Ok,he was a senior in high school until a week ago(he is graduating tomorrow)he never did his work and he failed almost all year long because all he did was play around with his rich friends and make jokes about other people and even draw stupid drawings of somebody else...they think it's really funny...his friends never failed in classes, he was the only one who did fail...I use to tell him that his friends are RICH and they don't care about school to much because they got their RICH parents to support them...but he didn't listen to me,all he cared about was hang out with his friends and adore his friends expensive cars and he would talk about it for hours...my boyfriend is poor,his car is really old and he has no money at all,he lives for his rich friends and what is worse about it is that he WORKS everyday for one of his friends and NEVER got payed for what he does...Today I asked him where was he and he said "I am going to work in my friend's house"and I got really mad because...
2007-05-17 09:52:18 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had enough of this ****..and I told him that I am not going to his graduation party and he is really mad at me but I have many reasons to not go right? What can I do about the whole situation??Please help me!What would if you were me?
2007-05-17 09:54:25 · update #1
what would you do?
2007-05-17 09:55:16 · update #2
That's an affirmative. Idiot city!
2007-05-17 09:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by SloanMercy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, your dude is really a big idiot but despite that, he needs you coz you are his only true friend. Try advising him on the right thing to do because his future will be ruined. Those rich friends are only using him and please help him understand that clearly. Attend his graduation and be there to support him, but don't hide the fact that what he is doing is stupid and it also makes him look stupid.Am 100% sure he is just like a slave to those rich guys and he doesn't really enjoy what he does with them. Help him be true to himself and he will find true happiness. But if he gives you a cold shoulder, then damn!! he's the biggest idiot i've ever heard of, and damp him coz you can't live with a guy who is destroying himself and trying to fit where he isn't supposed 2 be n' not wanting to listen to advice........
2007-05-17 10:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by dovey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One your boyfriend isn't an idiot he is star struck, because he is poor and has never had too much of anything he appreciates what they for them. What I must admit though is that it was a stupid MISTAKE to let himself fail school or barely pass because of them. Being poor means you have to work twice as hard to pull yourself out of the dumps and into a formidable situation. I believe his rich friends are using him if he is work for free, and his never at least offered to pay a little something. Seeing that he is there everyday
2007-05-17 10:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing and i'm pretty sure u miss him and ur mad at the same time. it seems he has a unhealthy relationship with his friends it sounds like he's living just 4 them or he's jus happy 4 them 2 grace him with there presence and that's honestly sad. if it were me i'd try talking 2 him which u have so what else is there but 2 break it off cause it seems that they r more important then u hell they seem 2 b more important to him then himself. it maybe hard but tell him u need a break and c if he changes if not leave him 4 good. easier said then done i know but u have 2 b happy 2.
2007-05-17 10:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tati 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bet is that he is either an only child, or the youngest child in a family, and as such, used to be taking care of.
I wouldn't call him an idiot, but I suspect he is someone who expects to get by on the work of others. This could change in ten years. But I doubt it will change tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow.
What I hear is that you've lost respect for him. That's something he should know. Might be a motivator, or might prompt the argument that gets you moving on to a harder-working boyfriend.
2007-05-17 09:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Christopher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And you are still with him? This is how the rich stay rich. They make the poor think they need certain things, when this is not important.
The rich laugh every time a poor kid flunks, AGAIN!! That keeps them rich. They keep the flunkies working for min. wage. That is alright by them because they stay, what? RICH!! Tell him, grow up or ship out. Your choice gurly!! Step-up, for it might help him in the long run.
2007-05-17 09:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Coach A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is being what's called a "rider". He knows he doesn't have the money or the smarts, so he's kissing up to his rich friends in order to appear better than he is. He needs a swift kick in the rear end to get him to start pulling his weight. At the very least, he should be paid for the work he has been doing for his "friends".
2007-05-17 09:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think he is an idiot. But simply a follower. He is sort of the rich kids groopy. He is probably to young to know what he wants out of life. And probably thinks that if he hangs around rich kids he may become rich himself.
2007-05-17 10:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Prince 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well... I would not say he is stupid.
im thinking that he has WAY to much time on his hands if he spends all that time with his friends. Maybe you need to try to get him involved in something. Sign him up for a job review. Just do something so he can earn himself some money! That poor poor boy....
2007-05-17 09:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Tell him he has no self respect and that until he can respect himself, he’s not someone you should have to respect. And also tell him if he cannot get serious and get an education seriously (like try hard for it) than how would he support you if you got married? And if he can’t take school seriously than how could he take you and a family seriously either? Tell him he needs to grow up. That you love him, but that you cannot just go and act like this is okay, and that you want him to grow up...it’s hard but it’s for his best...
2007-05-17 09:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by The shadows girl... 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just adores the high life but he hasd to grow out of that habit b/c hangin out woth his friends isn't gonna make him any richer, the only thing that would come out of it is that he will get a kick out of it. He has to get a REAL job and learn to support himself and a guy she always have money to take girls out on date's. well just slap some sense into him, it's okay, a little slap would'nt hurt him that much, he's a guy.
2007-05-17 09:58:27 · answer #11 · answered by Miguel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋