he is married and i hve to wait 5 more years for him to marry of 2 of his children and then he said he will be with me . we have one child already.
2007-05-17 05:23:24 · 30 answers · asked by pink_white_2005uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
eeeh? marry off his children???
2007-05-17 05:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never gonna happen, he is just leading you on the same way he has all this time, you will be waiting for him 5 years from now while he continues to make up more lies to keep you hanging on, he is never gonna leave his wife, all you are is a mistress who has his child, if he really loved you then he wouldnt be making you wait all those years, the best thing you can do is go on with your life and file for child support so your child will be taken care of....
2007-05-19 20:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted u then no matter what ...he would be with u now. Dont spend 5 years hanging for this guy and hoping it will actually happen bcos chances r it wont. Its also a lack of respect for u although u r wrong to be involved with him anyway and may end up getting very hurt as well as his poor wife...have u thought of what this will do to her when she finds out? bcos it is only a matter of time love. My suggestion to u is to end the situation and start to move forward in ur life...if u guys r really mean to be together then in the future it may happen but its a crap situation and u have a child u need to think of.
2007-05-18 05:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by scattydiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is more valuable than money because it cannot be replaced. You have made a bad decision already by having a child with a married man.
Do not waste more time with him because he will NOT leave his wife and he will NOT marry you either. Why should he? He has the best of both worlds now...a wife and a home, and you- the mistress.
You have to wake up and take control of your life.
Think about yourself and your kid now. If you continue to wait for him, you will be even sorrier than you are now...
Respect yourself before you expect others to respect you.
2007-05-17 06:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youa re in big dodo... thats a real harsh situation i wouldnt really be able to tell you exactly because you dont say much i mean how long you been with im was he married when you met and is he responsible for the child you have together?
Dont ony think about yourself think about if he can be with you always cuz he is with his other wife you gonna raise a chid by himself and what you going to tell him in the future that his daddy was with his other wife and had to see him only when he wasnt with his wife.. women could do way better than that because if he dont leave her now he reallly think he leave her 5 years from now...and about his other kids he cant wait to m,ary off his 2 other kids he could still see them all that time ...and he gotta be honest with his wife and tell him he had a kid out of the family ... well i dont know cuz i dont know the situation very much but i sure wish you luck
2007-05-17 05:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by chulimami18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take your kid with you, let him pay child support and let the 5 years pass, then make a decision.
If he's married, there's nothing you can do until he's not, would you want to live nearby him for 5 years even if you love him?
2007-05-17 05:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive"
A bit of a nightmare I would say for you and your wee one. I think you need to get things sorted with this guy before too long otherwise your own child is going to suffer.
This man is just being a coward you must realise that he wants the best of both worlds.
Good luck to you and I do not envy you your dilema.
I guess that you did not want to hear all of this but I really think and I can tell you it is time for you to let go.
It will be hard but think how much harder it will be when you wee one starts calling him Daddy. You will need both financial and emotional support from someone.
2007-05-17 05:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Boudicca 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I go with the suggestion of someone here who has answered your question, i.e. to concentrate in bringing up your little daughter. She has a future and a larger part of its success depends on how you bring her up. It's your responsibility.
Your married lover has more responsibility towards his present family. Give him peace of mind by staying away from him. This is hard but you'll make it through strong will and right conduct.
It was a mistake to have a child with him while he is already married to someone else but try to accept your own mistake and forgive him and yourself. I wish you could begin life on your own with your little daughter.
2007-05-17 05:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Binnus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "What goes around comes around"??? You can justify messing around and having a child with someone elses husband all you like, but you obviously have no scrupals and don't ever deserve to have someone be loyal and faithful to you.. As for him.. I hope the thing that hangs below drops off and get's fed to someones dog!!!
I think you need a serious reality check!!!!
2007-05-17 20:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Gavin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but if you wait for 5 years he will probably consider you too old and look for someone younger anyway. The guy is a moron and waiting for him makes you look the same.
2007-05-17 05:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
think this one through. he will be with you when his children are married off. you have one child together. what do you think is going to happen while your child is waiting to be married offf? who is he going to be putting on hold then? take your child and decide on a better life. teach your child to value truth, honesty, and self worth.
2007-05-17 05:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋