For the past 3 months my hubby has been working very late and has no time to spend with me...................?

Question

Mon-Sat. he works from 5am to 10pm and he sleeps all day on Sunday.(I work too) Heres the problem I am getting so bored and lonely that its not funny any more. we have sex if luck once every 2 weeks.We haven't even gone out to a movie or race in over a year. We have been married for 13yrs and have no kids. But anyways this local police officer wants me to be his side dish. I haven't done it yet, but here latey this cop is all I can think about. (what it would be like to be with him in that way) I do not want to lose my hubby but I am not sure what to do.

I had offered to get another pt. time job so he would not work so late but he told me no!!

Answer 1

Stay away from this cop. As for the movies and races go by yourself or a female friend to go with you not many people would turn down a free movie\race but do not throw away a 13yr. marriage just because you are lonely and bored

Answer 2

It sounds like your husband is just trying to be a good husband by working to provide for his wife. However, he could also be having a fling on the side. It all depends on your man. My husband is a workaholic and I know he's doing it for me and the kids and I would NEVER cheat on him just because I'm bored and lonely. My advice........don't have an affair just because your husband is working too much. That's really not fair at all. How would you like it? Also, find out why your husband is working so much. Is it because he's having an affair and pretending to be working so you won't catch on? Or, is it because you have bills that need to be paid and he's trying to take care of his family? If it's the second, then be supportive and see if you can work out a way to spend more time together. Tell him you miss him and want to spend more time with him. See if you can somehow change your work schedules to get more time together. Also, it's only been 3 months? Maybe this is just a temporary arrangement. Get the details and go from there. Don't just have an affair and throw away 13 yrs of marriage because you're bored.

Answer 3

If you love your husband, don't do it. You'll regret it the rest of your life. It may sound tempting and this cop must be really handsome and great, but you'll mess up your marriage. Especially not in the work place, everyone at work may find out about it, you'll need to quit your job and your marriage may be over before you know it. You'll have a real mess on your hands. My suggestion is to communicate with your husband. Tell him how you feel, that you feel lonely and would like to spend more time with him. That your marriage is in trouble. Or you wouldn't be looking for love elsewhere.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

This cop is using your bored and lonely lack of attention and affection against you. He is preying on your weakness. He does not care that your marriage would be wrecked, he does not care about you, he just cares about pumping his load into you and then not having to worry about anything else. Talk to your husband, tell him how lonely you are, how it is effecting you and perhaps between the two of you, you can find some kind of solution to spend more time together before you make a bad decision that you can not undo.

Answer 5

dont be anybody's side dish, you might hate yourself. where are you when your hubby needs you? marriage is not about fun alone you know? get involved with this job of his ask him questions about his day and work etc. if you are too demanding he might run so try and start playing the wifely role which is often the reality we all need to face as soon as the honeymoon is over. he might be stressed at work, maybe under pressure from his boss, so he works late to impress his boss, the last thing he would need is a demanding wife who cannot read the writing on the wall..

Answer 6

Instead of thinking on that cop , why dont you think about your husband busting his *** to put you guys in a better financial position? Its funny that I NEED, I NEED, I NEED! I wonder if your husband just loves working those long hours! I read alot of answers to some of these questions...that make no sense.
You offered to get a PT job.? For what so you can complain about not spending anytime because you have to work 2 jobs? That you are tired....And alot of females on Yahoo answers give Crap to the MEN!!!

Answer 7

Try talking to him or counseling. Coming from parents who had the exact same thing going on. I supported my Mom on getting a divorce then she cheated the whole family turned against her. Even though we all knew she needed more attention from my dad there were other ways of handling it. It is terrible either get a divorce or try to work it out. You would be putting yourself and your husband at risk for STD's if you decide to be this guys "side dish".

Answer 8

WTF? His job sounds like a killer!!! 5 am to 10 pm is a 17 hour day. What exactly does he do? Could he possibly cut back or get into a different job that is just 12 hours a day or so? As for the cop; make sure the handcuffs aren't too tight.

Answer 9

You need to take a step back and get off the selfish train, you married him for better or worse, sickness and health till death do you part! I just lost my husband in Feb. we would have been married 6 years, and I'm only 24!!! What I would give to have that man back, you'd never know, and to sit here and read what you're wanting to do to your spouse? You're wrong!

Answer 10

what does your husband do for a living? if he's paid hourly, you should notice a big difference in your finances. but either way, it's very strange behavior. at least 2:1 he's seeing someone.

but that's not what you wanted, is it? you want permission to have sex with that cop. ok, you've got it. te absolvo, filia mea. and don't get pregnant!