I like sex more than my husband he use to all the time want it now it is like work for him and i try any & every thing to spice up our marriage I mean what man wouldn't like a wife that will have sex when ever he wanted it I don't understand and I know it is not age he is not old we have been together 8 years im 23 he is 26 but i know a guy that is 33 married as long as us and he complains he dont get it enough what is it with people it seems like i guess the oppisit does attract
2007-05-17 08:18:29 · 48 answers · asked by casper_t500 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of yall say go be with the 33 i want to (he is soooo fine) but i want to stay true but i also have to be true to myself & my marriage has been like this for awhile now I know it cant be me i look better now than when we got together ive lost 50 pounds got a tan done the whole sexy victoria secerts thing i dont know what to do
2007-05-17 09:25:09 · update #1
You need to communicate with him what you want from him and how you can get what each of you desires
2007-05-17 08:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its normal. I mean, it's not normal for a 26 year old to be completely uninterested in sex, but it is normal for one person's sex drive to be higher than the other's. Another thing you might want to look at is what time of day you are initiating sex. I like it in the evening and my husband is a strictly bedtime sex guy. So if I try to make a move around 5:00 I pretty much know it's not going to happen.
If you are both working or if you're working oppositte schedules, it could be that you're both just tired. Try to schedule a time to be together once a week and have a date night. Spend some special time alone and see what develops. Good luck!
2007-05-18 11:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens sometimes--not often, but sometimes. There are any number of reasons why, and not all of them involve "he's gay," unlike what the one fool said who thought he was being funny...
You might just sit down with your husband and very delicately approach and discuss the matter. Don't start out with "What's wrong with you?" or "Why aren't you man enough?" Try asking him whether you're doing the right things, or if you're catching him at the wrong times, or what it might be.
He might have some issue or other that he doesn't want to bring up to you out of the blue--particularly if you're pressuring him to perform at the time. Be open, and be ready if he tells you that it IS, in fact, something to do with your own performance that he dislikes. Don't get upset--or at least, don't get angry.
Remember that you love him. You married him because you love him. He loves you, as well, or he wouldn't even try.
Oh, and incidentally, don't be discussing this with anyone else. Your sex life is between you and your husband. Stop involving your 33-year-old friend, too; he has no business telling you that his wife isn't satisfying his needs.
This is an opportunity for you and your husband to grow closer--a problem which might be readily solved just by talking and working together. Don't let it drive you apart.
2007-05-17 08:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by DoctorJKel 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am having the same problem with my husband. I want it more than him too. We went from 2 times a day to 1 to 2 times a month. What has help is me making the move on him. When he comes home from work just start kissing him and stuff. Or just talk to him and let me know that there is a problem and that you need it more
2007-05-17 08:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like some one has him drained before he gets home to you sometimes that happens at my house on the rare occasion that my wife wants sex I'm usually wore out from my mistress so i tell her what she told me and put me in the position of being a cheating husband i just roll over and say NO!! now go to sleep I'm tired. Pay back is a *****
2007-05-17 08:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just came up with a solution to your own problem. actually you solved 2 problems. you are not getting enough sex and the 33 year old guy is not getting enough sex. why don't you two have sex with each other. you'll be satisfied, the 33 year old will be satisfied and you won't have to complain about your husband's low sex drive anymore.
sometimes the answer is right in front of your face and you can't see it. be creative and think outside the box.
2007-05-17 08:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe his sex drive is less than yours.There's alot of people out there that has a high sex drive and some do not.Maybe you need to find some one else who has a high drive like you or just talk to him and ask whats wrong cause depression can cause his sex drive to go down alot.Just an idea.
2007-05-17 08:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't force it, talk about it outside of the bedroom and let him know how you feel. If this continue, let him starve for you. Dress sexy like everyday, and don't give him any, pretty soon he'll come around. The physical attraction will make him want you. You'll be okay, just pray and have faith.
2007-05-17 08:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, 26 is REALLY young to lose interest. If there are other changes as well, he should see a doctor to see if it's something physical. Some medical conditions can cause a lower sex drive.
2007-05-17 08:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is lucky to have a woman that wants sex all the time. Maybe he works long hours and he's just tired. The best thing to do first is ask.
2007-05-17 08:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Scott M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Well, your every husband's dream..LOL.. is it him not "wanting" to have sex or him not initiating it. I know sometimes guys can get lazy and maybe not initiate it but are always willing to have it when given the opportunity. Maybe you should talk to him and see what he says about the issue. Maybe it could be some medical problem, or could it possibly be that he is seeing someone else? Hopefully not the latter, but I would talk to him and see what's going on...
2007-05-17 08:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by elinh78 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋