How to abstain from Sex ? and Why?
Whats the right time to have it?
2007-05-17 11:55:59 · 22 answers · asked by Taurian 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm not a teen, (I'm 22yo), but I think I know the answer anyway.
Abstaining is pretty easy... keep it in your pants. This will be a lot easier to do if you don't make out too much, as it might be hard to keep your pants on when you're really *****. Also, like someone else said, you have hands for a reason. Giving handjobs/fingering is safe and (to me) acceptable in a premarital relationship. Make sure your hands are clean though.
Why abstain? Because sex is so wonderful that only your spouse deserves you. Especially for women sex can be really emotional and they'll get hurt if you break up with them after having sex, plus they might feel like they're sluts. So if you love them, wait till you've made that commitment so that you won't hurt them in the future. Condoms aren't 100% safe, they can break or slide off on occasion. Yes, I've had this happen a couple of times. It wasn't a big deal because it was with my husband but if it's with someone you don't know all that well it'll freak you out... pregnancy might occur, with possible child support issues and all kinds of guilty feelings etc, and then there's STDs as well. Not worth it. Last but not least, I've only had sex with my husband and I think it's great I don't have anybody to compare him to... he's the best ever. :) Odds are he would be if I'd slept with someone else as well, but this is the only way to make *sure*. It's also plain romantic and intimate to only have sex with your spouse. And remember, you can't undo losing your virginity. When it's lost it's gone.
Anytime after marriage is fine. 4am, noon, whenever you and your spouse feel like it. :)
2007-05-17 13:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell you how to abstain from intercourse, it's called your hands and your partners hands. Why abstain from sex because the condom ain't 100% protective against std's or pregnancy. The right time to have sex is after you are dating someone for a while and you are smart enough to betaking birth control and use a condom.
2007-05-17 19:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by Trinidy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would nt worry about deciding whether to have sex or not, or when the right time is. No one can tell you when the right time is apart from you, when its right and your ready you will know.
Dont ever feel pushed or rushed because its you that will have to live with your decisions.
I lost my virginity when i was 17 i didnt plan it, but it just felt like the right time and i ve never regretted it. Just make sure you careful.
2007-05-17 20:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easiest way in my opinion do you really want to be like a lot of people out there who wishes they had've waited for that someone special instead of just having a bit of fun. I know i would have rather waited for my fiance. Also remember no protection is 100% effective if you are not ready to deal with having a baby dont have sex.
2007-05-17 19:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by n4w05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to abstain? Don't do it. Go out with someone that respects you enough to abstain with you. You really don't need to be having that kind of intimate relationship outside of marraige... what's the point?
2007-05-17 19:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Squeegee Beckingheim :-) 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OKAY MAYBE YOU SHOULD OBSERVE RELIGION.I KNOW THAT IN THESE DAYS KEEPING YOUR LEGS CROSSED UNTIL MARRIAGE IS A HARD THING TO DO.I THINK THAT THEY RIGHT TIME TO HAVE IT IS WHEN YOU GET MARRIED.AND ALSO NO SEX,NO BABIES.GET IT PEOPLE?I MEAN IT'S JUST REALLY DISGUSTING WHAT THIS WORLD HAS BECOME.I MEAN REALLY.ANYWAY THERE ARE A LOT OF CONSEQUENCES.SO THOSE OF YOU OUT THERE READING THIS I SUGGEST AND SUPPORT ABSTINENCE UNTIL MARRIAGE.
2007-05-17 21:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by johncenagirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just Do Not Do IT.
Sex is giving a part of yourself to some one. It is the most intimate part of your being.
The right time to have it is after you say "I Do" with your spouse.
2007-05-17 19:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
save it for marriage! it's more special if you wait and it has more meaning because the person your gonna spend the rest of your life with is completely yours and you dont have to feel like they've been shared with anybody else.
2007-05-17 20:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about getting a brand new corvette. Then having to get rid of it because a car seat won't fit in the back.
2007-05-17 18:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it hard. it requires a lot of self-control. i'm 17, and still a virgin. trust me, it hasn't been easy. i just think that when i find a girl, i want her first time to be with me. so i try to save myself for that girl that i will spend the rest of my life with.
**** helps, too ;-)
2007-05-17 19:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by milan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋