He talks about religion all the time. And goes on and on .... even when I was married to him. He was extremely abusive. He literally was a Jeykel and Hyde personality. He lied about his age, how many times he was married, what he did for a living.... he smokes, drinks, does drugs and carries on a double life. People believe him. Anyone ever go through this?
2007-05-17 14:03:23 · 9 answers · asked by lady 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
exmormon.org has similar stories that you relate: abusive men using the 'authority of the priesthood' to marginalize women. Your won't find anything helpful on any of the official mormon sites as this is out of their league and they are unequipped to handle situations like yours.
Naturally this guy does not represent the majority of men in the church, but the strict rules and absolute fealty to their doctrine sometimes brings out the monster within. It becomes their way of life once they discover they can get away with it, especially with the full support of the bishopric.
I would surmise he has other problems unrelated to mormonism, but used it as a crutch to support his actions. Hopefully he's out of your life forever.
2007-05-17 15:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dances with Poultry 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What does his religion have to do with anything other then you trying to make mormons look bad? Clearly he wasn't a true mormon religious fanatic or he would have never behaved that way nor would he have married you if you weren't mormon because mormons strongly believe in eternal temple marriages which can only take place btwn 2 active mormons living up to a fairly high standard of living which does not include abuse.
You picked a bad guy to marry. Don't blame that on the mormons.
2007-05-17 23:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by cadisneygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he was truly a Mormon religious fanatic he would not smoke, or drink, or do drugs. Remind him of the Word of Wisdom, and if that doesn't help, report him to his Bishop. He would be excommunicated so fast... If people don't believe you, film him or something. He's no Mormon.
2007-05-18 19:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyannie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cats. If one grows up outside, it is less likely to end up smeared all over the street than if it spent its life indoors and happens to get out one day. Mormon's are boxed in by rules the way a cat can be forever trapped in a house. When one of these gets out they may likely run around without a true sense of the dangers of living without limits. As one who left the house at 22, it has taken me a long long time to adopt a rational set of limits. Mormons and others in highly channelized sects have all their responses preset by rules and are not equipped for spontaneous judgement. Hence, escapees are often the wildest people you will meet... people without boundaries. And that can be dangerous. At the same time, these religions use guilt to control the behavior of their adherents, and many maintain the guise of being a Mormon. I broke cleanly, but nevertheless, my relationships have been deeply effected by my lost cat behavior.
2007-05-18 08:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by theidealab 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I am convinced that Robert Louis Stevenson's father was an alcoholic, he describe their behaviour perfectly in "The Strange Case of Doctor Jekyll and Mr. Hyde." That is exactly what they are like drunk or sober, stoned or straight, one minute they are nice as anything and the next they are monsters and you wonder if they are really the same person. It wouldn't be so bad if their bad behaviour is usually mean anger and directed towards who ever is near.
2007-05-17 21:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru this with my dad, who thought he was my husband, who was a mormon, my mom, was depressed, my dad was OCD and my brother was...well my parents wouldn't say. My mom couldn't or wouldn't handel my borther and my dad's way of handeling my brother was to try and beat him into submission and on it went, nothing worked, so my mom traded places with me, and my dad got confused and thought that now he had two wives and oh it was dysfunctional for me. I was doing housework and taking care of kids. And had to listent o wifely stuff about submitting to authority and not going to heaven because I couldn't clean a house right ect.
2007-05-17 22:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do I think your story has more holes than a piece of Swiss cheese?
2007-05-19 03:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes. I hope he really is an EX.
2007-05-17 21:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mormon, MORON, whats the difference.
2007-05-17 21:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by ronald g 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋