im 21yrs old i had been goin out with my ex who was younger than me (18) for about 6 months we were ready to move in together because i though he loved me, but i wasent so sure after all he was to0o insecure, and jelous about anything i could even go see my mom cause he would get maD..he wanted all the time for him... ..one day we got into an argument and he hit me...HORRIBLE..i left him of course nd got a restraining order on him..but now after two months i still fell like i love him and i need him!!..i know is not the rigth thing to do0...but i guess i want to ask for someone else opinion other than my family and friends!
2007-05-17 12:10:01 · 18 answers · asked by smartchiCK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope.. i'm sorry but u gotta be rational.
he hit you. that is a DEALBREAKER.
the reason why u think u love him, is cuz you are lonely and miss having someone to be intimate with. i understand that. everyone needs someone to love, and to love them. however, u can't set your standards low.
my suggestion to you is to work on yourself first. take some time out, and work on your confidence. exercise, take care of ur body. try on new and flattering clothes. practice w/ makeup and hairstyles, something that really makes u look and feel pretty :). go out w/ ur girlfriends, go to parties, meet new people, just focus on making new Friends. practice talking to people if u are shy. this is all for your own Confidence and Happiness ok?
once u see and feel a difference in urself, u will realize that you can DO BETTER. that u deserve someone AWesome, someone u can be proud of. not someone u have to hide, or pretend he's good to u but he's not....... this is because of standards, that u have to have for yourself, and who u date.
good luck dear.... u are too young to waste time w/ a guy who mistreats women so. good luck.. i think this question is more a testament to yourself, than of him...... =T. u have to work on being a strong, confident, beautiful, happy and positive woman... that way u will attract the same type of man, and u will feel worth it.
2007-05-17 12:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This teenager will only bring trouble into your life and right now at 21 years old, it's time for you to just enjoy life. You have so much to still do and you deserve alot more, than having to even think of getting a Restraining Order on some immature 18 year old punk that you claim you fell in love with. PLEEEEEEASE.
You need to have self respect, pride, esteem, dignity, worth and value. Don't let no punk play you for a fool. It supposed to be a man and he's supposed to be doing anything just to make you happy. Your man hasn't arrived yet. Just hang on, he should be there within the next couple of years. That's when you will fall in love...
2007-05-17 19:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm from an abusive marriage of 16 years.He was jealous, possessive of me, timed me when I went to the store, checked the redial on the phone and would even ask the kids who called or if I called anyone. I tell you to move on and keep the restraining order on him. He may never hit you again but with that order you know for sure.And he will be more controlling with the years.Stay strong.
2007-05-17 22:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there , done that. I never thought I would live to see 26. The answer is NO he will hit you again. He will not want you or let you spend time with family, friends or co-workers. He'll say you're cheating, he will be smelling your underwear. He will be screening you phone calls and e-mail.
I hope this message keeps you or anyone reading this from going back or seriously seeking help to get out. I was lucky that I got out alive, I've known others that didn't.
I suggest going to your family and friends and ask them to help you stay busy until you get over this young man.
2007-05-17 19:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to him becoz he loves u, he's acting like that becoz he's afraid to lose u, forgive him and before u get back together tell him if he does that again he will lose u forever..but i hope he will forgive u about the restraining order, becoz what u did was so bad, and i know what he did was sooooo bad too but puting police between u and him is really bad..
2007-05-17 19:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ahmed K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the immature insecure baby alone. men don't hit women. hes a real creep, i'd like to ***** slap him a few times, the coward. for you're safety stay away from him. he'll make the paper one day. you might to, only in the obituary section.
2007-05-17 19:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by debbie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him and it is hard,but if he hit you once and you go back,he will do it again,it might be worse,you life is not worth it! Be by yourself it will be hard but you will fall out of love and realize you made the right choice,and then you will find someone who really loves you and wont hurt you
2007-05-17 19:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by athena01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are getting the same response from everyone.....stay away from him. He's a boy with a lot of problems but abuse is never justifiable.
2007-05-17 19:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer is no, no, AND DID I SAY NO????? he sounds like he's got some growing up to do and is NOT ready. if he's insecure and jealous that's NOT a good sign. get away from him A S A P !!!!!!
2007-05-17 19:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you'll be saying it's alright to hit me. You have to ask yourself why you think you deserve this
2007-05-17 19:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋