My baby died from S.I.D.S last month how can i deal wit this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-17 06:44:26 · 22 answers · asked by Proud Mommy 2 Cameron♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm sooooooo sorry bout your loss! i'm 14 and i kill my self if my baby boy left me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just think about the good times and remember your son is always wit you! he is your angel! i know u loved him more than life its self i'm a mom too! i know how it feels to love something sooooo much! just keep your head up! and pray! god is wit you!!!!!!!!!!!! its gonna get better!
2007-05-17 07:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Jazmynn♥ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My goodness sweetie. I apologize for your loss and you may want to try and seek into therapy. It may help you, but I can not promise anything. I am 7 1/2 months pregnant with a girl and I have no idea what I would do if I would loose her. You have to look at it as the baby's time to go and they were too great of a soul to go through this world. It is hard I am sure, loosing a child is horrible. Be strong and don't let other people cause you anymore stress than you already have. Therapy and support from everyone is the best I can tell you and good luck.
2007-05-17 13:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Meggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are support groups who have parents that have gone through the same thing. Believe it or not, being around people who understand what you are going through, helps. I'm surprised the hospital didn't give you information about such groups.
Also, see a therapist. You need to talk and get your feeling out. You have been through the WORSE possible thing that anyone could go through, every parents nightmare. You will NEVER truly get over it, but it WILL get easier.
Mourn! You have the right to mourn your son and don't let anyone tell you it's TIME to get over it or move on. No one can tell you how you should feel. I lost my first born 11 years ago....I STILL cry about it. But, when I am telling people how many children I have, I include her. Talk about your son. His memory is important.
My heart goes out to you, it really does. Just remember that your son is in a better place. Some children are just TOO GOOD for this world! You have a beautiful angel waiting for you up there. Take comfort in that. Just remember, in TIME, the pain will fade! I know that right now you feel like you are never going to be happy again, but you will. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2007-05-17 13:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you loss. I can't imagine what your going threw. I lost my 3rd child to a miscarrage just a few weeks ago, and that is hard enough. The advice I have for you is to not hold your emotions in. If you do they will come pouring out eventually and you wont know how to handle it. I'm not sure where you live, but I know alot of cities have support groups for these kinds of things. If your city doesn't I suggest finding a close friend in real life or the computer to lean on for awhile. I don't have the sites off hand, but I know there are alot of support groups online that you might find handy as well. My heart goes out to you. And the best thing to do is talk about it. If you don't you will come off your rocker someday.
2007-05-17 13:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont let yourself fall down remember there always is the chance of beccoming pregnant later. Yeah maybe life took something from you but you know think of all the other things that you have and most of all seek help and dont whatever you do dont lock yourself at home because the only thing your doing there is depressing yourself. Find help there are lots of people out there for you and I know it hurts i really do I lost my baby too and on top of that we just found my partner cant have kids anymore(medical issue ) so i basically waited all these years(4) to get over the lose of my baby and do things i wanted to do and know we cant and to make it any worst my sister in law just got pregnant but you know what ive learned life goes on and if god chooses a baby will come. Think of it as your baby being an angel and god needed someone good beside him, I know I do and it makes me smile to imagen.
good luck and take care
2007-05-17 13:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by mommylinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your baby.
You may need counceling to deal with this.
You should become active, maybe with a hobby, or volunteering at a animal shelter, church, or any where in your community. This should help you, as you will be busy & doing something positive for others.
Spend some time with your close friends or family, and use them as your support group. There are many SIDS support groups online, where you can chat with others affected by this. Here is one http://www.sidssupport.com/forum/
Prayer.
Hope you are coping better soon.
2007-05-17 13:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Candee Graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
group counciling, what county to you live in. I can research some groups for you if you tell us
Ask the city hall, or court house, for county supported counciling groups.
You MUST find a group of people for support. A single shrink is not the way you want to go. they only want your money. Groups work better for crisis dealings since you get to hear from a lot of different people and different Ideas. Ones persons Idea's might not agree with you own.
GROUP!!!
see, you already are making a step toward a group.
Your here right? so are all of us.
Some will have good answers that will connect to you, and other will seem very distant. You don't want to be in a room with that one distant person.
2007-05-17 13:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mercury 2010 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i had a miscarriage and the only person i felt i could talk to was the daddy. he helped me to feel better. but having it come out of you then it dies, it takes a lot more toll on a person. talk to someone that was in the same predicament. although it wont be the same, it will make you feel a little better and you can move on.
ps im really sorry about your loss. God Bless You and may he keep you under his eye during this time
2007-05-17 13:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by texas_tec_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart absolutely breaks for you. There can be no greater pain than what you're going through. It may sound trite, but time really is the best thing and if you have strong faith that can really help as well. One day you'll remember your baby with happy memories. You were blessed to have been a mom!
2007-05-17 13:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Coop 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about your loss! I know that right now it seems like life doesnt make sense, The only way to deal with it is by giving it time. Keep your friends and family close to you. Dont give up, keep your head up.
2007-05-17 13:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by cynthia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....I thought I felt bad because my girlfriend is aborting my baby against my wishes...you carried it for 9 months and it died...I'm terribly sorry and it will pass in time. It sucks bad I know but it's a matter of acceptance and that can be a hard pill to swallow sometimes. I promise things will get better...best of luck
2007-05-17 13:48:39 · answer #11 · answered by jeffwilliams1979 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋