OK, I am the Husband.
My wife is a great mother, great friend, it takes care of my like a king, she try to satify me on any possible way, great house keeper, there is nothing wrong with her. but still can not love/desire her as a woman and for some reason I find myself atracted to most women out there (not cheated yet). Do you have any idea of WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME??
2007-05-17 08:39:43 · 45 answers · asked by brongb4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one here is going to be able to diagnose your problem. I recommend talking to your doctor and getting referred to a therapist. You can either do something to fix your problem, or you can drift away from your wife and ruin your life (divorce, child support, possible STD, etc.). Choice is yours.
2007-05-17 08:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You say you haven't cheated yet? Take my word, you will very soon. People like you usually need to seek help badly, even tho' you might think there is nothing wrong with you. If you don't, you will end up walking out in every marriage and end up a very unhappy man . It could be something you experienced as a child through your parents. Did your parents really love each other?That could have a big effect on you if, you don't know how to control it. Get counselling and hang on to your good woman. Faithful women are hard to find out there. Take my word, the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2007-05-17 09:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not in love. You obviously got married too soon for all the wrong reasons. Your very unintelligent, with your smart-a remark that you haven't cheated YET.
Hey buddy, you made the commitment and now there are children involved. Instead of acting like a teenager, scoping out the broads and assuming your going to cheat, you should be acting like a husband and try to solve this problem.
You have to speak with your wife in a very sensitive way. You have to be very honest with her and let her know how you feel. Tell her you feel guilty and your worried about this. Unless you go for counseling, she is the only one that help you find out what the hell is wrong with you.
2007-05-17 08:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old are you? Perhaps this is a mid life criss. If you're between the ages of 33-50 you could be in one. Look up male mid life crisis on yahoo and you'll get a lot of results.
As far as what is wrong with you, I would say that you are bored and are looking for some excitement. Why not try to spice it up with her - take a vacation, get rid of the kids for a weekend..do the things with her that used to make you attracted to her. If you do those things and you still don't want her, before you cheat talk to her about your feelings. It is better to hurt her feelings letting her know that "its me, not you" than to cheat and destroy her. Been there, done that.
Good Luck
2007-05-17 08:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you are a man! The only thing is that you admit it. I think for some part most men go through this type of period in their lives. It is a phase like having a mullet. The key is stay with your wife do not stray and remove all temptations i.e porn, maxim, stop going to bars with the buddy's. Once you take the temptation out of the picture you will realize what you have and how foolish your thinking is right now.
2007-05-17 08:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jason J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is your a man, just keep it inside you pants and you will be fine. Like the say goes, grass is always greener on the other side.
I think you have turned your wife into a servant/maid/care taker, you have taken her for granted. She needs to get out of that role and be more of a wife/girlfriend/lover.
All marriage go throw these motions, probably your wife might have similar feelings. Anyway the point is your married life is only going to be as good as you make it. We all overtime change physically, basically build up mileage, but we are not car where you can buy a new one every 2, 5 or 10 years. As we grow older we change, we are not the same people, that is fact of life. But we have to keep finding that one thing even as we grow apart to keep us coming back for more. You have to keep the love and lust alive. Marriage is hard work my friend and most people are quitters, that is why the divorce rate is so high.
Start with helping out with the house chores and quit slaving her. Take her out, doll her up, pamper her.... You are blessed, so do stop and count your blessing.... good luck
2007-05-17 08:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Most married couples go through changes and desires.
A lot of things happen when married too long and most couples don't mean to search out there for something else...
most people find something that is missing in a relationship and in your situation it's a sexual thing.
You KNOW what the reason is...either she's gain weight, got un- attractive, she got boring, or she's tired all the time, too busy all the time...
I think your the luckiest man in the world (since she takes care of your home and makes sure your okay) and your feeling this marriage has gone sour in a bad way.
If I were you I'd talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel and if she's as good as you say...she'll spice it up for you...
2007-05-17 08:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
NOT CHEATED YET? What is wrong with you? You have a wonderful wife that most men would die for and you want to abuse her like that, you're a selfish pig IMO, you need a serious wake up call buddy! If you lose her you might be out painting the town red, but I promise you once you start missing your children and the stability she gave you, you'll come crawling back and she won't have anything to do with you. You're a jerk.
2007-05-17 09:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you have lost the spark and need to rekindle it. I suggest you talking with a therapist by your self at first and then perhaps talking with a marriage counselor later. If you don't love or desire your wife don't cheat! Give her the respect you would want for your self and please just tell her you don't know why but you've fallen out of love with her and want a divorce. That way although she may be hurt she can move on and find some great guy who will love and desire her and you can move on with your life too.
2007-05-17 08:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it does sound like you married the wrong person. You can try marriage councling and try to find that love. Why did you marry her? Not fair to her if you do desire other women. Not at all. And if you do break it off with her don't tell her that that will scar her.
~Angel~
2007-05-17 08:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:20:43 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋