2007-05-17 07:21:07 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would you want to stay in an abusive relationship? the abuse will escalate probably putting you in hospital, mental abuse is just as bad as physical. you should want to be with someone who loves you and respects you enough not to be abusive in anyway. leave.
2007-05-17 07:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not stay in a relationship like this, if you want it to work tell him he needs to get help and if he refuses to get help you have your answer. Believe me I know where you are, I was in an adusive relationship and stayed because of my kids. But if I could do it all over again I would of left him along time ago, but I would also do it again because I have the most wonderful children a parent could ask for.
But you DESERVE to be happy and to be in a relationship that is not abusive in any way. I am talking verbal, sexual, physical and mental abuse. You do not need to put up with this it does get worse if they do not get help.
You can love this person until the end of time and give him the moon and the stars but it will not change him. He will continue to abuse you and take it from me the I'm sorry and it will never happen again will be said more and more. But before you do go make sure you have a plan to leave. This is one of the most dangerous times for women because the man feel like you are taking his position (you) away from him. A lot of men feel that if they can't have you nobody will. There are safe houses for women to go to find out where the nearest one is and they will help you make a plan.
What kills me is I stayed in an abusive relationship and now I am begging my daughter to get out of a very dangerous relationship. This guy beats her and there is nothing I can do because she is over 19 years old. I am afraid I will be going to her funeral, he has already fractured their then 3 month old sons skull. I hate to have to sit here and have all my advise go on deaf ears. This guys has her so convinced that she will never see the children if she leaves him.
I'm not saying this will happen to you but this is how it all starts. You have you to look after and if you have children you need to look after them also. The safe house where I live will also help set you with your own place or even relocate you so you'll be safe.
But only you can make this decision but if the abuse has already started it will get worse. Please be safe.
2007-05-17 07:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to leave but it's much better to do it now. I was in a very bad relationship and it was abusive but not physically abusive. I always thought I would be smarter than that or strong enough to walk away. Abusive boyfriends gain power and control from making their girlfriends believe that they have no where to go or nobody will ever want them. He may make you feel like the awful stuff he does to you is somehow your fault. The fact that you have asked this question means that you are aware that there is a problem and you already know what you should do.
Try talking to someone about your situation and begin to prepare yourself, surround yourself with supportive family members and friends. It is much better to do it now than a year from now because if he is abusive with you he will not change. Good luck.
2007-05-17 07:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by dalbana5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have no significant reason to stay. You will only hurt yourself and your body. You can take two people with the same personality, same likes, and put one in an abusive relationship and the other in a normal relationship and when the break up comes, the one that was in an abusive relationship will have a different personality, different likes and dislikes. Check out this website:
2007-05-17 07:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You cannot be in love with someone that has been abusive. You will find out that it was not love after you leave him and meet a real man. You will not believe that you even wasted a year in your life with some idiot that uses abuse to get his power.
Get the hell out of that relationship. You will be so happy you did. Good Luck
2007-05-17 07:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you should NOT stay...unless you intend on taking a GREAT risk with this person. You increase your chances of being abused more frequently and more severely. Read any worthy book(s) or any worthy article(s) written on abuse or the cycle of abuse and you will understand that it WILL escalate in time, if not corrected. You are still in the "HoneyMoon" stage of your relationship and time will reveal the abusers true nature, if uncorrected. YOU cannot correct this for them, they must get help for themselves. DON'T BE NAIVE WITH THIS ISSUE, the abuser needs help and you deserve to be safe and secure in your relationship.
2007-05-17 07:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by icudoto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is no way in hell would I stay with someone who is physically or verbally abusive.
You need to seek some professional opinion for this matter.
Too many women have been killed or but in prison because they stuck with the person that was abusing them and they end up with the short stick.
Good luck.
2007-05-17 07:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by YLB31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! Do NOT stay in an abusive relationship. It doesn't get better, it ALWAYS gets worse.
I know he probably always says he is sorry after wards and maybe gives you special gifts, PLEASE don't fall for that. Abusers do not change, and it isn't your fault. Leave now!!! You deserve someone who treats you right. Never stay with anyone who hits your or verbally or emotionally abuses you. Get out of the relationship ASAP.
2007-05-17 07:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. NO. NO. Examine the reasons why you would be drawn to someone who is capable of being abusive. Don't you like guys who are gentle and kind? It's not likely your guy is going to undergo a personality makeover any time soon. The sooner you leave this guy, the sooner you'll find a guy that is right for you and will treat you the way you deserve.
2007-05-17 07:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never...I did that and for 3 years out of the 5 we have been together he would beatand verbally abuse me.. and now that he has changed I hold a grudge..which hurts our relationship now.. But I'm married and morally you dont get a divorce so I will never file, but to love someone isn't enough.
2007-05-17 07:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋