ok. i just want to point out that i like guys and i tottally dont like girls at all. theres no doubt about it, i was born and made to like guys.
but heres the thing...everytime i hear how guys and girls are "diffrent" i always end up relating to the guys!
i hate talking on the phone, unless i have to, sometimes i dont feel like talking because im thinking, and i love cars and fixing stuff. but on the surface im so girlie. i wear make-up and dress up like a little doll sometimes. so i know im not a tom-boy 'cause i am pretty feminine, but then i dont know why i could relate to a guy so much! why am i like this? is there an answer to why i am like this?
2007-05-17 09:57:45 · 10 answers · asked by Love101 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Generally, attitudes and behaviors we have as adults are taught to us by our parents, or whoever nurtured us when we were children.
An overly simplistic explanation would be that your caregivers encouraged you to pursue activities that society has decided are male pursuits. So perhaps as a child you wandered out to the garage while someone was working on a car and they got you to help and rewarded you for it. In this way, tinkering with cars becomes associated with the love you feel for the person who encouraged you.
The same person probably encouraged you to express yourself in a 'feminine' way. So to praise how good you looked in dresses and make-up etc...
To a degree these behaviors are arbitrarily associated with gender. There are things that, statistically, women do better then men, and vice versa. However, none of these count when dealing with an individual. So the fact that you love cars does not make you any less feminine.
This is a complicated question and only a careful examination of your childhood is going to give a concrete answer. I hope you not giving yourself a hard time over it.
2007-05-17 10:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by bsandyman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife always had more guy friends than girl friends. She said she was always in the room with the guys drinking beer and watching football while the other girls were in the kitchen talking about shopping. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. You just relate better to guys. BTW, my wife is a girlie girl too.
2007-05-17 18:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm tall and thin and look like Jessica Rabbitt in a red dress and heels.
I can fly a plane, kayak rapids, and I've driven a car 200mph at Bonneville Salt Flats. I built my own hotrod when I was 18. I'm a champion wing shot with a shotgun. And I hold the league record for Homeruns in part of KY.
Don't worry about that boy-girl stuff, do what you like..........
2007-05-17 17:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you ask "why do I act like a guy" is because you are comparing stereotypical things that guys do compare to stereotypical things girls do.
Forgive me for being bold, but I for one can tell you that guys would love to know a girl with your personality and demeanor. So you should not worry about coming off as a tom-boy.
Do what you got to do bigheart73, and leave the stereotypes where they belong.... back in the 1950s.
2007-05-17 17:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by [deleted] 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but to relate, and you don't act like a guy. Sure, there's the 75% or so straight guys that fall into the stereotypical mould, and maybe 45% of girls that fall into their own stereotype. (Just my opinion.) You don't act like a guy or a girl, you act like YOU. And if anyone's got a problem with that, just smile inwardly because they just might not be sure who they are.
2007-05-17 17:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How guys and girls "are" are generalizations and not how every guy or girl is. Do you actually know a girl who does all of the "girlie things". Even if you do, not every girl you know does. Just be yourself.
2007-05-17 17:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
.....Physically and sexually, you're 100% female...and isn't that nice!
But culturally and socially, you're also into some guy things. There's nothing wrong with that! No conflict, no problem. I know many women like that.
I encourage you to ignore the stereotypes and just be yourself and get involved in whatever quacks your duck...enjoy!
2007-05-17 17:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew girls like you. All the ones I know are lying controlling phone obsessed people.
2007-05-17 18:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a well rounded "Person". Don't worry about being like a "guy" or like a "girl". You are developing into a Woman, which is even better!
2007-05-17 17:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Vivian D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
generalizations are just that... and they don't apply to everyone.. you fall on the outside of the curve.. that's all.. no big deal.
you also may be a little bit of an introvert.. that could explain some of your behaviors.. but that's just a guess on limited info.
2007-05-17 17:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋