I just found a phone number in my wife's....?

Question

journal. It fell out when I moved it. She thought she misplaced the book 3 days ago and has been frantic to find it. I never look in it because I respect her journal as I would like her to respect mine. I found it under the bed and put it on the nightstand and a phone number fell out. NOW GET THIS! It's her son's dad from before we met. I have caught her calling him several times over our 12 year marriage. She said she would never do it again....but here we go again...What do I make of this?

This one happened.....the details...Whatever. Are you helping or not?


This is answers, I could be asking hypothetical questions or asking for someone I know. The thing is I want to make people think and get some ANSWERS.

Answer 1

she forgot about it and only needed to speak w/him 1 time over 3 months ago,,, she love you, and has never loved him in any way,, you can trust her she is your wife for gods sake,,,

Answer 2

With you saying she was "frantic" looking for it, that raises a red flag and if she said she would never do it again, talking to her sons dad that right there says guilty. That is hard, I am sorry, the only thing to do is to talk about it and try not to be so angry and resolve whatever if possible. Maybe ask her to explain what she is talking to him about and why was the number in her journal (privacy) of all places if she isn't up to anything? Don't let things like this go unsaid, you will just continue to live miserably if you do. Good luck!

Answer 3

Wow are you and your wife running some sort of a game here...she has said in her Q u both have been married 13.5yrs you say 12 however in a Q you asked hours ago you said married 6 month and is from another country and doesn't speak English well..maybe I am wrong here but if you cant speak it than 9-10 you are not going to spell it well either looks to me like she can articulate the English language well ....What do you not realize that anyone can look at your profile and see the Q you have asked before???? apparently not....

Answer 4

Well, how old is her son? Maybe she has a reason to be calling the boy's father because he is the boy's father.
Or if he really hasn't been in the pic for many years or whatever, then I would believe there could be a problem.
So ask your wife about the phone number and go from there. I find it hard to believe that if she was doing anything "wrong", she would be trying a little harder to hide the evidence. Better just talk to her and go with your gut feeling.

Answer 5

If it's her son's dad's number I really wouldn't worry about it. I mean they are going to have some kind of communication given they have a child together. If it makes you uncomfortable talk to her. You've been married 12years, I would assume that by now the two of you would have an honest and open relationship. Has she done anything that would make you suspicious (other than finding that number)? Say, has she cheated on you with him in the past or something?

Answer 6

First off if she has the number in her journal she probably isn't calling him enough to have it memorized. Maybe she is hiding it because you have put her in a box where she has no other choice. She has to have some form of communication with him, he is the child's father. If it concerns you too much ask her about it, but don't be defensive, be supportive and think if you were put in the same shoes or situation.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Intense relationships can be hard to move past even after years and years of separation. Your wife is probably regretting past mistakes, but at the same time probably loves you very much. Anytime two people have a child together it intensifies it, especially if her kid's father still wants her.

You need to sit down and have a long discussion about this. Tell your wife that you love her, but that she is going to have to make a decision to move on with life and with you. Tell her how you fell and be honest about everything. If she continues, seek counseling together. She probably thinks about what things would have been like if she had stayed with her kid's father. It's not healthy to live like that, but people do it.

I hope things work out for you. Be sure to try to get it all straightened out as soon as you can and hang in there.

Answer 8

It sounds like you have some trust issues, and they may stem from something she has done in the past (or maybe you). Regardless, I would just be honest, tell her what happened abt it falling out by accident, ask her abt it and then give her the opportunity to tell you the truth. It may be as simple as it's an old number, but you can't jump to conclusions. Keep things honest and open!! Good luck, I hope it all works out.

Answer 9

Is she calling him about the child or a relationship? There is the question you need to be asking her. When children are involved it's a different story, you need to sit down with her, tell her what happen, tell her you're not mad you just want to know what's going on, don't jump into conclusions. Give her a chance to explain then ask her why it was hid.

Good luck

Answer 10

The question is why can't she call him? Why create a situation that breeds lies? This is not good and you need to deal with this situation with the same honest and open respect you show her when not reading her journal.

Answer 11

You can do 1 of 2 things.

Bring it up to her. And let her know that you know have trust issues. Sometimes people can be friends when they can't be in a relationship-better off being friends. I would Let her know ONCE AGAIN you got a problem with it. And then I would give her an ultimatum.

Or you can start snooping and see for yourself how much she obviously needs this guy in her life.