i have been married for four years to someone that was not born in the united states,,,, no nationality disclosed.... he was in the united states when we were together and got married... 3 months later after getting married he got sent back to his country and cant come back for 20 years. luckily maybe in 10. out of those 4 years that we have been married 3 months was in the united states and the rest in the foreign country.. ok people i have two kids from a previous marriage one with disablilities...this relationship is really hard. i am the money maker and the provider due to circumstances i feel like i have three kids he refuses to watch the kids while i go to work he doesnt want me to better my career . he constantly insists that i cheat I cross to work in the states everyday sometimes twice i have girl scout troop ii want to know should i stay in or should i let it go.... i feel i am putting in all the work and i really love him but i want to know what i should let go
2007-05-17 07:53:31 · 12 answers · asked by gstroop209 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give him an ultimatum and mean it. either he gets behind you in your efforts to provide for the family including looking after the children he accepted by marrying you, or you leave. its as simple as that. dont put your life on hold for him if he cant even be bothered to look after children whilst you work or better still get a job himself.
2007-05-17 08:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You really spun off track with this one. You don't really have a relationship at all and with a guy who seems to have done something illegal but won't even try to take part in the daily routines of a marriage. He won't work and doesn't care if you do better. Tell me again what you love about this excuse for a man? Get your children away from this man.
2007-05-17 08:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all why did you marry a man who wouldn't tell you where he was from???? Second, why would you marry a man that wasn't allowed in the United States? Third, why would marry a man that doesn't love your children as if they were his own???
If you are crossing over to the United States to work - either you are in Mexico or Canada????? You husband has done something illegal and you are trapped.....if he hits you or the kids you need to leave.....fast.
2007-05-17 08:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well that depends on how much you love him?? If you feel you can not live without him than I say keep going with the way things are!! But if he is not helping out in any way then that is not good for you or the children so get out and the next time you cross to work in the US stay here!!
2007-05-17 08:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When someone is refused entry for 10-20 years, he has done some serious offense and lying to Immigration.
If you love him, you are willing to endure all bad circumstances. But your complaint is about practical matters such as work and jealousy. Make up your mind. You are denying your US citizen kids something less stressful and better.
2007-05-17 08:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to come back to the US with your children only. Just What were you thinking when you married this person?
2007-05-17 08:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-29 08:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound negative sister, but, you need to let him go. He is taking advantage of you and you know that you can do so much better. It is time to cut your losses.
If he is constantly accusing you of cheating, chances are real strong that he is and his accusations are to keep you on the defense so he can get away with his indiscretions.
2007-05-17 08:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by theanswerman63 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you both need marriage counseling and an attorney that specializes in immigration law.
Are you sure you weren't duped by this man so he could try to get citizenship?
Divorce may be your only choice.
Good luck.
2007-05-17 07:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What the hell do you love about him? Me and about 10 thousand other guys will give you good sex if thats why your staying with him .
2007-05-17 08:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋