Serious question, does anyone know if child support can be arranged?

Question

A friend is asking me can child support be put on her instead of her ex, because he will not stop harrasing her. She want's custody to pay his back pay, he lived with her and never took care of her and their children. He is in and out of their lives, but she has to get on aid sometimes to make ends meet, the State does collect child support from her ex spouse. But he cries all the time about how much he owes because, his checks are garnished but he wont make other payment arrangements to stop the interest. If anyone knows can this be reversed?

My friend isnt feeling sorry for him, he just makes her so ill, telling her I got another letter that I owe this much, she tells him, what do you want me to do? So that is why she just wants to get rid of him, because she struggles with her teen, and is so impossible to go to work, she struggles. I see it, so not everyone on aid, want's to be on it, they want real jobs just like everybody else, I see her in tears. She turns to me, and her children see dad always mentaly abusing mom. Aid, because it is more than what they garnish of his checks. The State collects, $600.00, when they can.

Answer 1

Yeah you can

call an attorney
file a motion to reverse child support
there will be a hearing
make sure yor friend has hard evidence *such as tapes, videos anything liek that that proves that he is harassing her
the judge should be able to reverse custody
the only problem you might have is tapes may not be admissable butthere is a way around it.
have someone video tape a child and on the background somewhere record a conversation ... if his attorney is b*tching, she can claim it as "we didnt realize that it was captured on camera .. we were recording a kid"

Answer 2

Let me first say I absolutely agree with BarB!

With that said, It still sounds to me that the book doesn't match the pictures here? I'm a little confused. Is this the biological father? If so, he needs to stop crying and step up to the plate.
Why would your friend in her right mind want to reduce his child support? Is this man really harrassing her or is she feeling sorry for him or even worse trying to get back with him?
The main answer to the question however is this: You have to check with in your state. Each State has different laws. Further, each county has juristction and binder's. So I would call the county in which his child support is being wage garnished first. Get all the INFORMATION yourself. You don't need an attorney to do this. If at some point you do, if youhave no money the courts will appoint an attorney to you/ or your children?

Then you can if your ( still out of your mind) Appeal to the court for a reduction. The judge does NOT have to grant your request.
What needs to be your friends first and formost concern is her children, not her EX.
AGAIN SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT HERE? I don't think the whole story is being told....
Like Barb says, if this gal has to go on family support because of a dead beat dad OR a dead beat mom. We the tax payer's are already paying for way to many free loader's in this country as it is!

I can say this to you because was a single parent. I did collect welfare. However, I was working and going to school to become a police officer. ( which I did accomplish) Family support only helped me with the difference in monies needed.

There are jobs out there. They may not be high paying jobs, so if your an able bodied person you have no excuse.

I raised my child, worked two jobs, (fast food) went to school, "rented A ROOM" from a friend because I could not afford to rent my own appartment. I worked out arrangments for day care with a gal in a simular situation.

By no means am I tooting my own horn, It was darn hard work, and hard times for quiet a while.

My child didn't know any different. I loved him and played with him, we walked to the park, ate popcicles together etc..... He thought I was the next best thing next to ice cream :O)

All that matter's is that you work hard and love your children. Pay attention to them and always remind them it's not whst you have in live that is important,,,,,,, It's what you can give back to other's. What goes around comes around. :O)
True story~
Your friend need's to not be so easy on the Father ans stand up to bat for herself!
In the long run she will hold her head high, be more onfident very proud of her accomplishments.
Good luck to her.

Answer 3

The father is legally responsible for supporting his own children - with the mother.

The state shouldn't have to....State money comes from we, the taxpayers and we don't have to support them if they have a mother and father perfectly able to work.

If Daddy dearest is behind in his child support and is being forced to pay up - well, too bad about that.

Your friend is already supporting the children by having custody. There is no reason to order the custodial parent to pay a certain amount of money to wherever... She provides housing, food and everything else the children need - daddy is supposed to contribut an equal amount.

If he is crying all the time because he is broke - tough bananas.... He wasn't crying when he made those babies. Your friend should distance herself from him. If he has visitation and actually spends any time with the children, he should pick the children up and take them to his house or apartment, not visit in the mothers home. That leads to too many problems.