HELP! sexually frustrated and need advice...?

Question

I need to spice up my sexual life. My boyfriend of 4 years claims that we need to try new things but he doesn't initiate anything! I need tips...its starting to get boring...I want to try new interesting things! I'm an Aries so I like to be adventourous and I'm spontaneous myself. Please throw your tips at me...I'm down with toys, lotions, different positions, etc. I'll listen to all tips (but only serious ones...no childish people please)

Answer 1

Maybe instead of looking for tips on new positions, you should be taking a look at the relationship. Take a step back and just take a look. Why does he think things are boring? If things are boring, why isn't he the one looking for ways to spice things up? Why are you the only one doing all the work when there are two adults in this relationship?
Just a few questions that I thought should be answered before you went any further in the search. Good luck to you and I do hope everything works out if this is what you want.

Answer 2

depending on what you have tried before here are a million things out there. How about some light (or even heavy) bondage, tying him to the bed and such. What i enjoying doing, and having done to me :) is I will restrain my guys hands and feet to the bed (if you have posts at the ends of the bed great, makes it easy, if not, get rope that is long enough to go under the mattress and come out each side to use as restraints, handcuffs work too) then I will blindfold him and put on his ipod and turn it up. Then I will take a variety of things, feathers, silk panties, rough items, candles, an old toothbrush etc... and run them all over his body and have my wicked way. the best part of this is you are in total control, because of the sensory deprivation he will not know what is coming next and the anticipation is excruciating and delightful! The sensory dep thing can work for a lot of different scenarios too, its only limited by your imagination.
Another thing you can try is pretending you are a different person (or people) and try role playing, pick each other up at a bar, be wicked and naughty, its all the fun and excitement of starting a new relationship (or no strings attacked sex) without actually having to meet someone new.
If you are looking for more tamer ideas try picking up the book 101 Nights of Great Sex by Laura Corn, its got ideas for BOTH of you!
Good luck in your quest!

Answer 3

One fun thing is to do it in the pool after you've been laying out in the sun for awhile and your skin is really hot.
Another great time is to do it in the shower. It feels really good to soap up your guy (the soap makes your hands glide smoothly over his skin and it feels so good). Be careful not to slip in the shower.
Another thing you can do is make a fantasy and live it out - Like you two casually meet at a restaurant (and actually go to one and pretend you don't know each other). You have on a really short skirt (and no panties) and you two are sat together. You hit it off and he asks you for drinks afterwards and it goes from there.
Or your car breaks down and he's the mechanic the shop sends to fix it on the side of the road and he looks so good in his uniform with a touch of grease on his cheek, and his takes you right there in your back seat.
Use your imagination. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 4

Maybe watching pornographic movies while you have sex will spice things up,it works for me really well,because the level of wanting to have sex will be very high when you watch pornographic movies.I don't know about toys cause it never calls my attention,but I know that for some people they do work.Another important thing is to change to various positions,never stay with the same positions,cause it will get boring.Trying various of new positions will spice things up,and changing places to have sex too.You should buy books too,they give you tips on the positions you could try,sometimes people don't know about every position,so maybe you could learn about new positions and it might get fun,theres a book call kamasutra maybe it could help you out,and theres dvds too.Hope this helps you out!!

Answer 5

A big thing that I have discovered is that trying different locations and places help., Different clothes, role playing, watching things on DVD, magazines, self gratification while the spouse or partner watch, and at the most extreme for some people adding another person whether male or female (for some people this is extreme, but for some not) It's all worth talking about...Good Luck!

Answer 6

well what you could do is suggest that you guys sleep nekkid "to cuddle" and tell him to lay in bed and wait you have to run out to the car for something or to the store for something. Stay away long enough so he falls asleep and start sucking his cock and when he gets up push him down and tell him no and nibble his balls a little. when you are tired of this climb on top sit "side saddle" or to where your side is facing him. This is a different pleasure and most enjoyable for both. Another thing is talk to him all day and tell him things that you are going to do to him when he gets home and insist that he take off his clothes the second he walks in the door you already be nekkid and do all the things that you told him to do.

Answer 7

I know I'm going way out there with this suggestion, but it really only has to do with one thing: love. The more you grow to love somebody instead of just seeing them as a means to satisfy a sexual urge, it actually starts getting better.

My wife and I of more than 10 years now keep having better and better sex, and not because we keep re-inventing it. Don't get me wrong... it's not all "missionary position" sex, but we really haven't invented any great new ideas... we just keep falling more and more in love with each other. When that happens, we find that our real experience is heightened by the fact that we enjoy the *other* person's climax more than our own. When I see my wife really enjoying it, it turns me on even more to have an even greater climax.

I know, this is quite revolutionary, in terms of the superficial suggestion of renting porn movies that you'll get, but it's really worked for us.

Answer 8

How about something a little public. The possiblity of getting caught is a good way to spice things up.

You could always buy a strap-on and turn the tables on him

What about getting a kiddie pool...filling it with baby oil...then play a little slip n slide.

Pretend that he is George Bush and you're America and let him screw you for nearly 8 years

Answer 9

Change of environment helps , same old bedroom gets boring find a couple hotels , i know in NJ its called FeathernestInn or Doves Inn , these places have fantasy rooms
Buy crotchless underwear etc...

Answer 10

You need to sit down with your boyfriend and find out what he means by "we need to try new things" what things? Work together on it, turn it into a project and have fun with it. lol.