I was wondering something. My parents are divorced. i was raised by my mom and only saw my dad during vacation. but i was wondering if more people with divorced parents are a bit scared to spend the rest of your life with someone? myself, find it hard to give my heart to a guy. I'm scared i''ll get divorced just like my parents. ..
2007-05-17 08:39:04 · 9 answers · asked by latina_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Chances are you will end up divorced. The best you can do is give it your all and hope for the best. Life is worth giving your best.
2007-05-17 08:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I have those feelings sometimes. My parents spit when I was 15, but trust me, it was the best thing that could ever have happened to us. I've come close twice to being married, but the two were completely wrong for me. ONe was abusive, and the second one just wanted an "employee"...I've always been the type to want to marry etc...that was in my 20s; now I'm in my mid 30s...I would like too for the right reasons =) not because I "should" or "need" to or whatever. Yes, I am scared, but some people I think are anyway, you know?
2007-05-17 17:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I lived with my mom, and visited my dad on vacations..I'm married right now and I find it hard to deal with alot of things..I scared he will cheat or leave me all alone. But its something you have to trust in him..I get so scared sometimes that I actually pushed him away when I found out I was pregnant. I thought he was going to leave me anyways so why not have me leave first and sooner. Now we are trying to work thru it.. There is hope but you will always be scared, a fearful of the worse..just always try to find the best in someone. But remember when you give your all you can get hurt and will get hurt at least sometimes in your life..just pick up and rethink the situation..Also dont run into marriage...make sure you guys are right for eachother...Good luck
2007-05-17 15:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant hang on to the past, just look to the future...... My parents were divorced when I was 7....I now have 3 children, a great wife who I never would divorce.... I would never put my children through that....it's all about finding the right person and making it work....I know what my parents did wrong (now anyway) I just try to avoid putting my relationship in that position.... Good Luck in finding your soul mate....
2007-05-17 15:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by HOWYA D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Myself, my parents separated when I was 15, before that they always fought and everything My mom was always gone, My dad raised us.. But then me and my brother moved to Iowa with my dad, and then he pasted away last year..
I wasn't afraid to meet a guy and get married, because I just thought that I wasn't going to let it happen I was going to be a better person and make my marriage work. If you have perfection (cant spell) that you'll be higher and good then you will...
I'm married now, and I was afraid when I was getting ready to get married that I may get devorced, and till this day I worry. Its normal to worry about that stuff because you don't want to loose your lover.
2007-05-17 16:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by [*Chrissy*] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only piece of advice I can offer is this:
Learn from your parents' mistakes. Do NOT do the things that they did that make you feel this way.
Also, go get some counseling. Fear of commitment is no reason to pass up the adventure. Life is a ride...and you only get one go-around. Enjoy it while it lasts.
2007-05-17 15:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, thats typical. None of my brothers will marry because of the same reason. But I am the adventurous one in the bunch so I had to try it out. Neither of us want children either. And I owe it all to my lovely parents who felt the need to fight and argue throughout my life.
2007-05-17 15:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different - every situation is different. You may not know what you are looking for but you know what you are NOT looking for. I hate the thought of you missing out on having people in your life because you are relating it to someone else's experience. You may be looking ahead too far and anticipating trouble that doesn't exist yet. Be cautious yes.........................but not so you miss out...........
2007-05-17 15:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Chloegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is common to feel that way. But you don't have to live your life in fear, you can learn from your parents mistakes. You have to get over your fear, love is great and it is totally worth it, you don't want die alone.
2007-05-17 15:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋