This is driving me insane?

Question

My husband of nearly 4 years can't do anything to get himself ready for work in the morning,some how we have just got into this pattern of him ordering me to iron his clothes, pack his lunch, tie his tie,make his breakfast,im getting more tired each day(im nearly 30 weeks pregnant) and im getting sick of being his mummy,this has to change soon ortherwise i'll have 3 kids instead of 2(we have a 2yr old daughter already)...i have asked him and told him and you name it i have tried but he still makes me feel guilty if i don't to these things for him everyday....shouldn't a man get himself ready for work? god if i was him i would...

like he won't help me with anything,it's like im not really "pregnant "and in need of help till im huge and ready to drop..

Answer 1

I have a white collar job and a wife that doesn't work, I prepare everything. your "job" is hard enough raising (carrying) the kids. Tell him to get into this century and pull his own wght. I would flip if my wife ever packed a lunch. However she is getting good at shopping!!

Answer 2

He has become a toddler again, but you're enabling him by letting him guilt you into doing those things.

Treat him like a toddler then--mushed up bananas for breakfast. Oatmeal with formula for lunch. Bibs, diapers, etc. etc.....

No, really. 1. Don't let yourself feel guilty. 2. For the short term, make deals...."I'll iron your clothes while you pack your lunch". Don't do your part unless he does his 3. For the long-term --gradually give him more independence and make him take more responsibility for himself. He is an adult, after all. Eventually if he doesn't make his own lunch, he isn't going to eat then, is he? If he doesn't iron his own clothes, he'll go to work wrinkled. Simple as that.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You best break it to him gently. You are going to be too tired with three to be able to be his nanny any longer. Was he indulged by his mother? In a few weeks you will be pooped and need him to fix things around the house. Do NOT shy away from telling this spoiled man that he is going to have to experience a reality check real soon. The danger is that you will be ill. You have to get rest or you may get anemia. I think if you tell sunshine that he has the choice of looking after himself or looking after all of you (because you will be on bed rest) he will get the message. Your husband of four years sounds like he is four years old! Do it as soon as you can or there will be a truck load of trouble coming to your house! Good luck, and a big gold medal for putting up with him!

Answer 5

He really needs to grow up and act like a man instead of treating you like you are his mommy.Leave him and run away with me. We can be happy together and i will help you with the kids, cook half of the meals, do the windows, give you foot rubs, pamper your sweet self with a night off from the kids so you don't go out of your mind. What EVER happened to the sacred covenant of marriage and the fact that men and women are seen equally by God and are compliments to each other.

Answer 6

Well what would you rather have.....

A. A pissed off husband because you won't tie his shoes, tie his tie, make his lunch, and send him off to school....uh....I mean send him off to work with a smile and a kiss?

or

B. A happy husband that's being babied by his wife, but you being exhausted, frustrated, and pregnant?

If you answered "A" then the answer here is simple. Sleep in! When he complains tell him YOU are the wife, that YOU are the one who's pregnant, and that HE should be bringing you breakfast in bed! That's what I did when my wife was pregnant with our twin baby girls!

Answer 7

Well, it sounds like you are the only one trying in your relationship, I assume your a stay at home mom ? If you are, he probably see's those things in the morning that you do for him as your "job". But he really should be putting in his part to help you and make things easier for you, that's how a real relationship works right ? You might want to get counceling now before things get out of hand and you start resenting him. Good luck hope he changes for you !

Answer 8

Well, Sexy Mum, the question is whether you work as well. Do you have a job? Or is your husband the sole wage earner? It seems to me that if he is going off to work every day to support you and the kid(s), and you are not going off to work, then you shouldn't mind tying his tie and seeing him off. Where has the romance gone, right? Because you probably loved tying his tie and seeing him off when you were young newlyweds. The question is how do you get that back?

Answer 9

He has confidence in you to do the things he asks. It is a compliment. It doesn't mean you HAVE to do these things though. If you stop, he'll eventually begin to take care of himself like a grown up once again.

Answer 10

He SHOULD be able to iron his own clothes, tie his own tie and pack his own lunch...but I doubt if it is going to hurt you to cook him breakfast while you're getting breakfast for your daughter. And it would be better for your marriage if you didn't nag him all the time.