take care of your little sister. You are on the right track.
I am going to get off the computer right now and go pray for you and your family.
2007-05-17 15:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by saying something to somebody; however, you need to say something to your Mom. If she is afraid to do something, then tell a school official or talk to a Child Protective Service worker, you'll find the CPS number in the State section of your phone book.
Please do something now!
You're very brave for doing this much, and you can take it further. My prayers are with you and your sister.
2007-05-17 15:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom about how you feel and what has happened if no help talk to a trusted aunt or a Friends parent school teacher , concealer if need be call 911 & let the police look into it . If your truly sincere about this . Talk to your Mom first .. Good Luck ..
2007-05-17 15:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother!!! If she doesn't listen don't stop bugging her and don;t do anything or go anywhere you don't want to! If you are really that afraid your WHOLE family should talk together. If nothing changes talk to your counselor at school. You CAN NOT be afraid or embarrassed to talk to ANYONE about this. It is NOT right!! Even your father wants you and your sis to go, you don't HAVE to. GET SOME HELP ASAP!!!!!!!
2007-05-24 14:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by iluvturtles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,relax..take a deep breath.I am so sorry your parents got divorced.I think that you and your sister can tell your dad that you just don't want to go to that same holiday vacation.You are very caring when you said that you don't want to leave your sister there alone.I understand.just talk it out with your sister.Take part in a summer camp,stay at your friends house.Don't tell your dad that you are scared about his behavior.
Ask your mom to enroll you in a summer camp so that you won't be with your dad.Its okay if you don't want to make contact with him for a while.Hope it works out for you.Good luck!
2007-05-17 15:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by dance21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear, you know the answer,trust your smart brain and intuition,do not, do not,let your doubt rule your thoughts. Women are very aware of this kind of stuff! Trust yourself!!!! Tell someone that is not going to give you silly excuses for his actions. Proud of you for asking!!!!!!!!!Protect yourselves!
2007-05-17 15:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by loveyouoshinystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you better tell your mom!! this is a serious matter that needs to be addressed... its not your fault or you sisters... be strong.. stand up for yourself and your sister.. i know it hurst hes your dad.. but you are a person first!! i hope everything works out.. and please tell your mom if you cant tell an adult who can help
2007-05-25 09:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by melc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call child protective services, ask them what to do. You need to tell your mom too.
2007-05-17 15:55:07 · answer #11 · answered by jennastorm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋