My mate is thinking of going to the USA to get married.
But her Family will be disappointed if they are not there. She wants to know - if she doesn't tell them will anyone know she has got married. Is there a legal duty to inform the authorities ie GP, HospitalTax office.
She is going to be here for a couple of hours - can you tell her.
2007-05-17 10:15:10 · 23 answers · asked by barneysmommy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why does she want to deceive her family? How would she feel if her daughter/son got married and didn`t want her to know?
2007-05-17 10:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You always have a legal duty to tell whatever authority you live in to tell them that you are married it has all sorts of implications to tax codes and eventually pensions as well as insurances, she could always get marrie dint he states then come back and organise a reception and a blessing that her family could attend but if she is worried about her family interfering organise it and then a couple of weeks before hand tell them that they are married and she will also have a marriage certificate that am not sure but think she has to register with her husband in this country that they are legally married!! home office web site should have more info or a travel agent even they specialise in overseas weddings these days, hope this helps can't offer any more advice other than good luck and tell your parents even if it's when you get back and have done it if they love you they will understand?
jojo
2007-05-17 17:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you worked out an arrangement where you guys would get married in the USA and have a reception wherever her parents are? Or maybe you could fly the parents out with you guys?
And if none of those would work, then live your life together as YOU BOTH see fit. It's HER life, not her parent's- she should live it the way she wants and get married the way she wants.
I mean, come on- it will be your wedding, it's supposed to be you and your [( new )] wife's special day- is it really going to be that special if you plan it around someone else's wants and needs?
2007-05-17 17:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by msxcheshirexcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people get married in the country that they will be living in (I am assuming she is marrying a U.S. citizen for the RIGHT reasons) and they have a civil marriage, do all the paperwork, then have a regular wedding with the family. You don't have to tell the family but the gov. will want to know since her status will have changed.
Then she just has a regular wedding in her own country with her friends and family.
2007-05-17 17:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pete P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in most states you have to buy a marriage liscence and then wait 36 hours to get married and some states want blood work which is an additional 2 weeks and u may have to be a U S citizen and in some states if you spend the night with a person you are considered married...............so good luck 2 your friend with gettin hitched in the states ya gatta follow the laws man!
2007-05-17 17:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by helpfull2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a legal duty to report taxes but you can file married joint or married separate. when you get married they don't post it on the national news you know. Really why marry at all if you hide it? sounds like it's a rush decision would be best done with the family blessing.
2007-05-17 17:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you legally have to tell anyone. I got married in secret and I thought I had to tell my boss, but actually there was no way he could have known!
So many women these days keep their own name, who is to know?
But I do wonder at keeping a marriage secret. My family found out and were very hurt. Would it not be better to tell them your plans? They might be hurt, but not as much so as if they found out after the fact.
2007-05-17 17:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, but that's her business not her family's business, and I think it only applies to name changes etc.
But what about getting married there and coming back and announcing they did it on a whim and then having a party that her family can organise and she can just turn up for a few hours and then no-one needs to be disappointed.
2007-05-17 17:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Oldgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are benefits to being married that your mate will want to enjoy, and to enjoy them he'll have to admit to the world that he is married. You can't really expect to hide it. Its part a legal state and part a society thing. If you are married, society allows you to have sex and sleep together, prohits dating, etc. I don't think that having a secret marriage and then keeping it secret is a good idea.
2007-05-17 17:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what state she is from, let me tell you how it is in the US. The only way someone knows here is if the public records are printed in your newspaper and because we have to inform the DMV and Social Security for name changes (and tax purposes.) I would assume, is she does it here then goes home, no one would know!!
2007-05-17 17:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by bski0409 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your family that u are getting married,there is no way they can find out unless you tell them.but you do have to let the authorities know that you are married. bank, tax office
2007-05-17 18:41:07 · answer #11 · answered by shazbust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋