There was a small fight among us. Now she says she doesnt want to live with me. I dont know whether she is threatening me or she is seriuos. I have a kid too. What should i do now?
2007-05-17 04:42:24 · 22 answers · asked by kalloo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is with her parents now (taken my son too). I spoke to her once for a short time and planned for a holiday so that i get enough time to make her understand. She agreed for that. next she said NO. she is very much depended on advices give to her by my inlaws. and they think that this is right time for my wife to be dominant for whole life. and she is following the same. she knows that i ll not take any rash decision because of my child. But presently i lost peace in mind. and i m afraid that i may take some worng decision which ll cause losing my son too.
According to indian law the child below 13 years has to live with her mother (my son is only 1 year and 9 months old).
Cause of the problem:
Around 1 and half months back we fought when my son fell on floor and i shouted her. next day she left home without informing me.
2007-05-17 05:21:21 · update #1
She's your wife, make her obey you. JK! looks like its time for some counseling
2007-05-17 04:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to speak to her, if not for you sake but for your childs. Talk over the fight and discuss if your feelings for each other have changed.
She might be serious but as you haven't said how bad the fight was she could just be making idle threats.
Drop your kid of at friends/parents and sit down together without distractions and talk it through before things go to far.
2007-05-17 04:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tbone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your marriage is in physical abuse terms, I would suggest that you and your wife go to a marriage counselor they are very helpful and maybe if you come to her with this idea and tell her that you want to make things work and that you promise to follow the counselors advice.. she might give you a second try.. good luck. I hope everything turns out well for you and your family.
2007-05-17 08:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your wife suddenly tells you she wants to live elsewhere, this has been brewing for a while... it's not something she just decided on the spur of the moment. your argument apparently gave her the opportunity to tell you what she wants.
and i'm really sorry to hear things are going this way for you.
the best you can do is ask your wife about her feelings, and why she's come to this decision. she will answer you if she wants...
meanwhile, take care of YOU and your child. i hope things work out.
2007-05-17 05:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your child your priority. Small fights generally do not cause people to consider living apart. Perhaps the fight was more serious than you thought. Try to talk to her; reason with her; and by all means, DO NOT fight in front of your child.
2007-05-17 04:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by barbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only thing to do is wait
its a threat though she didn’t get her way and wants you to be up set and you are
if she threatens you over small things then don’t worry if it was over buying something or something not to do with you marriage or child then don’t worry if she is being petting she needs to grow up
she got you upset and by your being upset she has you wrapped around her fingers
Marriage is an agreement through better or worst, or were you the only one who actually pledged that part ?
2007-05-17 04:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and speak to your wife. Remember if you want it to work out don't always insist on being right sometimes you have to let yourself be wronged to keep the peace. Best wishes
2007-05-17 04:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to radio shack and buy a telephone recording device. It's cheap and easy to set up. Hook it up to a tape recorder and all your questions will soon be answered. That's what I did. The first tape told me all I needed to know. She was having an affair. This explained her hostile attitude towards me.
2007-05-17 05:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ronin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with her , if she really wants out get a lawyer and find out your rights so that you can keep your child in your life
2007-05-17 04:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by shenika1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she is serious. If she is then get a lawyer. Make sure you stay in your kids life and pay child support.
2007-05-17 04:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she deosn't want to live with you???? is she moving out???
small fight ..if it is small then I am sure it can be worked out even a big one..make dinner for her or take her out to dinner alone and talk with her, its important..did you cheat on her because IF you did..then she won't trust you for a long time..anyway talk it helps most the time works
2007-05-17 04:46:23 · answer #11 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋