He's more then nice all day, but after two beers and a bottle of wine, he gets real bossy and controlling. I can handle most things. Don't suggest leaving it's not happening he goes to work every day mon. thru fri., he makes decent money and for the most part we're happy, he's just pissy when he's drinking, he won't stop we've discussed it he feels he has a right since its not illegal and he works daily and pays his bills.
2007-05-17 12:47:01 · 22 answers · asked by shllkng 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't. You move out, at least most people would if they have a shred of self-respect. When he decides to drink and drive with your future kids in the car, think about it again. Later on when he gets more confident and beats you up, again think about it.
Lots of people drink. Lots of people can handle it, he can't.
He's an alcoholic. Have fun! They're just a riot to live with.
2007-05-17 12:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeeeah, i might propose to get faraway from him for a on a similar time as. the very actuality that he blames you for issues you haven't any longer carried out or basically the reality that he seems to think of you're able to have the capacity to examine his thoughts is fairly creepy. It sounds like he's interior the beginning up of an extremely controlling habit trend, and you do no longer choose that. It sounds like he has some extreme anger themes besides, and basically shuts down and blames everybody else for each little thing. attempt suggesting therapy and say it is the two this or a wreck-up. If he refuse to alter his procedures then you definately basically could choose for your self in case you opt to discover somebody greater suited or in case you opt to stay with a guy who will maximum in all risk finally end up being even bodily abusive.
2016-11-24 20:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a sober alcoholic I can tell you that staying just enables his behavior.
If you insist on staying then accept that you are making the choice to allow this treatment of you.
You have no control over him. You can't make him "shut up" when he drinks because that is who he is on alcohol.
I agree with some of the other posters that if you continue to live with him, as soon as he cracks that beer, it's time for you to clear out until he's sober again.
And just FYI alcoholics can be fantastic, highly functioning people when sober but that doesn't undo the damage they do while drunk.
2007-05-17 18:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by cometomama39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a entire bottle of wine? and 2 beers? take him to aa. i don't know where he gets the energy to be pissy. i'm surprised he doesn't just pass out. no way would i live with that.i don't care how much money he makes or how nice he is when he isn't drinking. i'm worth more than that.
2007-05-17 12:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see... you want him to shut up and still want his money. He drinks because you are selfish. The day he realizes that you are using him for some sort of emotional tampon that you can flush down the toilet once a month is the day he will quit drinking and kick your fat w h o r e a s s out to the street.
2007-05-17 16:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the video and record his actions, that will be a real eye opener. Talk to him about getting some counseling because if he only acts this way when he drinks its an alternate personality trait and he feels inferior somewhere in the relationship. Good luck
2007-05-17 13:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by sneakymonica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to deal with the bad... even in a good relationship.... I suggest when he takes that first beer and chugs it... get in the car and go to the store or a family members house until he passes out on the couch then come back, tuck him in and the peace is kept... let him be pissy by his own self. If that dont work get some duck tape and tie his behind to a chair till he sobers up... hahahaha :)
2007-05-17 12:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Soap Girl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you thought about going to Alanon, a meeting place for wives/husbands of alcoholics? It helps you learn how to deal with yourself in relationship with an alcoholic. Usually you can find their number in the phone book under Alanon. If not AA will be able to direct you to a number in your area for Alanon and it is in the phone book under AA.
2007-05-17 13:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Pinca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Install a hidden camera to let him see the difference in how he acts when he's drinking and when he's not drinking. He might be embarrassed by his behavior and slow down on his drinking and eventually stop.
2007-05-17 13:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by whocarez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him for a mild tempered easy going sweetheart, if you dident want to hear this, then you shouldent have asked the question, because anybody who WANTS to stay with a controlling drunk, deserves what she gets.
2007-05-17 13:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋