Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

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Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

I am pregnant and it is the biggest mistake I have ever done!!!! I have been in denial for a long time. These past few months I thought it's all surreal!!! No, it's reality!!!! It feels like a long time. I've gone through depression. I've regained a ton of weight and I look like crap. I'm great at hiding this secret. The only person who knows is my psychologist. My stomach is beginnning to show. I am not the person I use to be. I use to love music, now I hate it. I hate singing!!! I don't want to become a musician any longer. People at my department, I believe, do know. They could tell. Am I being paranoid? I use to be such a great person, now I bring misery. These people have ruined my life. I have been so irrational this year. I am persian and my family will kill me. How can I tell them? I think I'm going to run away. I have family in L.A.and Chicago. WherMaybe they will be forgiving? My friends don't know how to help me because they don't know my problem. I've started cutting again.
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27 minutes ago
I'm afraid if I tell my parents, they will have a heart attack. I worry about my mother because she is dealing with her cancer. My father will execute me. I don't know who to tell. Please god? Should I start going to the mosque? i will pray hard. I wish I was invisible. I'm trash and a ****. I didn't think about my consequences and now, I got what i deserved.

20 minutes ago
I no longer care if the entire world knows. I've disappointed everyone, especially myself. I am revealed.

18 minutes ago
I had so many goals. I wanted to finish college and get a degree in vocal performance and science. I am a failure.

16 minutes ago
I am iranian. My culture is NOT forgiving!!!!!

6 minutes ago
I don't know any other persian with this problem!!! I feel sooo alone.
31 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer. - 8 answers - Report Abuse
You can't answer your own question.

I USED A CONDOM. IT BROKE!!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

definetly call planned parenthood. they are a 1-800 number, so it doesnt cost money and it doesnt show up on the phone bill at the end of the month. i promise you, calling them will be the best choice you've ever made they can help you deal with the situation and they keep everything COMPLETEY CONFIDENTIAL.

good luck, honey.

Answer 2

I know how ya feel... well kinda in a way I guess. I mean I'm 1/2 Pakistani and my birth mom was in college and everything and she was from Pakistan so I guess her parents freaked when she told them and everythink I mean I reallly don't know I've never met her so yea. All I can say is tell your parents they'll be better than you think. If they find out from someone else it's just gonna make it worse. You need to me the one to tell them. I don't think you need to have an abortion like all those other people are saying that's just ridiculous. Have your baby and give it up for adoption it's the best thing you could do for yourself and the baby. I mean honestly you could go to college and the baby could be raised up in a good home. You get to pick the parents and everything. Not a day goes by that I don't think about what would have happened if my birth mother didn't give me up for adoption. I'm a straight A student and I got a scholarship offer to Duke. I mean you never know that could be what your baby could do.

Answer 3

You can go to the Salvation Army and they will take you to a place to stay until you have the baby and help you to give it for adoption==you will be able to do your school work while there and they will not condemn you for this =once the baby is in a home with the adoptive parents you can get on with your life=If your family won't help ,the Salvation Army will set you up with an apartment and get you on assistance to finish school =the best of luck and may God Bless you =Remember you are a worthwhile person and the parents may be more understanding then you think=the Major from the SA will help you in that area too

Answer 4

No one can tell you what to do....but know that you do have a choice. I suggest call Planned Parenthood and talk to a counselor. Your options are adoption, abortion and/or parenthood. Let your mother/father know. You should not go through this alone. Whatever you choose to do, choose based on what you feel is right. If you respect and honor your mother/father's opinion - listen and take their advice. They've been around along time and know what it takes to be a parent. It's not the end of the world - know that other's have been through this just as you are and life goes on after it's all said and done.

Answer 5

please dont be so hard on yourself!you are human and humans make bad decisions and sometimes things happen.this child has a father tell him he has the right to know also.maybe he can help you make the right choice.either you have an abortion,or give the child up for adoption or raise the child with or without him you must decide.you do not have to abandon your goals!if you are afraid your dad will harm you then please go somewhere till the baby is born and give it up.you can return later and tell your parents something they can accept.like you are helping a family member or friend or a job.be careful and do what you can live with.good luck.

Answer 6

I would suggest trying to find it in yoursef to tell your parents and then give the child up for adoption. This will give you a chance to still live your life to it's fullest and give your child a ife it would not otherwise have had. If you ever get into a situation where the condom breaks try taking the morning after pill.

Answer 7

first thing. tell your parents. yes it will suck majorlly, but better now than when youre buldging and ready to burst. tell your parents. you need to. just prepare yourself that they could be very mad at you.. BUT also just keep in your head that it WILL get better. thats just the worst of it-revealing it the first time. after that, your parents will get over the anger and focus on helping you, because the last thing they want you to do is to run off, especially knowing that they could have helped you. it will suck at first but i think they will support you reguardless.. youre their daughter.. theyre not going to leave you stranded. dont cut yourself! its not worth it! just try to look at it positively - youre giving life to someone.. the best gift you could give to anybody. so many people can't have babies at all!! ever!!

as far as adoption or abortion.. i pesronally wouldn't go for abortion, because since you are already depressed and such, the mentality of it afterwards could make you feel even worse.. or maybe it wouldnt even affect you.. its different for everyone. some families become closer after even a teenager has a baby. a girl at my school had a baby in 9th grade!!! same situation as you. she's back in school and finishing her senior year off with the rest of us. she is even happier now than when i knew her back in 9th grade, and she is so unbelievably happy taht she kept her baby. she always has pictures to show and stories to tell. and you can just hear it in her voice and see the smile on her face.. despite the luck she didn't have, it brought so much joy to her life. i personally feel that despite everything.. just push it out for the next few months, have the baby, and give it up for adoption. think about it.. the baby shouldn't have to die because the condom broke... plus there are millions of people out there who would do anything to have a baby... giving just a few months of your time to let it develop will give that baby an entire lifetime! from only a few months of yours! (oh man, i don't mean to sound like one of those pro-life preeching ads..)

also.. don't move! don't leave! your parenst would eventually find out from family, and would probably not be much happier that you left and went to your other famiy members for help, instead of your own parents.

best of luck to you! i send you much hope and sympathy

Answer 8

I know it's too late to tell you BIRTH CONTROL. Yes, you should have thought about it before the fact. But, for now your problem needs answers. I have had 2 abortions in my life when I was in my early 20s and I actually thought I was doing the right thing. Now I know how wrong I was and that I did not accept the most precious gifts that was given to me by God. The hardest thing you have to do is face your family but it would be alot better to deal with them than face the pain and the guilt you will carry the rest of your days if you commit murder. I now have 2 children and can not beleive that I did what I did when I was younger. I now understand how precious human life is especially when you had a big part in creating it. If you love your God and love your family than you will love your child. Your child is your family now with or without your parents blessings. They must come around to understanding if they love you. Granted, it may not be easy in the beginning but it will happen. You also need some self esteem lifting yourself. Stop being hard on yourself. Embrace it and make the best of it. Your not alone. Millions of women have babies and still persue their dreams. Please let yourself be one of them.

Answer 9

i think you are a very silly girl,you must tell your parents for a start,i don't think it will exacerbate her caner,your father I'm sure wont execute you.if your parents love you they will help you through this mess,i don't know how old you are,that does not matter,you probably are suffering depression,if your psychologist is not helping out,see a psychiatrist or your local doctor you cannot hide pregnancy ,tell your parents see your GP get it over with now.you never know mum and dad could be delighted.I'm sure their are other Iranians pregnant without marriage.see your doctor now,tell your parents now.

Answer 10

calm down!

The best thing you can do is tell your parents, they need to know.

If you freak out now, it will harm you later, let your parents know you NEED there support!