Did you or anyone you know ever experience extreme exhaustion and sickness that you could no look after another very young child while pregnant, what did you do?.
2007-05-17 09:02:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my problem is that I have a husband who works until 7pm and then is exhausted. He does not do housework or childcare as he has no time. When he comes home he has more work. I really feel in a bind.
2007-05-17 09:12:02 · update #1
I did, twice, but I had to take care of the older child anyway. I was very sick with my second child, I threw up a lot and was so tired I couldn't see straight. My older son was 18 months old at the time so he needed a lot of care still. We were given a queen-size bed for him (which was really nice). If I just couldn't stay awake, I would take him into his room, put on some music and get some safe toys out. I would shut the door, change his pants and crash in there with him (the room was baby-proofed and there wasn't any trouble for him to get into). I always felt guilty but he loved it. With this third pregnancy (I'm at 33 weeks) I have been even sicker but now I have two little boys (they were 3 1/2 and 18 months when I was in early pregnancy). This time, I have a seizure disorder to boot. I call for help now, family and friends. They really don't mind, I thought they would but most people are actually happy to have a reason to take a break from their lives for an hour or two. I can't bring myself to ask for help with cooking and cleaning although I have been surprised by very helpful loved ones. I just ask them to come over and color, or watch a movie etc with the kids so I can have an extra nap. Talk with your doctor, there may be something he/she can do to help. You will have to find a way to be both pregnant and a mom, its hard, its not like you can choose one or the other. Just try to stay creative and upbeat and maybe see if you can acquire a big bed to use to crash in your older child's room etc in a pinch. Best wishes, I've been there.
2007-05-17 09:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sick and tired, but no other options so I had to make do. I have 18 month old twins and am 26 weeks pregnant. Yeah, imagine that one. Now, I will be the first to tell you that the household chores did NOT get done, and dinners were NOT gourmet. I was throwing up a lot until about 18-19 weeks. I had two little sets of eyes peering at me as I hugged the toilet, lol. Hubby did what he could, but still. Sometimes ya just have to deal. Best of luck.
2007-05-17 16:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to stick it out and just do it, but when possible I got my SIL or a neighbor to look after him for a little while so I could rest. It was a hard time but I got through it!
Your best bet will be to find someone who can give you some support. A relative, a friend or neighbor, or even hire a teenager to come and tend to the baby while you nap. You could also consider a mommy's day out or part time daycare.
My husband was always very good about taking care of the kids as soon as he got home so that I could rest, too.
2007-05-17 16:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Behaviorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I needed a lot of help looking after my son while pregnant with my daughter. I was severely ill with hyperemesis gravadarum (all day sickness) during the first 4 months of pgcy, couldn't even look at a glass of water without throwing up. Needed IV fluids all the time, and eventually a PICC line was placed to have IV therapy at home.
Thankfully my parents are nearby, so I was able to get some relief.
2007-05-17 17:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by AV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through that right now. The only thing that I could do is get someone to watch my child while I slept for about 2 hours in the day. My husband is really helpful to when he gets home from work. If you don't have anyone to watch the baby for you it is just hard but you have to push yourself to stay awake and deal with the sickness.
good luck and God Bless
2007-05-17 16:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too sick as in my toddler doesn't get the bare minimum of supervision needed to keep him safe? No
Dishes, laundry, cleaning not done. Not enough games and interactions. Then yes.
Try to get buy, hope hubby helps. If you are comfortable getting help from family and friends do that, if you can afford to hire help, do that.
2007-05-17 16:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son is 8years old, so I felt crappy but he's old enough to fix himself a drink or snack and other stuff. so it wasn't that bad, he even elped out around the house a little more.
2007-05-17 16:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Durty's Wifey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, yes! Luckily her father took care of me and her until I was better.
2007-05-17 16:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋