Married Women: Do you ever think about bringing a third person into the bedroom?

Question

I know most married couples would never do this, but it seems like most men at least think about this....But do you women ever think about it? If so, in what ways?

Answer 1

I have. But if I ever actually did that it would have to be with a stranger because to do that with someone I know would just be weird! I'm open to having either man or woman join us but of course my husband would never want a man!

Answer 2

Statistics are meaningless if you don't know where they come from or how they are collected. You can put any set of numbers together to make any point that you want. The word "poor" is subject to interpretation. For example, if we say that everyone who makes less than $200,000 a year is "poor", then all of your percentages above will be even higher! So forget statistics. Our country is built on the illusion that "all men are created equal". Except in the eyes of our Creator, we all know that we all are not equal. The dirty secret is that some of us are better-looking than others, some are smarter, some are stronger, some are more dastardly, some are more determined, some are born richer, some are greedier, some grew up in better neighborhoods, some are just plain luckier, etc. So our chances of success are not equal. Period. There is actually nothing wrong with that, that's just the laws of nature. What distinguishes us from the rest of the natural world (except for dogs, perhaps) is our ability to sympathize with those who are less fortunate than us. If we lived in a jungle, we would abide by the laws of the jungle, and the weakest among us would be left to their own fate and naturally become wolf-bait. The whole point of belonging to a society is so we don't have to live by the laws of the jungle. So yes, there is a fundamenntal need to help the "poor", one way or another. All you have to do is support those politicians that agree with your definitions of "poor" and how to help them. Just remember that inconsistency in results is built-in, because again, we are NOT equal, despite propaganda to the contrary. In other words, it is NOT true that everyone who works hard can become successful doctors, or lawyers, professors, journalists etc. This doesn't mean that we failed as a society, or that there is something wrong with poor people (even though there may be something wrong with SOME people). It simply means that God, let alone men, has not yet found a way to make all of us equally gifted. So as a society, we simply have to account for that. One way or another. It's both a cost and a benefit of belonging to a civilized society.

Answer 3

NO. Think of the higher risks which outweigh the so called "benefits." Contracting a nasty std or worst. Real women love and respect their husbands and aren't all kinks. They value the one-on-one romantic relationship and cherish whats between two people. If i were to do a threesome I'd live out those fantasies before marriage. Most women view marriage as a sacred thing and don't desire to share what should be b/w two lovers with other people.

Answer 4

Some women even promise it as a "maybe when I trust enough" or "after we're married a year or two we can talk about it" or something, but with them it never happens.... it's just another nail in the dating honesty coffin The honest answer would be "we can only ever fantasise, but I don't want to outright say no to ever making it reality because you might leave"... that way it's your fault when you realise the marriage doesn't turn out to be what you were sold.

Answer 5

Most people will never admit they THINK about it, but it is a sexual fantasy based on there being more then one pleasure spot on the body & what it would feel like to have them all taken care of at once.

The key word in that phrase is fantasy - some will live it out & if they can live with the emotional aspect of it all - good for them. For most a fantasy stays that way in our heads so that when we are with the person of our choice - it hightens an experience without the imooral ramifications.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to say this,but as I always say,men think with their penis before they think with their heart and mind.Why do men always have to be so pervertive,Isn't love the most important thing??How could you love someone while you sexually desire another women?? I just answered a guy that thinks that men always take the heat about being unfaithful,and this is why.Most women think about feelings and and are sentimental,but all men could think about is,how many times they have sex on a day or how to bang a chick.I'm so tired of this.

Answer 7

No. if I need to bring in a third person then that means something is not right. I would work on correcting the problem.

Answer 8

No matter how good the experience may be it will cause problems in the long run. He will want to do it all the time. You may start to have insecurities about yourself. He may feel like he can cheat on you behind your back because you were the one that opened that door in the first place.

Answer 9

Quite happy to join a couple for a bit fun (I'm single)but I know I couldnt share the one I loved with anyone else if I was married.

Answer 10

I don't. Most guys who think about it fantasize two WOMEN, and that's just thinking with the brain in the tiny head, not the one on their shoulders. Women who do consider the possibility usually envision two MEN. Men find this less desirable because its too much competition for their egos.

Answer 11

well for a start

do you want the 3rd person to be a women or a man?

if a women, how would u feel if your wife wanted another man in the bedroom?

and 2nd how would u feel afterwards would this effect your relationship i know it would affect my marriage big time

all the trust would be gone!
and you might even feel diry and bad afterwards.

theres are alot of things u can do just the two of you

get your wife some sexy underwear try some differnt postions

and thats IF YOUR WIFE WANTS TO! dont force her!