when should / should a teen come out to his / her parents about there sexuality ?

Question

im 16,
traditional christian catholic family
(THE PROBLEM)
Lebanese Dad (PROBLEM)
who i hate !
my parents going through a devorce !
my parents dont accept gay people !
what should i do i feel traped !
HELP

Answer 1

This depends entirely on the teen and the parents in question.

Ideally, the teen should feel comfortable discussing anything at all with his/her parents, and the parents should love and accept their kid no matter what, even if they don't necessarily approve of everything the kid does. However, not every family is "ideal".

In some families, sad to say, the sensible thing for the teen to do is to keep everything under wraps until after s/he's become an adult and moved out of the parents' home.

Answer 2

I say when you feel ready and comfortable to tell them. You shouldn't hide who you are, but if you feel that "YOU" are not ready to tell them, then wait until you are. Just remember your parents love you no matter what. I'm not saying your parents will jump up and down for joy when you tell them (though who knows, I don't know your parents so I can't gauge their reaction), their will probably be some shock but eventually it will settle in and they'll accept it. Now if, unfortunately, your parents are against your sexual preference (again I can't say because I don't know them), in the end it wont matter, because you need to be who you are and not what others want you to be. And if that means being gay, then be gay. Do what makes you happy. Don't let others criticisms hold you back or make you feel bad about yourself. No matter what you are and what choices you make in life there will ALWAYS be people who don't agree, and what they think about you doesn't matter. It's what you think and feel about yourself that matters. Hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 3

Okay, true life story.
I'm 13, and I am Bisexual.
I am super mature for my age, I know whats going on and i'm not stupid. I am going out with another girl, but I also like guys.

My mom found out cause I was always so happy and she finally figured it out.
she says its a phase, and doesn't apporve, you know what?
I know what i am getting myself into, and i am as happy as can be. I can handle bad times. And the good ones are breathtaking. Best days of my life, no joke. My dad on the other hand, HATES un-straight people.
So, he'd murder me, really. If he found out. yet like everyone knows. when he finds out, and even TOUCHES me, I'm calling 911.

:D

So, I don't know.
How old are you?

and I would probably NOT tell them.
its better.
Wait until they find out and laugh in their face,
my parents won't support me no matter what.

I'm not smart or whatever they expect me to be.
DEAL.

Answer 4

After college! If ever. Is it necessary to come out? The answer is different for each person. Finish college and you will be much more mature and able to deal with all the possible issues involved.

I have a friend who has come out to her Mom, but not her Dad; she doesn't think it's important for him to know.

Answer 5

Now is a good time, never to young to talk to parents,if you are going to have sex parents are not going to stop you they may try to get you to wait,but they already know that they can't stop you,because when you are ready you are ready,but they can help you out because they have been there and done it,a few pointers can't hurt.

Answer 6

When the teen has fully accepted it him/herself, and knows that it isn't just a little phase and that its how you really feel. It may be hard for the parents at first, but they love their kids no matter what so don't ever feel like you can't tell them things. They'll accept their kids even if its hard at first.

Answer 7

thats tough, alot of parents think its just a phase, but the sooner the better, they may not understand at first, but they'll come around. they wont stop loving u, so dont worry about that. go to whoever u closer to, mom/dad, aunt/uncle, and tel them that ur confused, u think ur attracted to the same sex. once you get it out to whoever, you'll get support, go for it

Answer 8

It depends on your parents. I love and support my kids. I have told them it doesn't matter to me. I just want them to be with someone they care about and that cares as much for them. My 13yr old is Bi, she is still my daughter, and I love her more because she told me. I would never want my children to hide that, that would mean they are hiding from themselves. BUT, it really depends on your parents. I hope everything works out.

Answer 9

Preferably before you bring home your BF. But if you think your parents will go "spare" on you, then wait until you move out of the house.

Answer 10

46 Years Old Maybe ...I Should Think About That..I Still Haven't