everyone think?
2007-05-17 09:11:20 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get counseling NOW!!!
It's better to find out before the divorce if it can be worked out.
It's better to try before you throw in the towel.
If counseling doesn't help, you can still get the divorce.
2007-05-17 09:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Carol D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she seemed to know what she wanted for a while. But you say since you filed then she has changed her mind. Maybe she didn't think you would file and now she realizes that she is about to lose you. She could have seen that she made a mistake. She might have been saying she would divorce you to make you act a certain way. You might have called the shots to soon and now she will have to speak up or shut up now. So you did the right thing. Ask yourself what do you want this time. Ask yourself if she is going to act right by you and then ask yourself do you still love her or not. That is the most important question of them all. If you so love her still then, it is not to late to back out of the divorce and make things right. So good luck and God Bless you also.
2007-05-17 16:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by SecretUser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She had plenty of time to cool off. Seven months is a long time. I think about a divorce after major arguments, but usually I calm down after a day. If she has been pushing the issue for months, then she may have been serious. Now, that you've filed, reality is hitting hard. If you really want one, you should tell her. If you don't want one, and she is having second thoughts, then you should try to work it out. Maybe the issue that made her want one has been resolved, or doesn't seem as important.
2007-05-17 16:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can't just change her mind with a decision like that. She has to know that divorce is a major decision. Does she respect you and your marriage? Does she love you? What's making her not sure? Did something change for the better in your marriage? Do you love her? Are you happy or are you sad about the way she is feeling? Do you want to stay married? These questions are incredibly important, because you can't just want a divorce one day and change your mind the next.
Well, you have the reigns now. You have to go according to the way you feel. If you love her and she's not wondering, she knows she loves you. The two of you will do anything to stay together and make each other happy for the rest of your lives, then you could live happily ever after.
If you're in doubt, throw it out.
2007-05-17 16:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce!!!
See...I shouldn't say this - cuz I'm a girl. But I'm also someones wife - so here goes....
Women really piss me off! When they get mad they tell their men, husband, boyfriend, fiance - WHATEVER - that they want a divorce, they wanna break up, they wanna call off the wedding, it isn't working...I'm not happy- blah blah blah.
But then when it's over they're sitting there with a dumb look on their face wondering "WHY ME??"
The problem with women (and MEN) today is that they think they can say what ever they want - when ever they want!! and its all our fault too because - there are NO CONSEQUENCES!!!
Follow through...stay strong. You'll find someone else who's better for you!!!
2007-05-17 16:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by can_jacobs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think at first she thought it was a good idea. Now reality is hitting her...Hard! And she has had a change of heart. She may have realized that she loves you too much to let ya go. Sounds to me like you ahve 2 choices:
A) You can not persue the divorce and hope she doesn't want one again later.
B) Give her one anyway and tell her if she loved you she would have NEVER wanted one in the first place.
This choice has to be yours. It would be hard for me to make.
2007-05-17 16:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife sounds like she needs some serious therapy. Seriously. If you want to still give it a try. You need to lay out the line. Other wise, she might force you to go at the divorce again. Do you want to put yourself in this situation again? I wouldn't.
Good luck
2007-05-17 16:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She felt the need to file for divorce for whatever reason. But it wasn't until you finally filed your's that she realised what she was doing. If she has doubts, then there is hope. Try to work it out.
2007-05-17 16:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jaguar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much longer will she 'cry divorce' or threaten it? Do you want to live that way, fearing everything right around the corner is answered with divorce. Sounds like she has stated her case, now you have to decide yours.
2007-05-17 16:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Paws * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is very slanted. There is something that she wants fixed. and your not willing to work on it. Divorce is not what she really wants. Try telling us, her side of the story. Then you can get an honest Answer.
2007-05-17 16:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by Douglas G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋