Feelin like a bad Mom?

Question

My daughter fell off the bed a few weeks ago and I'm feeling like a bad Mom. Has this happened to anyone else? She is 9 month I took her to the doctor and she was fine but I feel guilty

Answer 1

I would be willing to bet that most babies have rolled off of a bed or had their head bumped into a doorway or something. Kids are all rubbery and they heal fast, so as long as no real harm was done don't worry about it. I am sure that your doctors, daycare teachers, etc all understand.
I suppose you have to look at it this way: you must be a pretty good mom if her falling off the bed and not getting hurt is still making you feel bad a few weeks later.

Answer 2

My son was no more than 2 months when he fell. I left him sound asleep surrounded by pillows, went to clean the kids bathroom, while doing so I thought I'd go get a plastic cup from my bathroom, as I am walking to my room I hear him crying, when I look he was nowhere to be found, he had managed to scoot up and fall thought the mattress and the headboard on to the floor, thank GOD he did not hit the window cill, but nevertheless I felt and still feel awful. He is now 5 months and every now and then Ill remember that day and cry. Its hard as a mom when all you want to do is protect them, but your not alone.

Answer 3

I accidentally pinched my 8 month old son's fingers in the shopping cart a couple days ago...I felt the same way. We are all going to make mistakes as parents, and I think that is why God made children so durable;) You are bound to feel bad but it will just mean you will pay more attention the next time. At least she wasn't hurt, your feelings were probably more hurt than she was physically, it probably just scared her. Don't sweat it, you feel bad and that makes you a good mom. Beware, there are more bumps and bruises to come in the future, most you will not have any control over, all you will feel responsible for. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

your nopt a bad mom. 9 months old they're crawling around and they don't know any better. you know you take your eyes of them for two seconds. a lot of parents feel that way when their babies get hurt but really it's no one's fault, if your daughter is fine there's nothing to worry about, kids get hurt all the time no matter what age or sercumstance.
dont feel like a bad mom.
if falling down is all thats happened to you little girl in 9 months i'de say you're doing pretty good

Answer 5

Don't feel guilty. All my friends including myself has had this happen. If it makes you feel any better my son was a month old and I had fallen to sleep with him on my chest. When I woke up he was UNDER the bed. I freaked out... I couldn't find him. Accedints happen. As long as he's okay... you'll be surprised what babies can go threw and not be harmed. :) You should know your a good mom because you worry that you may be a bad one. A bad mom wouldn't worry.

Answer 6

Accidents happen and there will be plenty more to come. You do feel a sense of guilt tho..I know...but try to let it go* You're not a bad mom*
My son was 4 and was running around the house , through the kitchen etc.I continued to tell him not to he will fall and hurt himself...just as I was about to reach for him he slipped and smashed his chin on the dinning room chair, split his chin open...we had to go to emerg..where they wrapped him in a blanket to hold his arms in..and I had to hold his head while my mother held onto his body while the doctor gave him a few stitches. It was absolutely horrifying and I felt guilty also, like I should have been able to prevent that..but unfortunately..we live and learn...accidents do happen so pls dont blame yourself and feel guilty...She's ok as the doctor said, you did the right thing to take her in to be seen to and all is fine* ...Now continue being a Great Mom that you are, and enjoy each day* Just let it go*

Answer 7

my eldest daughter was walking down a gravelly path, with me holding her hand, and she tripped and i tried to stop her falling by pulling her arm that i was holding. 10 minutes later i was on the way to the hospital with her and had to hold her still while the doctor put her elbow back in (she had dislocated it) almost 6 months later - my mum done exactly the same thing with her. she was 11 mths and 16 mths then and i honestly thought that i was the worst mother alive.

Then when my youngest daughter was one, her uncle tried to stop her falling down the stairs, and grabbed her arm, and dislocated her elbow, and he was feeling very guilty.

Apparently my family has weird elbows and ankles as this happened to me when i was 1 and also when i was 2 1/2.

At the end of the day, accidents happen, and if you can say that you comforted your daughter and made her feel better then you definately ARE NOT a bad mum, so just chalk it up to experience and enjoy your baby
:o)

Answer 8

What happened was not your fault and was an accident. It happened to my sister when she was a baby and my mom felt horrible, it does not mean that you are a bad mom, you just are experiencing the normalities of motherhood. You will feel bad but just know that you were not the one who caused it and you can not save her from absolutely everything.

Answer 9

My 8 month-old son was sitting on the king size bed while I folded clothes. He wasn't a quick crawler, but he came into his speed at that moment. He crawled away from me and fell off the other side as I was lunging for him. He didn't even cry, but my heart rate didn't return to normal for a week!

Answer 10

My oldest did that. I fell asleep with her on my chest lying on our bed, she rolled off onto the night stand before hittign the floor. Other than now being an extremely odd tween there was no harm done. My youngest fell off the couch many times no harm done. It happens sometimes.