i mean i like him and respect his opinion sometimes but he is always telling me what to do.
2007-05-17 05:06:59 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stick a dildo in his mouth, that should shut him up.
2007-05-17 05:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Alisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult now. You should not be told what to do by anyone.
If he is just suggesting something and not telling you to do something. Then I guess that is not bad. But if he expects you to do what he says and right that minute. Well - There is a problem then.
Maybe he likes you more than just his gf's sister. It is very common to have either the boy or girl develop feelings for his or her partners family members. Especially if they are around them a lot.
If you are uncomfortable with him telling you what to do. Then let him know you don't mind him suggesting alternative ways about things but that you will decide what you will do. If that does not stop. Then tell your sister how you feel about the situation.
It sounds like he has a little crush on you. Just watch out.
2007-05-17 05:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok just simply tell him that he is no way an authority figure to you and you'd like if he could stop, say you respect his advice and that is all you want from him. If it continues talk to your sister if that doesn't help then ask your parents to talk to your sister.... all you can do is try .
2007-05-17 05:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit him in the mouth! I bet he will shut up then!
No, don't do that. Talk things over with your sis. Address it with her. this way she won't feel you're being rude and are disrespecting her relationship.
Let her know...I feel disrespected when----, your bf tells me what to do. I am not his gf, and although you are, I feel he should not talk to you in the same way either. I wanted to let you know about how I perceive his actions, because if it continues to exist, I will have to excuse myself from his company. I would hate to neglect our relationship, but I don't want to damage what you have going on with him. I feel better if he and I could come to different terms other than the "bossy-order giver" situation that we presently have going on, but I wanted to come to you first to seek your suggestions on the matter.
If you have a good relationship with your sister, I don't see why she wouldn't understand your concerns and try to address them with her b/f.
If all else fails, try moving your self out of the situation physically or by replying to him that "I don't appreciate you giving orders, and I am asking you to stop. If you would like me to do something, you may ask. If I am in agreement, I will happily oblige you. If I'm not, then I'm not going to do anything."
Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-05-17 05:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by fsuforlife21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just said...Tell him you respect his opinions, but that you also have a mind of your own. Tell him you do respect him, and understand, but you can think for yourself too.
2007-05-17 05:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by kay kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that when you want his opinion you'll ask for it otherwise say you're not interested in hearing what he has to say, besides you have parents to tell you what to do.
It could be that he is trying to look out for you though in which case just listen to whatever he has to say and thank him for his opinion/view. Don't get all out of wack if he's just trying to be protective.
Have a nice chat with your sis about it.
2007-05-17 05:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by JD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time that he does that, stop everything and say "excuse me, but why are you telling me what to do? Do you recall me asking for advice? Do I tell you what to do without your asking for advice? This is your learning opportunity to realize this negative trait."
Men are stupid and must be trained to realize their stupidity. Some men are just controlling and you should be very aware of that as well.
2007-05-17 05:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, he is your sisters b/f, not your parent. Thank him for his advice, but do what you think is right. Let him know if you want his opinion, you will ask for it.
2007-05-17 05:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something to your sister first. Tell her It is starting to wear on you, and quiet frankly sucks.
If he keeps it up or says something to you about it, be cool and confident; mostly brief, if you start explaining yourself people can interpret it as you are justifying and questioning yourself, and they seem to think they can negotiate it and they are right back to it.
Personally I would be really calm, and say " you know it's not cool, you are telling me what to do,..... and it really sucks. Then walk away.
If he tries to say something after that, let him know it's not open for discussion, then walk away.
If he tries after that, let him know he's acting controlling, and that he shoud worry about himself and not you, and remind him he's dating your sister and not you. If you were dating him, he'd be gone already.
2007-05-17 05:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by wfoxdallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either ignore him, or thank him for his input then do whatever you think appropriate.
Perhaps you should speak to your sister about this. Her boyfriend shouldn't be telling you what to do, unless you ask his advice or opinion.
2007-05-17 05:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him if I wanted his opinion I would ask him to fill out the necessary forms and file it in the circular file!
2007-05-17 16:08:46 · answer #11 · answered by purplejerryjeri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋