how many of you women??

Question

...like or would like to be stay at home moms...also
is that one of your fantasies "to have a man that supports you, while you take care of the kinds, and stuff at home?
or how many of you would like that or wouldnt'
reasons pls

Answer 1

Ive been a stay at home Mother for the last 7months. 3 months of that was maternity leave and the rest was unpaid from my employer after i had my first child.

Ive enjoyed the time off ive had to spend time and bond with my baby. I would personally love to stay at home fulltime with my child to take care of him and rely on my partner's income. But regretfully its not possible. We own two cars, have a mortgage to pay and have typical household bills to pay that just wouldnt cover it with one wage.

So im returning to work next week to bring in the extra money. Im not one of those women that actually want to "rely on my man" solely for support. I like being able to earn my own wage and have my own independence away from the typical grind.

And returning back to work is great for me. It gives me the social life i otherwise wouldnt have had if i had been at home, as i live far from family and friends. So i really have noone to talk to when my partner is at work. Babytalk is all part of my day, and i wouldnt give it up for the world. But having other adults to converse with (apart from on the internet lol) is extremely important as well.

I got knocked severely for my choice to return back to work by my Hubby's family. But it is a very personal choice either way. Every woman needs to come to her own decision as to what is best for both herself, her partner and her children. If that involves returning back into the workforce then so be it.

Answer 2

I am stay at home Mom, which is what I always thought I would be. I think it's a great choice for the children, although there are certainly other options. I just always knew I'd want to spend as much time with my little ones as possible. I didn't want someone else to get more of their time than me.

My husband never set out to marry a woman who wanted to stay at home. But he thought it would be a great option for the kids, so he has always been on board. But I know he would support me if I felt the need to go back to work, also.

You do have to make some sacrifices, financially, though. If I worked outside the home I would definitely have a housekeeper, for example.

Answer 3

Ok, first I just became a stay at home mom. My Hubby and I have been together for over 11 years. And pretty much from the start we agreed that we wanted me to stay home. Both of us agree that it's the best for our children. I want to be there for all of their "firsts". (You know, first laugh, first word, etc.) I don't want to depend on someone that I don't know very well (don't have any family close by) to teach them everything. I want to make sure that I try and make them as smart as possible. I think some women might have fantasies about being supported. I always worked up to this point. Now I have a different kind of job. My Hubby and I feel that it's his duty to make the money, and it's mine to be the wife and mommy. However if we are having trouble making ends meet, I find something for me to do that makes some money and helps out without putting my kid through daycare. Sorry to ramble, but I hope it was helpful!

Answer 4

I would love to be a stay at home mom!

I have a 4 yr college degree and have moved up the corporate ladder, but there's something missing in my life, which is to be a stay at home mom. I would love nothing more than to find a man who can earn enough where we can live in in the lifestyle my children and I are currently use to living in.

I'm widowed and I have dated one man who said that if we got serious and were to marry, he wouldn't care if I stayed home and had more children and took care of the house, while he worked. However, he doesn't have the earning potential and I have no desire to live meagerly. I would only be a stay at home mom, if the man could support us with a more than decent salary...not some minimum, piddly wage.

I think there is nothing better, and nothing to be more proud of than to stay at home and raise children and take care of a household. My hat goes off to all the stay at home mommy's!

Answer 5

I think this is a very complicated question. I would like to have a man that could support me, if he had to. And I (and any other parent, I'm sure) would love to spend as much time with my kids as possible because they only stay young for a few years. BUT at the same time, I wouldn't feel right to require my man to be the sole bread winner with all that extra pressure and financial strain. And staying at home with the kids all the time would drive me absolutely bonkers.
So my plan is to work part time while the kids are young, and then work full-time after they get into school. Why would I be at home all day once they're off in school anyway? Household chores, to me, are something to be shared. As bachelors and bachelorettes we all did our own chores after a long day's work.

Answer 6

I use to dream about being a stay at home mom with a degree with something. Just the idea of always being their for my children was what lured me in HOWEVER now that im a part-time student and stay at home mommy, i more than ever want to get a job and a life of my own (not to mention a paycheck of my own)! It's nice to know that your man can take care of you financially, but its no longer the dream i had pictured in my head that it would be...

Answer 7

I would love to know I married a man who could afford for me to stay home with the children. On the other hand, I want the same thing for him. I wouldn't call it a dream...just knowing that we are both capable is a wonderful thing. I want to know I can support myself before allowing someone else to. That's why I had parents! I do feel children who have stay at home moms are more developed and I would love to watch them grow!

Answer 8

I couldn't when my sons were little, and I don't think I ever wanted to. I have always been to independent as far as taking care of my own bills and my own things as well as my children, so I wouldn't have been able to sit back and let a man take care of my monetary needs. It satisfied my need for social connections to be out of the house and in a job.

Answer 9

No...i want my own career.
I want to be a primary school teacher...or at least a casual.
So sometimes i can stay at home with the kids while my hubby is at work.
And maybe even vise versa.
That would be good.
I think that way we would have a good and healthy relationship and a happy family, so it's not just one parent looking after the kids 24/7....we'll get equal time!

Does that make sense?
Hope so
Good question by the way

Answer 10

I am a stay at home mom,and there are times that it sucks.First you have no one to talk to,seeing every women does work,its hard to find another stay at home to hang with and talk problems of every day life.The fact that you depend on your husband to put a roof over your head and if he lost his job then you could lose everything and there is nothing you can do about it,unless you get a job,if you can make as much as he did.But i like the fact that i don't have to deal with the public when it comes to a job ,cause you have to deal with *** holes.And when it comes to my kids going to school i can be for them anytime.Also our friends can depend on me to watch there kids and i make a little extra money,they like it cause they don't have to pay so much for daycare.So there are some Up and Downs,buts its alright.