I would really like a woman's opinion on what is going on in her head. What I am missing in our relationship. Should I be worried about loosing her?
2007-05-17 05:23:35 · 34 answers · asked by Willie J 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may just want to spice things up, before you actually do anything I would sit down and have a real discussion with your wife to find the answers to your questions.
2007-05-17 05:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by ***ME*** 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should be asking her these questions. However, maybe she is looking to change things up, try new experiences, how long have you been married? Although not many are willing to admit this, threesomes between married couples is becoming a lot more popular and accepted. What you have to do is talk talk talk and talk some more before you do anything. You both have to be on the same page and know where you stand in your relationship together before going through with something like this. It can be amazing and wonderful and bring the two of you closer, but it can be so damaging too. Thats why I say talk about it first. If you decide to do it, know that your wife does not love you less, in fact she may love you more for sharing this with her. And who knows, maybe next time you can bring another woman into the bedroom and see where that goes.
If you are looking for more information do a search for locals swingers sites or polyamory or alternative lifestyles. These sites are full of testimonials and information that you can both look at together and talk about your fantasies and what you would like.
Good luck to you!
2007-05-17 05:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe it's just a fantasy of hers. I'm wondering if she's not sexually fulfilled though. Talk to her about your relationship in and out of the bedroom (don't bring up this threesome thing). If it is just a sex problem, suggest different things you two could try. Remind her that brining anothe person into the bedroom is just begging for trouble and any relationship problems can only be solved within that relationship.
Good luck ^_^
2007-05-17 05:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by feenixsunshine 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
often times married couples look to spice things up and while the "idea" of a threesome is often enugh to get things going. do yuo talk about it now when y'all are having sex? if so does she get turned on and do you? fantasies are great to have and everyone has them, thing is most often they should remain just that a fantasy.
there is a fine line between real life and fantasy. sit down in a non sexual way and talk about this with her.list all the pros and cons and bring up every situation that could arise( no pun) visit a swingers club where things are controlled and you have the option of backing out. once that line is crossed it may be too late if you dont look at the big picture VS. steamy talk in the bedroom
2007-05-17 05:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by medic_30852 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd start praying. Sounds like either both or your wife do not have any bibical basis in your marriage. If you're a man of God then start praying for her and by all means make it clear that this is against God's Word. Also get her talking to her...don't demean her, but ask her why she wants this. Ask, ask, ask. Evidently she either has been led astray by something she's been told, read, seen, or curiosity is creeping up and she's a prime target for corruption. In any case, both of you need to get on the same page...in the Bible, loving and respecting your spouse solves a lot of the "sexual problems" that people think they have in their marriage. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NIV): "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters, nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God."
2007-05-17 05:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by huskergo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well obviously she feels bored by the sex lief and want some adventure. Go to a sex therapist, they can help you be more adventurus with out resorting to bringing in a third party. Tell her you are not comfortable, and your willing to try different things, via sex toys but no extra bodys in your bed!! If you are not willing to try sex toys then leave the marraige, because maybe your not suited for each other. Good luck
2007-05-17 05:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm pretty sure marriage is a union of a man and a woman, not a MMF or MFF or MMMMMMMMMFFFFFFFFF.
At least that's what our vows consisted of, something many of us take seriously.
2007-05-17 05:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you're casually seeing someone and they mention that its pretty safe but when you have an invested relationship such as marriage when you love someone i dont think its a very good idea but you should talk to her about her fantasies and try to fulfill them and she should do the same for you and if those fantasies are out of the question then try to comnpensate by doing something similar that you both are ok with. communication is the key and its good that your wife expresses herself and her wants openly to you. good luck with whatever you decide :)
2007-05-17 05:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, there is something going on. she may want to spice up the bedroom life, but I would ask her, "am I not satisfying you"
believe me, adding another guy in the equation 99% of the time will mess things up. plus there are all those lovely diseases out there. just tell her no, and get a book out and learn some new tricks.
2007-05-17 05:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bailey B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They actually do interviews with swingers...eventually someone gets hurt. If you aren't in to this kind of thing, then refuse. If she is not satisfied with just you in her bed... My suggestion is to attempt to try new things in bed with just the two of ya. I mean, if all you are doing is the same thing each time you have sex...yeah it could get boring. Especially, if she isn't having an orgasm.
2007-05-17 05:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by mich 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋