how do you know when to get married?

Question

my dad is sick, and i'd like to get married b4 he passes on...but i dont want it to push me to get married either...when do u know ??

Answer 1

If you feel like you are pushing yourself......then you're not ready.

Although....even when you ARE ready....you'll be a little scared and not COMPLETELY know that you're ready......it's a big leap....you just have to trust yourself.

I'm going to hope that you are at least engaged if you are talking about this. If so, talk to your fiance....see what he thinks. This ISN'T just your decision. And if you aren't engaged....well......then I don't really think you are even remotely ready, lol.

Good luck. And I hope everything works out for the best!!

Answer 2

In my family it's an unwritten rule that you finish High School before you get married.

If I was critically sick I wouldn't expect any more, maybe your Dad might think the same way that your education or age might be more important.

Have a heart to heart with him to work out what he see is most important, don't feel your compromised because of your Dad as you come to realize he may never see all the milestones (ie birth of first or last child) of a marriage anyway.

Answer 3

You should only marry when you find the right person. There are many people who marry without their dad by their side, and while it is sad, they are making the right choice. If you try to hurry on with a relationship, chances are you are probably going to get a divorce because you took things too fast.

If he does pass away while you are still single, it will be okay. He will be watching you from wherever he is.

Answer 4

It sounds like your dad's illness is playing a bigger role in your decision than your love for you partner. I know that your situation is difficult, but you should wait until you feel completely comfortable with the idea. I mean, there will be doubts, but let those doubts arise naturally, not beacuse of your dad's situation. If you ask him, he would probably want that.

Answer 5

Your father´s illness is the worse reason to get married. You first have to love someone. When the moment comes you´ll know for sure and i can assure you it wont have anything to do with your dad. For the moment enjoy your father, he surely doesn't mind whether you get married or not.

Answer 6

Well see how ur boyfriend feels. Bring it up and if he freaks out then u know the timing is wrong. If its ur fiancee then who cares. The earlier the better right, u guys are gonna get married anyways.

Answer 7

Nu-uh! You don't get married because you want your dad to see you get married! Sure that's a sweet thought, but to be honest you should only get married when you feel ready and you've met "Mr. Right". Besides, your dad would probably want to see you in a happy marriage not one you married just... because y'know?

Answer 8

You just know, it's that simple.

At some point after dating someone you will just have to ask yourself "Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person?". And if the answer is an OBVIOUS "Yes" then there is your answer. There should be no maybe, maybe not, etc. You will know.

Answer 9

DO NOT get married for any reasons other than the following:

1. You are madly, deeply in love with the person;
2. You cannot live without the person.

ANy other reasons are PLAIN STUPID.

Answer 10

Ideally, only after you've taken sufficient time to discuss all the issues that are IMPORTANT to you and your fiance'.

Anything less is just inviting disaster and a "rude awakening" early in the marriage.