Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

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Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

I am pregnant and it is the biggest mistake I have ever done!!!! I have been in denial for a long time. These past few months I thought it's all surreal!!! No, it's reality!!!! It feels like a long time. I've gone through depression. I've regained a ton of weight and I look like crap. I'm great at hiding this secret. The only person who knows is my psychologist. My stomach is beginnning to show. I am not the person I use to be. I use to love music, now I hate it. I hate singing!!! I don't want to become a musician any longer. People at my department, I believe, do know. They could tell. Am I being paranoid? I use to be such a great person, now I bring misery. These people have ruined my life. I have been so irrational this year. I am persian and my family will kill me. How can I tell them? I think I'm going to run away. I have family in L.A.and Chicago. WherMaybe they will be forgiving? My friends don't know how to help me because they don't know my problem. I've started cutting again.
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27 minutes ago
I'm afraid if I tell my parents, they will have a heart attack. I worry about my mother because she is dealing with her cancer. My father will execute me. I don't know who to tell. Please god? Should I start going to the mosque? i will pray hard. I wish I was invisible. I'm trash and a ****. I didn't think about my consequences and now, I got what i deserved.

20 minutes ago
I no longer care if the entire world knows. I've disappointed everyone, especially myself. I am revealed.

18 minutes ago
I had so many goals. I wanted to finish college and get a degree in vocal performance and science. I am a failure.

16 minutes ago
I am iranian. My culture is NOT forgiving!!!!!

6 minutes ago
I don't know any other persian with this problem!!! I feel sooo alone.
31 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer. - 8 answers - Report Abuse
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Answer 1

okay, sweetie, the first thing you do, is take a big deep breath. this might sound stupid but you need to calm down. Getting you stressed out wont help you or the baby. next, you need to realize that this is real. the one thing you can not do: DONT HAVE AN ABORTION. it doesnt matter if your under age. its not fair to the baby. tell your parents. even if they want you to have an abortion, you need to tell them that they have to support you. have the baby, and then put it up for adoption. tell the father. he might be able to help. if you've told him and he doesnt want to, talk to his parents. Stop cutting. that will not help you. if your family doesnt help you, then go to your other families. go to a counseler.

Answer 2

You have made a mistake, but it sounds like you are young and many young girls make the same mistake. It is certainly not something you deserve to die or be disgraced for! Remember that you are making decisions for two now, it isn't just about you anymore. It is too bad that an experience that should be a wonder full, beautiful thing is such a nightmare for you. But you need to be strong and get help!!! Don't keep putting this off. If you are in the US there are government agency's that can help you. Check under government listings in the phone book. If you are not in the US please try to find someone that you can trust and ask that person for help. I hate to put down other cultures, but the way women in some parts of the world are treated is horrible beyond words. Don't let them take you down!! Hold your head up and fight for your right to live in peace and bring your baby into the world safely, whether you intend to keep it or not.

Answer 3

You are a good person who is having some problems. The problems do not define who you are. You are still teh same person you always were inside. And you are still able to form and create the person you are forming to be.
The pregnancy is a real problem that will have to be dealt with. There are places to go for advice and help. You can try the Crisis Pregnancy Hotline at - 812-934-5116 ( after 7pm call 800-848-5683 / There is also Option Line at 800-395-HELP / There is also the National Youth Crisis Hotline - 800- 422- HOPE(4673)
You can call one of these numbers for counselling and advice.
There may be someone you know who can help or at least give you someone to talk to - someone from church , school, work etc. There may be a counselling center at your work or school or church.
On the up side. A baby is a truly wonderous and beautiful creation. Every pregnant woman is very special , even if it was unplanned. Carrying a baby is a special experience and you are very important and your baby is very important. Even if everyone is not happy with the pregnancy, you are pregnant and now have to accept that into your life. Let it become a special experience for you.
Remember that there is a little life growing inside of you that is looking to you for love and aceptance, just like you look to your parents for love and acceptance.
Starting to accept this baby and love it now will be healthy for teh baby and for you. No matter what other people say. You are a mother now. You have been given a gift of a beautiful tiny life that loves you. It loves you and will always love you more than any other person has ever loved you. It is an incredible person that you will be very happy to have as part of your life.
your relationship with your baby now must take priority over all other relationships in your life. You have to make the choices that you feel , as a mother , are best for yourself and your baby. You have to be the adult now. The little one is really counting on you.
So find some counselling to help you thru this hard time. But do not let anyone take make you feel bad about the baby. It is a special treasure that has been given to you.
Even if it does not seem like you are ready, you will learn teh things you need to learn as you go along. You will learn how to deal with pregnancy. You will learn how to get what you need ) supplies can often be gotten at crisis pregnancy centers in your neighborhood- check on line ) You will be surprised how many people will help you , even if all of your family members do not support you.
You will find support and help if you keep reaching out like you have.
God loves you and thinks you are very unique and special.
If you want to you call email me. I think you can get my email address from this site.
Be strong. Women have had to be the strong ones for centuries now. Women have endured all kinds of hardships in order to have their families. In the end , it is worth it because your family - Your NEW family growing inside of you - IS worth it !!!
Love

Answer 4

OK so your Iranian and Pregnant also a teenager... The first thing you need to do is STOP thinking of your self as trash your not. What about adoption? and if you don't believe in that... raise you baby and still go to collage and stuff, its going to be a lot harder but you can do it if you REALLY want.

Tell your parents, ya sure they're going to be hurt, but your they're daughter they love you and STOP CUTTING RIGHT NOW. When you tell your parents be Strong, get a plan ready and tell your parent what your plan to be, and STICK TOO IT!

So your plan/life have changed... your going to have to affected what your giving and make the best of it. Anyway you can

and honey what culture is forgiving?

If your some reason your do running away( which I hope you don't) pick Chicago, too much violents in L.A.

P.S>. Have a Wonderfully future. I know you will do what you thinks best.

Answer 5

Well as a Christian I know that Mary the girl who got pregnant with Jesus by God went to an older woman's home Elizabeth for 3 months. And I think first if you know some Americanized Iranian friends who may be sympathetic to both you and your family is your best course of action. Rather than to face strange American friends.

But first pray. And get that sympathetic family and close family member who might be able to help you out. Perhaps the group you are with there is someone you can trust.

Don't despair.

There is a site below that could help you. God bless you.

Answer 6

Locate the nearest Planned Parenthood or medical office (i.e., OBGYN) that can give you advice or a check-up without your parents present. You are doing a great disservice to yourself and your unborn baby by not seeing a medical service professional.

Depending upon how old you are and what state you're in, you may be able to get pregnancy counseling and/or terminate the pregnancy on your own if that's something you've been considering. However, if you have waited too long to terminate your pregnancy (which duration varies in states) you will need to sit down and talk to your parents about this. Sooner is better than later.

I empathize with the distress that you're in, but you'll have to take very decisive action with regard to this situation as soon as possible in order to ensure health and safety - please get the medical attention you need.

Culturally, I cannot offer you advice; however, professionals in this area may be able to better refer you. I doubt running away would solve anything more than it would make things worse and add stress for you.

Answer 7

What advice has your psychiatrist given you? Has s/he not given you contact details for a support agency who could advocate your rights? If s/he hasn't, it's time you asked because you are going to have to break the news to your parents and soon. You can't hide this.

If you're showing, abortion is just out of the question even if you could bring yourself to do that, there's no way anymore. You're having a baby now. You have a highly developed young life growing in your womb it's time to take care of you both.

If your psychiatrist cannot help you with a care agency, and you are genuinely concerned for your safety, email the Human Rights Organisation and ask for the contact details of a counsellor in your area. Go see them and ask them to help you tell your family. You could be over reacting, but if you're not, it's best for you to have sympathetic counsel.

Now get off this page and get working on it. You can do it, you can give your baby and yourself the good life you both deserve if you act now.

Good luck and consider yourself hugged.
xxxxooo

ps.. don't cut, go out and get a hug instead. It works.

Answer 8

You have to think of someone in your life, someone who knows you, to tell. This could be a teacher, a relative you trust, it could even be your mother. You must tell someone.

Even if your mother has cancer, it may be that she is the one to confide in. She does love you...you are her child. Maybe she can get the money together to send you to relatives in L.A. or Chicago.

This is not the end of your life. This has happened to millions of young girls and they do get through it.

It all seems dark and impossible, right now, but time will pass and you will get your life back!

Just,be brave, tell your mother and let her help you! Running away is the worst thing you can do!! You have a little baby inside you...this baby deserves a chance, too. People on the streets can be rough, even vicious.

You cut yourself to distract from the pain your feeling inside. Only deep therapy can help this. Seek help!

Answer 9

I agree. i'm 28 and by no potential a lot as had a being pregnant scare. I knew that sex=infant and began the pill in the previous I ever had sex. i rather do not trust each of the "It became an coincidence" stuff because you do not have sex by technique of coincidence. i'm a instructor and that i see the hardships that those toddlers, raised by technique of young children flow by. I in simple terms desire toddlers might want to comprehend that by technique of having slightly one they're choosing to diminish to rubble yet another persons existence. Their infant's. It makes me ill after I listen of toddlers having little ones on purpose besides. What the heck are they questioning? heavily, no individual could ought to pay for you blunders, fairly no longer a baby. Please comprehend i'm speaking about youthful young children. no longer 18 and 19 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds. i recognize some youngster moms who did very sturdy jobs even though it became demanding for them and their toddlers. There are continuously exceptions.

Answer 10

Its going to be ok! Please don't run away call a grandparent or an aunt or uncle,talk to them about this! If u run away then there is a chance u could hurt ur self or the baby. Please Please don't do it there are always people there for support ur parents will eventually find out even if u do run away just breath think about the positive things in life and then think about the babys future and what u will do with him/her. If u need more support I am here for u! e-mail me any time my e-mail is [e-mail] Hope I helped u-Maggie