2007-05-17 09:35:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. Thoughts of "I dont deserve him." "She could do better than me" are common. They are feelings of low worth brought on by
If your spouse is happy with you, then there is no reason to doubt yourself. You are doing whatever is required of you, and you are having a successful marraige.
2007-05-17 09:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'm not married, but I'm in a great relationship of nine months and yes I've felt like I wasn't good enough in some areas. But I learned that there were and still are areas of each other we are learning about so I think that's normal. The best thing is communication. When I discussed things with him, he gave me information I didn't think about; like how he sees things and that it's natural to feel that way no matter who you're with and married or not =)
2007-05-17 09:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is ask yourself why you feel this way. Is it because you make mistakes and you hurt him and you feel guilty? If that is the case, then the two of you need to sit and talk about ways to communicate better or possibly try counseling if you think it would help.
If it's because your husband is always checking out other women or flirting with them or even looking at porn, then the problem is him, not you. You should politely tell him that this bothers you and ask him to stop.
If it's because he's constantly belittling you, attacking you, or abusing you, then the problem is definetly his. Run, don't walk from him if this is the case.
2007-05-17 09:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but I personally think my husband is damned lucky to have me. He'll tell you the same thing. He's just a big, simple man and I make him very happy and complete him in so many ways. He of course is the love of my life and i'm lucky to have him too, but I don't think I'm "not good enough". Men are always lucky that one of us women chooses to marry them. Men, ugh! Women definitely make them what they are and if they don't feel that way, then he doesn't cherish you.
2007-05-17 09:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for example. I mowed the lawn last weekend and I was all sweaty and hot. I didnt feel good enough for her to touch me. I was all sweaty and dirty. I took a shower and dried off. she immediately rubbed her hands all over my naked body.
2007-05-17 09:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, everyone has bad days and feels not good enough. Keep your head up, go hug your man.
2007-05-17 09:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by juggalizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal, especially if you got alot going on and can not seem to make everybody happy.
2007-05-17 09:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by kitzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that sometimes, there is so much competition out there, Its normal.
2007-05-17 09:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Telly-Of-War 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe depends the situation. If you feel like that all the time, then I think it sounds like you have low self-esteem.
2007-05-17 09:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like mine is not good enough for me at times but i've never felt like i wasn't good enough for him....lol
2007-05-17 09:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Durty's Wifey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋