- a guy who cries with you
- a guy with equal chore responsibilities at home
- a guy who the children depend on as much as the mom
- a guy who is sensitive enough to remember to get you flowers on b-days & mother's days
- a guy who attends all the kids' functions like b-day parties, swimming lessons, school events.
women, that man just described is GAY. lol
2007-05-17 11:14:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
yes
2007-05-19 04:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I am not a feminist, but I am a woman so I guess I am qualified to answer lol. I don't want a man who cries and whines all the time. I do want someone who feels a bond enough with me to actually show his emotions when needed. I am not a "cryer" myself. I want to be there for him in every way as well.
Not equal chore responsibilities, but someone who is not afraid to do some work. I cook, clean and such, but I also have health issues and am just getting out of a wheelchair due to strokes and seizures. My boyfriend lives with my daughter and I and really accepted the responsibilities of the house when I was unable to. That is love.....
Dad's are the one mom's say "You just wait till your father gets home" lol. That is how it has always been. We are the emotional ones and when they get to spend time with daddy because of work and such it is great to them. That time is very special then. That is what I personally want. A family man as well as an independant man.
I have never been much of a gifty person. Just having my boyfriend's love is plenty enough for me. It is wonderful though when out of the blue he will bring a single rose, or just the biggest " I love you " hug in the world. To me it is all the little things that count. If he did that constantly and was prompt with dates of things I would think he had done something wrong lmao.
A man who is as involved in family life as he can be is a great man to me. I have a 4yr old daughter and one on the way. My boyfriend is not afraid to spend time, hold, hug, cuddle with my daughter. She loves every minute of it. As do I. He does this VERY often :D Well, that is just my input lol. Thanks for listening. Take care :D
2007-05-17 12:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That isn't what I look for. I don't want a cry baby so no I don't want him to cry. I would have to tell him to grow some--lol. You are right with sharing the chores. A guy needs to be their for his kids but a mother and father role are both needed, there is no equal there. A guy should attend his kids activities but we all know guys have to make the money so they can't always make it to them (they better be working and not screwing around--lol). There is no perfect man out there. Every woman wants someone different but we can't make them into a mold, even though that would be nice.
2007-05-17 11:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Is this what feminists are looking for in a man? (I don't consider myself a feminist.)
- a guy who cries with you (He doesn't cry at all)
- a guy with equal chore responsibilities at home(No, because he works damned hard in his job as a carpenter, BUT he does give me a break from cooking when I'm tired, bathes the kids, takes them to soccer, washes the dishes, cleans my car, goes to the shops when I need something.)
- a guy who the children depend on as much as the mom(not necessarily, but our 3 sons love him and want him to play soccer/footy/cricket with them, but he is a great help with the kids)
- a guy who is sensitive enough to remember to get you flowers on b-days & mother's days (sometimes he forgets, but I don't mind, he works very hard, but that doesn't happen often and he always makes up for it, none of us are perfect)
- a guy who attends all the kids' functions like b-day parties, swimming lessons, school events.(He does when he's able too, but I realise that he is tired after working and can't do everything)
2007-05-17 12:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Shivers 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I am NOT a feminist.
But YES!! that is what i am looking for in a man. a REAL MAN doesn't hide his emotions a REAL MAN who Loves his Children enough to make time for them and to attends their functions are what we call GREAT FATHERS. they care enough to Love their Children. they are NOT just in it for the wrong reason. Men like that are Wonderful.
And with God's help I Pray i will meet a REAL MAN like the one you asked about. because then I would know i was Loved and I could be a REAL WOMEN. and I could finally have the Love of a Real Man and NOT a LIAR.
2007-05-17 17:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Mommy 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
A man who does these things are not gay, but sensitive to a woman needs. Me frankly I don't want to see a man cry unless it is at a funeral perably someone close to him. A guy who share chores equally is good, considering most men make messes and leave them for the female to clean. All these qualities you described are not gay qualities but superman qualities and there are only a few of them around. But when you find one give him my number because, I'm looking for him, don't forget he got to be good in bed.
2007-05-17 11:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mofabolist 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Ah, the gay card. A valuable asset for men who have no idea what the hell they're talking about.
In actuality, this man is simply sensitive and equal-minded, which is indeed what most feminists are looking for in a man. All I'm looking for is really good sex.
2007-05-17 11:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hmm, that's funny, 'cause my husband does pretty well with all of those things, although he cries a lot less often than me and is occasionally forgetful when it comes to holidays (but he's a forgetful person). He's very giving and respectful, and a fantastic father. It's funny how guys want to just say, "women can't be pleased" so they give up. Maybe the problem is that you aren't doing the *right* things to attract a woman, not that you need to *be* a woman. My husband is very masculine, and we get along great.
2007-05-17 11:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Junie 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
No he's not...I live with him, and I know from personal experience that he's entirely heterosexual.
My brother and my father also have all of these qualities, as do all of my brothers-in-law, and all of my uncles. It's really just a matter of being a decent human being who genuinely cares about the person he has chosen to share his life with.
I don't think it's just feminists who are looking for these qualities in a man...it's all women.
If you can't at least have most of these, my guess is that your chance of finding a long term love in your life is highly limited.
2007-05-17 11:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Feminists are not looking for a "gay" type man. I think a comment like that is something a feminist would not like. I am not a radical feminist or anything but you really need to stop stereotyping women and gays, some people could find it very offensive.
2007-05-17 11:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Olivia 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
-My husband cries with me when appropriate
- We share the chores 40/60 because I am home more
-We are 40/60 with our kids
-He bought me my favorite bottle of sparkling wine and an awesome teapot press for mother's day
-And we trade off: he does soccer I do swimming.
He hates to watch organized sports (yay for me) but loves video games (really annoying)
-oh and he is "100 hetero"(whatever that means believe me I have tried to subject him to my guy on guy porn...not interested.)
Oh and also he is 98% secure with my feminism and views on gender/sex
2007-05-17 12:10:39 · answer #11 · answered by Yemaya 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋