She is attractive. She is thin and pretty. And she tries new things. I can have an orgasm if I pleasure myself. My biggest complaints are that she wants to keep the lights off and she waits until after 9 p.m. to getting into bed. Sometimes she starts talking about other things and this breaks my cosentration.
Is this really a big deal? We both have children from a previous marriage. So what does this matter?
2007-05-17 06:28:40 · 7 answers · asked by Sid 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You need to tell your wife that you 'have a problem' having orgasm during sex with her ... and ask her to 'help you' get over it. Men are 'visual' and need to 'see' the woman, and they are also very 'single minded' and don't like ANY distraction' during sex. TELL YOUR WIFE THAT, and ask her if she could PLEASE 'leave the lights on' and 'not talk' ... or even try 'doing it in the morning' ... and if you always make sure that SHE is satisfied, I'll bet that she'll be open to the changes that will make it easier to 'satisfy' the both of you.
2007-05-17 06:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is a pretty simple problem: Talk to her about it, tell her what YOU want! If she tries new things have her try to come to bed earlier & not to discuss any other issues besides sex with you and tell her you want to have some candles on because you think she is so sexy in candle light! After she is comfortable with that amount of light proceed with a little lamp then turn on the lights. Get her comfortable with it slowly. Tell her it turns you on so much to see her body in the light. She is insecure with her body like most women are even if we are perfect looking. When she takes her clothes off SHOW her how much your excited by it....literally! Let me know if it works....I will bet you it does!!
2007-05-17 13:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Nurse Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this problem is more wide spread than thought. Go to a urologist to make sure everything is ok physically. If so, see a sex specialist.
2007-05-17 15:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Solo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
physical and mental stress can be a big factor,try to figure out what's bothering you a lot and find some answer with it.do some exercise and work-out to help boost your physical energy ,it also helps to clear out your mind,to be more focus....
2007-05-17 13:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by CARL76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me give it a go and see if I can make you.. That way we'll see if you're just broken with women.
2007-05-17 13:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by kf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she could give try new techniques.
2007-05-17 13:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share your fantasy's with her, don't be afraid to do that.
2007-05-18 21:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by ericni91@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋