Which is really the best policy? no sex vs. safe sex?

Question

do you agree with the abstinence policy being supported by the bush administration and the christian right?

Answer 1

Safe sex. Kids need to be taught about sex, the right way. No matter what, they are going to be curious. So, what's the point of leaving kids ignorant? They're going to go find out for themselves without any education about the right way to do it. Now come on, that can't be good?

Answer 2

Since I am a Christian on the right, then yes I do, sort of. I say sort of because I don't think the government should be telling my kids anything about sex, that is my job. I understand that a lot of parents don't talk to their children about this, which is a shame.
There are plenty of places to get condoms, they are called drug stores, so there is no need for schools to hand them out. I think the abstinence program is misunderstood. A lot of people think that it doesn't teach you anything about "safe sex" but that isn't exactly true. There is plenty of talk about STDs and how not to get them in Health class.
I would love to see it taken out of the schools all together, or handled more like Driver's Ed. If your parent is too busy to teach you about it they can pay a little extra for you to take a special class and an OBGYN can come in and give them the run down.

Answer 3

Both can work pretty well. The no sex policy can be a bit unrealistic. In the instance that a person's no sex policy changes to a yes sex policy, they need to no how to practice a safe sex policy.

Abstinent or not, theres no reason no to know how to practice safe sex.

Theres a reason they say "knowledge is power."

Answer 4

I was taught both growing up. How to use contraceptives and all that from school, and why to be abstinent from my parents - and that was a fine balance for me, I chose to be abstinent until marriage, and then when I got married, I already knew and understood my birth control options.

I do, however, think that schools need to be a little more realistic in presenting condoms as "safe sex" -they often mistakenly present them as the fool proof answer. I can't imagine trusting a condom to keep me safe from aids when I know 3 couples who have gotten pregnant using condoms; and sperm cells are much larger than viruses.

Answer 5

In a perfect world, everyone would wait until he/she found Mr. or Ms. Right to have sex. However, the world we live in is far from perfect, so to say the very least, teaching abstinence only isn't conducive to teaching kids how to deal with the real world or how to protect themselves. Not only that, but studies have actually shown that most kids who have taken pledges to remain virgins until marriage actually break their pledges, and that's just one more reason why we should make it a point to make sure that young people have all the information they need to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancies and STDs.

Answer 6

i don't agree only because it shouldn't be a government policy. However it's ok as long as they don't try to legeslate it.

I think no sex is a better policy. Safe sex isn't always safe s*it happens. Also, you have to have a lot of descipline to be abstainent. What is so bad about waiting for to be married before getting your hump on?

Answer 7

I agree with the abstinence policy as supported by DON'T DO IT TILL YOU GET MARRIED. It's a great gift to give your husband on your wedding night. Most men no longer respect woman the way the used to because they sleep with every b/f they have or have had. This means they are loose...Men won't good girls for there wives and mothers of there children.

Answer 8

A mixture, teach students to have as little sex as possible, but teach them how to be safe if they are going to do it. no sex programs alone or worthless, because eventually we all have sex, its always a good idea to teach people how to be safe, because at some point in their lives they will have sex, and even if they are a virgin their partner might not be. Students must be educated on how to have safe sex, even if its not used until later in life.

Answer 9

Yes. Abstinance is best till marriage in my opinion. BUT, I do also feel it is necessary to inform everyone about abstinance, as well as safe sex and the basics of sex itself. I am a Christian, but us younger people NEED to know about sex before it finds us. I am an addict to porn and masterbation (attempting to stop) simply because when I was 10 I heard people in school talking about "sex", so instead of anyone telling me what it was, I looked it up online. I am now 16, and have been struggling for a long time. Sex should not be frowned upon or shunned. It should not be used for political reasons or profit, but people need to know what it is.

As a Christian I want to abstain, and I'd like others to do the same. Safe sex annoys me cause many people assume a majority of people have transmitable diseases, and I do not feel this is so. When I get married I would only use safe sex to keep my wife from getting pregnant. I feel safe sex is fine and dandy in the confines of marriage, but that its called on way to much in our every day life. As if it were to really protect everyone every single time from a disease or pregnancy.

Last thing I must say is sex must be taught about in general so that people (especially teens) can sit and think about it before doing it. They need to know how much it could possibly hurt them later in life. If anyones going to make a decision (especially one like having sex) they NEED to be informed. To not tell us about sex is awful.


Edit:

One thing I should add after thinking. If it's taught in school, separate the classes into two. One of girls and one of boys. I would not want to be in the same room as a woman learning about sex, and I would not want my girlfriend in the same room as a guy learning this; simply because I know guys tend to get horny over the thought of sex, simply cause I am a guy and I know myself.

Answer 10

Gee, isn't that like asking which is the better policy? no drinking and driving, or drinking just below the limit and driving?

safe sex isn't "safe" - it's safer.
The problem is - when it fails, it fails horribly - for you.

I still have never seen hoo-ssy worth $93,600 (that's $100/wk child support for 18 years), or worth taking penicillin to kill the burning sensation for the rest of my life, or worth becoming sterile over, or losing all my weight and dying from Carposi's sarcinoma or any other opportunistic disease (that's AIDS, by the way).