,................. and am afraid I'll grow to be an OLD woman (like eighty) before I can find someone who appreciate me and my daughter. I want someone who can ignore my past. I'm a tall athletic sweet sorta funny( in a blonde way) girl. But I seem to not be able to trust myself or guys anymore.
2007-05-17 07:33:02 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Okay, just so ya know I'm not complaining. I love my little girl with all my heart. At least I didn't go out and get an abortion and become a muderer. I'm just worried my little girl will grow to hate me because she has no daddy. Her "father", if you can call him that, Left when I was five months pregnant.
2007-05-17 07:41:09 · update #1
.......... and I'm terrified to be alone.
2007-05-17 07:43:16 · update #2
I was in your position when I was 18. People don't understand this unless they've lived it and even still they like to judge. You will not live to be an old lady alone. Many men do not mind women with children. And remember not having a man does not mean it makes you less of a woman. Just wait and it will happen when it's the right time. Don't push too hard because you will more than likely end up with the wrong guy. Give it time and it will happen.
2007-05-17 08:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my daughter at 18 and now I am married with 3 kids. Believe me, it will happen for you and you will find a man that loves both you and your daughter, it just takes time. I didn't find my husband until I was 26 and even then I didn't know if he was the right one for my daughter and I. I know it is very hard right now, but just be patient and that right one will come along. Put all your time and energy into your daughter right now and build that bond that you two will have for the rest of your life. Right now you are the only one that that girl has got in her life and you need to be there for her. Good luck!
2007-05-17 08:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by jolie876 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this may sound strange, but there are good guys out there! imagine that - all guys aren't just robotic-sex hounds! maybe all the guys you are interested in are just looking for a good time. i'm not saying that this is necessarily your problem, but maybe you should go for guys based on personality instead of looks. a lot of time the guys that aren't the greatest looking are looking for the same thing you are, and are more than willing to accept you and your daughter. personally, if i met a girl i liked and she had a kid, i would understand how hard it must be for her and would not judge her - i would accept her and her daughter and help her through everything that she has to deal with.
2007-05-17 13:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by milan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single teenage mom myself, by 18 I had 2 kids, I made alot of mistakes i my life but the one thing I have always shown my kids is not to look at you dont have but to count your blessings for what you do have. about 2 years ago i met my hubby, not only did he except my kids, but both my kids have issues, one is mentaly retarted and the other bipolar. now i am the step mom of four wonderful boys, and the proud mother of 3, yes 3 we had a baby 5 months ago. Dont rush it your time will come. know that its ok to be alone you DO NOT need a man by yourside to make you complete. you already have the best most important thing in your life, your child.
2007-05-17 08:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by mom~of~7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager, you have PLENTY of time for the right guy to come along...and trust me, he will. The best thing is not to "look" but just let it happen. And to talk down, but wait on the sex part this time till after you are married, will make things much easier...but you probably already know that now.
2007-05-17 07:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for everyone. And when you find that someone they will love you for who you are (which includes your past). The right person will love you and your daughter both. However if you never allow yourself to trust a guy or be vulnerable, then you could be missing out on something good. You say you're a teenager.... you have your whole life ahead of you.
2007-05-17 07:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by thejenns22 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel!! I am 21 & 5 months pregnant now and my babys "father" walked out on us. I always think I am going to be alone for the rest of my life..what hurts me even more is that I feel like my babys father is out there doing just fine! But I know I can't think like that.....I'm not insecure and never have been....I'm sure there our a lot of good guys out there....obviously we haven't been picking the right ones =] Be patient...Im sure it will come along.
Please message me if you'd like..maybe you can give me pointers on how becoming a single mother will be.....
2007-05-17 08:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to here that it will all be ok and work out in the end i am glad that u secided to keep the baby and she wont hate you for that she is a very understanding child thay all are i am sure that thay will come around to you just what you will find the right person to be with sooner or later just dont trust anyone with her alone even if you know them very well good luck and god bless
2007-05-17 08:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you...I remember when i went out with a girl who had a daughter too and i was like 14 and that lil girl called me daddy one time that just made me feel like im somebody.
2007-05-17 08:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry!! Your young and just involved in meeting people like going to a church or a club with friends or something! Im sure u will find the perfect guy for you and your daughter! :)
2007-05-17 12:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Zoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋